Post # 1
So this is really awkward…
One of FI’s ex-girlfriends (from HIGH SCHOOL… and he’s 29) has a blog that she has linked on her facebook.
She talks about her online dating adventures and trashes every guy that she’s dated in the past.
She makes posts giving these guys really obvious nicknames and even posts pictures of them with their faces censored.
She’s posted a few things with Fiance that are untrue… but even more than that, its been 13 years since they’ve broken up.
Neither of us even thought to look at this, but apparently one of FI’s friends from high school looked at the blog (after she kept telling everyone to look at the blog on facebook all the time) and he called Fiance cracking up about the whole thing. It is so bizarre. Fiance and her haven’t spoken in a few years now… I guess about 5 years ago she had messaged Fiance on Facebook and was trying to get him to go on a date with her, but he wasn’t interested. This girl seems to have some issues. =/
Why would people write things like that (especially that end up making them look bad to everyone else, instead of the people they want to look bad) and make it so public to be able to find it? Are they that stupid? She’s had multiple other bloggers say that her blog is juvenile and she looks like a psycho, but she continues.
Even weirder, she must be super passive-aggressive because she congratulated Fiance on Facebook when he proposed to me in December and said that she loved the ring he got me. Geez.. =/ Sorry to hear that you actually hate us because of a teenage heartbreak… =(
Post # 3
Yeah she is only embarrasing herself. She seems really immature and obviously can’t let go of the past. Good luck finding a new boyfriend with a blog like that..
Post # 4
@YogaFaerie: “she’s had multiple other bloggers say that her blog is juvenile and she looks like a psycho, but she continues.”
Given that, I think it’s best to ignore her. Doing anything else just gives her the attention she wants. If anyone asks Fiance about it in real life, he should laugh it off and say it’s mostly twisted and exagerated.
It may also be possible to report the link to Facebook. If it violates Facebook terms of service perhaps they’d remove the link. (Though of course Facebook can’t shut down the blog).
Post # 5
Wow. That’s sad. She sounds like a bit of a narcissistic weirdo. Be glad that you don’t have to interact with her.
Post # 6
@paula1248: That is interesting! FI’s reaction was mostly just a laugh. What she wrote about him wasn’t half as bad as some of the other people, that’s for sure! Might report it to Facebook though.
@Mrs.LemonDrop: Yeah, probably. Fiance unfortunately comes from a family of narcissistic weirdos, so oddly, or not so oddly enough he dated a couple in the past. From what Fiance said this girl’s mother has some serious issues and this girl seems to be picking up more and more of her mom’s problems. Its unfortunate. I had thought it was kind of cool that one of FI’s exes congratulated us and that even though it was just high school she must be pretty mature, but now I’m realizing that it was probably just her being passive-aggressive.
@mrs.stormylove: Really. I hope she doesn’t seriously think that this type of behavior is attractive. =/
Its one thing when people post jerky things anonymously. It is still rude and unneccessary but I really don’t get when people post under their own name and even link it to their Facebook. Really?? That’s just stupid…
Post # 7
@YogaFaerie: On further reflection: looking at Facebook terms, I can’t see anything it would violate.
Post # 8
@YogaFaerie She is making herself look a complete fool, If other people think she looks like a psycho then I definately wouldnt worry about it. They are not going to believe anything a crazy person with a grudge has to say. And the people that do read her/ believe her blog are not the sort of people you need to surround yourself with or worry about… they simply just arent worth it! The people that matter Know you guys and Know your situation…let her be bitter, enjoy your relationship!
Post # 9
some people never grow out of that high school mentality. Just be grateful you did! Obviously no one pays her any attention. Try not to let it get to you. Bothering you guys is her ultimate goal. If he says something to her or if it causes friction she will feel validated that he still thinks of her etc.
Post # 10
@YogaFaerie: LOL, she sounds like a troll. I have to be honest though, I’d probably read the whole thing just for a good laugh. In fact, I’d probably be sharing her blog with my friends, who would also laugh hysterically at something like this.
Post # 11
I have a blog where I have written some really mortifying things and I would be beyond humiliated if anyone ever found it and linked it to me (I mean, its public, someone could theoretically stumble upon it, but they wouldn’t know it was me), but then again, I would not post the link on FACEBOOK.
I have to say, I do think it’s kind of funny to be like “Hey, congrats Biff!” and then go on her blog and write, “Haha, I congratulated Biff and his fiance Buffy like I care, but I actually HATE them! Vengeance is mine!” Seriously, ignore her. She probably commented on the status hoping he would notice her linked page and read it.
Post # 12
Wow. That is so sad and incredibly petty.
I guess it’s true that some people never do too much with their life and never move past high school.
On the plus side, you have him, you’re an adult, and you don’t have to deal with her 🙂
Post # 13
@SherbertLemony: Yeah, I’m not too worried about it. =P Most of her friends are her fellow bloggers it seems… most everyone else seems to think she’s a piece of work! Haha.
@housebee: That’s kind of how I was. Fiance rolled his eyes, and I was more like… “WHAT…? Wait, I have to keep reading this…”
@Tatum: Oh I totally get that! I think we all sometimes post things on the internet (like on WB) that we don’t really want people in real life to read, but we do our best to stay anonymous. Or at least make it hard for people to find us. This was linked to her facebook and she even has her name in her “about me” section. It is easy enough to google her name and find the blog. She also talks about some of her sexcapades and posts about them. You want your mother (who is also on Facebook) reading that??
@ashleyr0512: I think you’re right. Some people don’t grow out of it. She also talks about being the lead in her high school musical as being one of the greatest accomplishments in her life. I’m younger than her and Fiance (FI is 29 and she’s 30), but none of my friends are this bad.. haha. And I only graduated 4 years ago.
@victoriasteed: Yep. =) Fiance said he was surprised how two-faced some people can be. I said… well, its a shame, but am I surprised? Not quite…
Post # 14
@paula1248: +1. this.
Girl’s just digging her own grave and won’t be taken seriously. I think juvenile is a great word to use to describe this.