(Closed) That awkward moment when…(RSVP related)

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Post # 16
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Honey bee

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rusticchic212:  The same thing happened with my Brother-In-Law and his wife – the only ones we had to chase down (of 250 invited), for my daughter’s wedding. The bride/groom didn’t get so much as a congratulatory e-mail from them; they acted like the wedding didn’t even exist. Then when we didn’t invite them to my other daughter’s wedding (half the size), the following year, they acted all butthurt. GAWD!

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee

I’ve had this happen with bithdays and parties- people “sick” or “working” who get caught lying when they post pics on facebook of when they were actually doing, GRRRRR! I don’t care why they lied to me, the fact that they were comfortable lying to me always damages the friendship. And yes, I comment on those pictures and call them out every time.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We had 2 instances that were pretty hurtful. One from my side and one from his. 

On my side, one of my friends whom I introduced to her husband and I was a bridesmaid at her wedding…. refused to come to my wedding because we said No Children Please. Even though she lives with her in laws and they babysit pretty much every single day. You are welcome asshole! Enjoy my high school friend / your husband….. this hurt mostly because a month before my wedding, they went to another wedding of mutual friends and left their kid home…. it really showed where I stood in their friendship priority list. Needless to say these 2 haven’t heard from me since. 

On my hubby’s side…. his cousin that he grew up with refused to come to the wedding because……. we didn’t put his kid (who we have only met once…..) as the ring boy. Once DH’s cousin got married, he dissapeared. He had a kid and nobody ever saw him anymore. DH had absolutely no relationship with that kid. At the same time, his other cousin had a baby and we were there from the very moment that baby was born. Understandable. 

The kicker? My husband traveled all the way to Syria from Los Angeles to go see his cousin get married. SYRIA!!! That’s not exactly a 20 minute car ride……  unbelievable. 

Everyone else….. meh! Not everyone can go to everything. I know this because I make every excuse in the world to not go to any of these events (10 weddings this year so far. It was 8 up until a couple of weeks ago.)

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

When DH co-worker/manager decided to invite her 17yr old daughter wo asking us and we couldnt say anything. I didnt have a problem with kids at my wedding…just ask..dont just invite for yourself..

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

I had a very close friend of 10+ years, whom I have helped out tremendously personally and professionally when she was in various sets of dire circumstances, tell me when she heard what our wedding date was that she would not be there because it was HER wedding anniversary. Side note: she eloped with a guy she barely knows and told me weeks later, not my fault that I didn’t make the connection earlier…not that it would have mattered…but I digress. She said that she would be doing something to celebrate her own marriage (but has no actual plans at this point, i.e. trip or something), and thus would not have time to be at my event.  Last I checked, a day has 24 hours in it, and I feel that should could have spared 6 of them to celebrate my happiness, and could have the other 18 to herself.  Whatever.  Stuff like this makes you find out who your friends really are….

Post # 21
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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adomke:  Yes!  I asked my guests to RSVP by May 31st.  I still haven’t heard from several people, including a friend whose wedding Fiance and I attended a few months ago.

She posted a countdown timer to her vacation.  I commented on her post “Are you missing our wedding?” and she deleted the comment. 

It hurts because a) she recived a save the date months ago, b) she hasn’t RSVPd, c) we attended her wedding a few months ago

what the heck?  Lol.  I’m very sensitive though.

Post # 22
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Busy bee

I could not have cared less why someone RSVP’d no. I preferred that to people who came but were a-holes. An invitation is just an invitation. Never understood why people get all “hurt”. 

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Oh so many. One who is maybe looking at flights (ummm the resort hotel is almost booked and she knows that)…another still looking for a conference in the US, baha! (Lives in belgium). And another can’t because her brothers wedding and she wants to go see her sisters new baby (her sister who I also invited is coming  with family)….just be honest people!

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