(Closed) That age old Question – Do I invite my coworkers?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you think I should invite them anyway?
    Yep : (5 votes)
    20 %
    Nah : (18 votes)
    72 %
    Meh, doesn't matter either way : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I only like a few of the people I work with and want to invite them, so I feel like if I invite one or two, then I have to invite all of them and just hope they don’t show up.

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I just started my job three months ago. As much as I would like some of my coworkers there I just cannot afford to invite all of them (I am a nurse). I don’t think you should feel like you have to.

    Post # 5
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    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    You also have to think, it is not just 17 people. It is 17 people and their +1’s.

    Post # 6
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    1471 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I did not invite anybody from my current job.  But I did from my previous job but that is only b/c it was

    1. very small (7 people)

    2. I am friends with 5 of them and friendly with the other 2. 

    If I was not friends with them I would never have invited them!!! You are having a small wedding, dont worry about it.  If somebody mentions it just tell them you are having a small wedding family and close friends, sorry

    Post # 7
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    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I wouldn’t- you gave 3 VERY good reasons not to- esp #1 & 3. Do you think you’ll keep in touch with any of these people if you left? Would you invite any of them to holiday party at your house? If no, then definitely don’t invite.

    Post # 8
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    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    No way would i invite 17 coworkers to an otherwise 50-person wedding guest list.  That is way too off-kilter in my opinion.

    Post # 9
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Debating on the same issue *sigh*.

    Post # 10
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    1950 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m going against the grain a bit here, but if you want to invite them (and by “them”, I mean ALL of them; with such a small group, you can’t play favorites) and you have room in your budget for them and their +1’s, then by all means, invite them. Don’t worry about who will be able to come or not; that’s their problem. 

    If you can accomodate them (buget, venue, etc) and you want to share this momentus occasion with them, go for it. Good luck!

    Note: My fiance and I have decided to not invite any co-workers to our small wedding (50 people total). It was a difficult decision, but our budget just can’t accomodate an extra 26 people. And I can’t invite just a few of the people I’m closer to in my office because that would be tacky. We’re inviting just family members and a few close friends. 

    Post # 11
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I can’t really stand the people at my job….it’s just a bunch of catty women. they are nice when they want to be, but most of the time they are just annoying. Anyways, I invited my boss but not my coworkers. They ask me about the wedding all the time and I just answer their questions and say its a family affair, we couldnt invite many people. 

    Post # 12
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    211 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    If its a small wedding like you say, keep it intimate. Then bring a photo book to work after. Good luck!

    Post # 14
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    1304 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If they’re married then you cannot invite them without their spouses.

    Also, to be clear, my response above was in the context of the size of your wedding.  I  don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing to invite coworkers, but given the size of your event it would really distort the vibe in my opinion.

    Post # 15
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    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    If you have a small wedding, then no.

    If we have room in our guest list (we’re doing a two-tiered RSVP date aka A list (out-of-towners reply earlier) and B list (in-towners reply later), we’ll have a table for my co-workers (no plus 1, as they all know each other).

     

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