Post # 1
A little backstory.
I wrote this status last night. I noticed that a huge influx of my friends have gotten married in the past month, engaged, or gotten pregant. I guess when you start reaching the upper 20’s, you realize that growing up actually happens!
Miss Yellow is my best-friend from highschool. We haven’t seen eachother in years, but we keep up with eachother. She has been in a wonderful relationship for quite some time, but her boyfriend doesn’t see the point in marriage. (I found this out after the status)
Mrs.Green is a good friend. I used to work for her husband, but since the business closed I refuse to talk to him or be around him. (he owes me money) They got married in the Fall of last year, and recently have been trying to have a baby. Her sister on the other hand, never wanted children. She decided one night to give it one chance, and ended up getting pregnant. She became a great mother and loves her child, and recently got pregnant again. Her sister never really wanted kids, but changed her mind and has two now. Mrs.Green really wants them, and I can see why this news has upset her a bit due to her lack of conception.
Miss Blue is a friend who is unmarried but has a kid.
Mr.Black is my SO trying to be funny.
Mr.Yellow is his father, and you can see where he got his sense of humor.
I feel bad for Mrs.Green, but I don’t quite know what to say to her. They haven’t been trying for long, and I honestly think they would be better to wait a bit to throw a kid in the mix. Just a harmless status turned into me feeling like shit for the people I know that unlike most of my friends, aren’t having kids or getting married.
Post # 3
I would leave that one alone, personally. It’s not a big deal. If I had a dollar for every time I saw that exact Facebook post, I could retire now. If you don’t really talk to her much in life (Mrs. Green), then don’t comment on any of the comments. Just let the status be.
Post # 4
Well first off, please don’t tell her your opinion on if she should have kids.
You could just send her a note saying ‘Hey, sorry about my status last night. I didn’t mean to upset you or anything! I hope you are doing well!’.
Or don’t say anything at all.
Don’t worry about it though.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say anything to Mrs. Green. You were simply making a funny observation, she was the one who put her personal info out there. Just let it go.
Post # 6
I really don’t see why you’d have to say anything to her. You didn’t post anything rude.
Post # 7
I probably wouldnt say anything to her.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t say anything. That is SUPER awkward.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t worry about it.
Before I got engaged, I had this same observation once and posted one of those “e-card” pictures that said
“Everyone I know is getting married or pregnant,
I’m just trying to get drunk!”
It was kind of an insider with my best friend (we are both in our late 20s) because we constantly joked that we were going to be the only people at our HS reunion that weren’t married and didn’t have kids.
People shouldn’t take offense to what you said, and you shouldn’t feel bad about it.
Post # 10
@BooRadley: +1. It was a light hearted post that she then inserted her personal life into.
Although maybe she needs a friend to talk to, and you can certianly just check in with her and see how things are going from time to time. But let the FB status go.
Post # 11
I don’t plan on apologizing to her, but I did inquire about charting and such…which made it more awkward. I would never give my opinion on whether they are ready for kids or not. Dear God.
They really only have been trying for two months, so I don’t think her not being pregnant is a huge deal right now.
Post # 12
I agree with PP’s. Don’t say anything. It may make her feel worse, and it seems kinda weird that she would post that so publicly.
Post # 13
People like Mrs Green wind me up. She’s like people who write “Whatever. Didn’t want to be happy today anyway!” just so people ask them what’s wrong.
You didn’t ask her anything. You didn’t force her to write that. She’s just attention seeking.
Although if you do feel bad about it, then I second @Birdee106 and think that is absolutely the right wording to send to her if you wished.
Post # 14
I wouldn’t say anything at all. And don’t worry about feeling like shit, or offending anyone. I posted this the other night on my twitter account.. I didn’t do it to offend anyone and if they got offended, then oops!:
Post # 15
I agree with the others who say don’t say anything to her.
And she’s only been trying two months? Sounds way early to be saying she “can’t get pregnant”!
Post # 16
I’m not sure that trying for a few months means she can’t get pregnant anyhow. I could see feeling bad if you knew she actually couldn’t have kids and it slipped your mind, but not getting pregnant the first time you have unprotected sex is not the same as not being able to have kids.
TBH, if there’s someone reading that who really truly can’t have kids, I’d think they’d be more offended that she’s saying she can’t get pregnant when they just started trying.
Don’t worry about it, it’s nothing to feel bad about.