(Closed) ‘That doesn’t count as your honeymoon, so stop calling it that’ WHAT?!

posted 9 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I don’t know, I think your mom is unnecessarily pushing your buttons.  But I also think that a honeymoon happens, by definition, after the wedding.  Maybe as much as a year or two afterwards (if it takes a while to save up or get vacation time), but still after.  So I’d call this a pre-moon.  Which is still awesome, and if you go someplace later that can be a honeymoon, but I sort of think your mom has a tiny point.  Which doesn’t mean I’d go around giving you crap for it, because that’s still obnoxious, but I kind of agree.

Post # 4
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would be a little confused about how a pre-wedding vacation is a honeymoon too… but would never really call you on it. 

Post # 5
3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

You arent crazy and your mom needs to stop being a nagging beyatch! lol


or you can get your snark on & say, “thats true, wanna pay for one that we can go on AFTER our wedding?” lol

Post # 7
4822 posts
Honey bee

I tend to agree with your mom since a honeymoon is to celebrate the marriage, and you wont be married yet. It is also to decompress from the stress, the fun, the hectic schedule, and when you get back from the cruise, there will still be more!

It might be splitting hairs, but I do think its a vacation. If someone were to ask you when you got married on your honeymoon and you say we arent married yet, I am sure they will think it odd.

You get  to revel in the great feeling of being married and in love before you have to join the real world and all its stresses. 

Despite how much we went through and how long we were together and how long we lived together, I DID feel different post-marriage and that will be missing from the cruise

Its really fun to have everyone celebrate with you. Where we went people gave us free drinks etc because it was our honeymoon. Its just plain fun to feel special.  If you arent married yet and people know that, I suspect they won’t think its a honeymoon either.

Post # 8
5988 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i get where your mom is coming from – its like people that arent married (or engaged) but call eachother husband/wife. no you are not husband and wife because you are not married – its all about terminology and for some it means something.  as you are not married its not a honeymoon for me also – sorry

Post # 9
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I dont think your mom is trying to do anything here, she is kind of right about that. Its not a honeymoon when your going before the wedding

Post # 10
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You wouldn’t adopt a cat and then tell everyone it was a dog, would you? Because they’re both pets and you really wanted a dog, doesn’t make a cat a dog. If you really want a cruise honeymoon, it doesn’t make it one before you’re married just because you want to call it that.

Post # 11
6890 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I have to agree with PP and your mom, a cruise before your married is just a vacation of two people who are in engaged. 

Post # 13
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry dear, I agree with your mom, even though you had planned this as your honeymoon(?) if I am understanding this correctly, but then changed your date so now the wedding will be after the planned honeymoon. While your mom is probably pushing buttons, you won’t be married yet, but it is a nice way to relax before the day 🙂 I say, call it what you want, but make sure to take time after the wedding, even if it’s only a one night stay somewhere nice.

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