Thanksgiving Stand Off w/ Fiancé. HELP!

posted 7 months ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
2409 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Can you just travel on Friday & see everyone then? 

Post # 3
551 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would go visit my family but my husband would never try to guilt me out of it.

Post # 4
2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

How far of a drive is it? 

Post # 5
827 posts
Busy bee

I know it can be hard to be alone on the holidays, but your SO should understand why this is important to you. Can the two of you go to your family’s on Wednesday evening and stay for a bit on Thursday before returning home?  Or perhaps could you and SO celebrate Thanksgiving on Wednesday evening and you head to your family’s later? 


Post # 6
449 posts
Helper bee

Do your own Thanksgiving Thursday then go to your family’s Friday. He cant really be missing you if he is at work and is ge really just expecting you to sit there?

Post # 7
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas

Maybe I’m the weird one, but I’m with the hubby on this one. I think it’s nicer to be with my SO than with extended family (knowing he’ll not be there). 

Personally, I would stay home and do the holiday with my hubby, even if he had to work. I think it sounds important to him that they share the holiday together, as their own unit. He may be worried that all holidays will be like the prior Christmas where he was left alone. 

The only thing that would change my mind would be how far away my extended family was. If my hubby was working during the day, and my extended family was close by, I would spend some time during the day with my family, but be home for my hubby in the evening with a nice holiday meal for us. That way you could do both, and not leave anyone out. 


Post # 8
3246 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Go to Thanksgiving with your mom. He should be more understanding of the situation, especially since he’ll be working anyway and you’ll be spending Christmas together. Not every holiday will be spent together. 

Post # 13
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I’d go, but as a PP said, my husband would understand as I would if reversed. 

Not sure if you’re planning on kids one day, but our families live in different cities, so compromise esp when it’s the holidays and grandkids are involved is always necessary. I would stick to my guns and support my Mom.

Your hubby will be working anyways. I think he’s being a bit needy, asking you to stay. 


Post # 14
386 posts
Helper bee

A big no from me to sit around all day while your SO is at work.

It means A LOT to your mom and unless you two aren’t close at all, then surely you want to be there to comfort her and make it a great day, even in the face of loss?

I get your SO doesn’t want to be on his own, but…. does he not have a family? friends? Will he honestly be sat in a dark house with a hungry stomach if you go see your family?

In my opinion, no matter how much I love my Darling Husband, I would NEVER skip thanksgiving with my mom for Darling Husband unless he were ill/in the hospital. I hope I’m married to him my whole life but my mom always comes first (even if she’s a pain sometimes lol).


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