Post # 1
I am perplexed at the moment. Do I invite my coworkers or not?
I started in my new job late last year, and work in a team of 15 people, plus 2 bosses. I had not thought to include any co workers on the guest list because of these three reasons.
- I have not really socialised with anyone outside of work
- Everyone wouldn’t be able to come, we are a 24/7 centre and as such at least 3 people are always on shift.
- I am only having a small 50 person wedding
BUT – when I came into work the other day one of the guys asked me if there was going to be a work table, and told me that they are all waiting on their invites. I THINK he was joking…..maybe.
But it got me thinking….should I be extending that invite? I want to be closer to these people and desperatly want to feel like part of the team. And I have felt like recently people are warming to me, and I have become more part of the conversations. Its like that here, the guys who have been here forever take their time to sus you out and decide if you are team material or not.
Most of them I doubt would come, as I live 2 hours North from where I work. And some of them live up to 2 hours away South.
But should I be extending that invite anyway?
Post # 3
I only like a few of the people I work with and want to invite them, so I feel like if I invite one or two, then I have to invite all of them and just hope they don’t show up.
Post # 4
I just started my job three months ago. As much as I would like some of my coworkers there I just cannot afford to invite all of them (I am a nurse). I don’t think you should feel like you have to.
Post # 5
You also have to think, it is not just 17 people. It is 17 people and their +1’s.
Post # 6
I did not invite anybody from my current job. But I did from my previous job but that is only b/c it was
1. very small (7 people)
2. I am friends with 5 of them and friendly with the other 2.
If I was not friends with them I would never have invited them!!! You are having a small wedding, dont worry about it. If somebody mentions it just tell them you are having a small wedding family and close friends, sorry
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I wouldn’t- you gave 3 VERY good reasons not to- esp #1 & 3. Do you think you’ll keep in touch with any of these people if you left? Would you invite any of them to holiday party at your house? If no, then definitely don’t invite.
Post # 8
No way would i invite 17 coworkers to an otherwise 50-person wedding guest list. That is way too off-kilter in my opinion.
Post # 9
Debating on the same issue *sigh*.
Post # 10
I’m going against the grain a bit here, but if you want to invite them (and by “them”, I mean ALL of them; with such a small group, you can’t play favorites) and you have room in your budget for them and their +1’s, then by all means, invite them. Don’t worry about who will be able to come or not; that’s their problem.
If you can accomodate them (buget, venue, etc) and you want to share this momentus occasion with them, go for it. Good luck!
Note: My fiance and I have decided to not invite any co-workers to our small wedding (50 people total). It was a difficult decision, but our budget just can’t accomodate an extra 26 people. And I can’t invite just a few of the people I’m closer to in my office because that would be tacky. We’re inviting just family members and a few close friends.
Post # 11
I can’t really stand the people at my job….it’s just a bunch of catty women. they are nice when they want to be, but most of the time they are just annoying. Anyways, I invited my boss but not my coworkers. They ask me about the wedding all the time and I just answer their questions and say its a family affair, we couldnt invite many people.
Post # 12
If its a small wedding like you say, keep it intimate. Then bring a photo book to work after. Good luck!
Post # 13
Thanks for your advice ladies. You have given me something to think about.
I had entertained the idea of inviting them, but without +1s. We are being really strict on the +1s. And I thought if I did invite them I would so so without an extra guest seeing I have never met their partners. Half don’t have partners anyway. And they would all know each other.
But I think I will probably stick with the small wedding excuse. Because it is, and I am actually hoping to bring the guest list down not up. Also, I have not invited any Aunts or Uncles, so that is another good reason to not invite co workers.
Post # 14
If they’re married then you cannot invite them without their spouses.
Also, to be clear, my response above was in the context of the size of your wedding. I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing to invite coworkers, but given the size of your event it would really distort the vibe in my opinion.
Post # 15
If you have a small wedding, then no.
If we have room in our guest list (we’re doing a two-tiered RSVP date aka A list (out-of-towners reply earlier) and B list (in-towners reply later), we’ll have a table for my co-workers (no plus 1, as they all know each other).