Post # 1
Some of you know that my mom is a pain in the you know what.
I was talking about our cruise that we booked before we changed our wedding date, in three weeks, and referred to it as our honeymoon. To me, it is our honeymoon.
When I said that, my mom said ‘Don’t call it that. You won’t be married yet, so it doesn’t count. Your honeymoon will be in Napa the day after your wedding day.’ WTF? So now I don’t get to have a honeymoon because you say it’s not valid?!
Please tell me that I’m not crazy, and that my mom is just being a beyatch!?
Post # 3
I don’t know, I think your mom is unnecessarily pushing your buttons. But I also think that a honeymoon happens, by definition, after the wedding. Maybe as much as a year or two afterwards (if it takes a while to save up or get vacation time), but still after. So I’d call this a pre-moon. Which is still awesome, and if you go someplace later that can be a honeymoon, but I sort of think your mom has a tiny point. Which doesn’t mean I’d go around giving you crap for it, because that’s still obnoxious, but I kind of agree.
Post # 4
I would be a little confused about how a pre-wedding vacation is a honeymoon too… but would never really call you on it.
Post # 5
You arent crazy and your mom needs to stop being a nagging beyatch! lol
or you can get your snark on & say, “thats true, wanna pay for one that we can go on AFTER our wedding?” lol
Post # 6
@Miss OBG: @SapphireSun:
thanks for your honesty 🙂 But yes, she DOES try and push my buttons.
haha I think I’ll pull the snark card if she says it again without me bringing it up!
Post # 7
I tend to agree with your mom since a honeymoon is to celebrate the marriage, and you wont be married yet. It is also to decompress from the stress, the fun, the hectic schedule, and when you get back from the cruise, there will still be more!
It might be splitting hairs, but I do think its a vacation. If someone were to ask you when you got married on your honeymoon and you say we arent married yet, I am sure they will think it odd.
You get to revel in the great feeling of being married and in love before you have to join the real world and all its stresses.
Despite how much we went through and how long we were together and how long we lived together, I DID feel different post-marriage and that will be missing from the cruise
Its really fun to have everyone celebrate with you. Where we went people gave us free drinks etc because it was our honeymoon. Its just plain fun to feel special. If you arent married yet and people know that, I suspect they won’t think its a honeymoon either.
Post # 8
i get where your mom is coming from – its like people that arent married (or engaged) but call eachother husband/wife. no you are not husband and wife because you are not married – its all about terminology and for some it means something. as you are not married its not a honeymoon for me also – sorry
Post # 9
I dont think your mom is trying to do anything here, she is kind of right about that. Its not a honeymoon when your going before the wedding
Post # 10
You wouldn’t adopt a cat and then tell everyone it was a dog, would you? Because they’re both pets and you really wanted a dog, doesn’t make a cat a dog. If you really want a cruise honeymoon, it doesn’t make it one before you’re married just because you want to call it that.
Post # 11
I have to agree with PP and your mom, a cruise before your married is just a vacation of two people who are in engaged.
Post # 12
okay,, i guess that makes sense. thanks for your opinions ladies! fi and i will start calling it our pre-wedding moon 🙂
Post # 13
Sorry dear, I agree with your mom, even though you had planned this as your honeymoon(?) if I am understanding this correctly, but then changed your date so now the wedding will be after the planned honeymoon. While your mom is probably pushing buttons, you won’t be married yet, but it is a nice way to relax before the day 🙂 I say, call it what you want, but make sure to take time after the wedding, even if it’s only a one night stay somewhere nice.