Post # 1
Am I over reacting?
I was texting one of my friends from college last night about her wedding that was supposed to be during next month. She texted back that she changed her date to May 12, 2012……….the same date as my wedding!!!!!!!!
I was (and am) livid. How could she do this? I have sent out my STD’s and everyone knows about my wedding date. However, we have around the same number of people in common (about 15) that I know she will invite to hers as well. Her answer to this was, “Well at least we can share our anniversaries, lol!”
Super frustrated, and just wanted to vent.
Post # 3
Wow, not cool. I hate making guests choose like that.
Post # 4
Unfortunetly we don’t own our wedding days. There could be some type of financial reason or anything really making her choose that day. Since you say she’s a college friend it doesn’t seem as if you two are super close and at this point if she does go through with it on the same day and you happen to invite a few of the same people you’ll have to expect people won’t came, as will she.
Post # 5
I would hate to be the guests that got two invites….awkward starfish… =( sucks that this happened to you!
Post # 6
Tell her you’re so disappointed that she will miss your wedding and you will miss hers. If you’re just now hearing about it, maybe it’s not set in stone.
Post # 7
@murmur: I was thinking the exact same!!! the guests that get our invitations will feel as if they have to choose one over the other, which I know can be hard. I specifically set my date so that it was not close to any one elses date and made sure I told everyone (even her) of the date! Le sigh!!!
Post # 8
Yeah, that’s awkward and, I admit, annoying. At least you’ve already sent out your save the dates. I would take the high road at this point when it comes to her and your in common friends. No sense in making it even more awkward for the friends choosing between the two.
lol So do you think you’re going to send her an invitation to your wedding anyways? That makes for an interesting situation…
Post # 9
@airythia: LOL, I thought about sending her an invite, but decided not to.
Post # 10
Strange. You would think that she would want to attend each other’s weddings and to have all of her guest/friends be able to attend. Since you sent out your Save-The-Date Cards first, you’re ahead of the game. lol
Post # 11
Be sure to send out your invites first 🙂
Kidding aside, it sucks that she chose the same date as you but I can promise you you will have so much fun at your wedding that you wont even notice if a few friends are missing.
Post # 12
It happens. Each of us chooses our wedding day for our own reasons. Be happy that you are both getting married, and perhaps be a little sad that you can’t share your days with each other present. Then move on, you can’t really change it.
FWIW, I had three roommates in college. 3 of the 4 of us ended up getting married on the exact same time. It happens, we all had lovely days, and we all got over it.
Post # 13
It happens, I have two friends from high school. (Which was almost 20 years ago now.) They dated in high school and broke up. They both got married on the same say to different people and quite a few people were invited to both weddings.
I would be annoyed but be happy for her, as PP said we don’t own wedding days.
Post # 15
That’s very odd! She moved her date from next month to your EXACT date? Wow.. that just seems really crazy. I’m sorry this is happening to you!
Post # 16
Yeah, it happens but I would be pissed too! WTF She couldnt have asked or given you a reason why?
I agree with the previous posters that it would be super awkward to get an invite to both and have to choose.