Post # 17
@SaugaBride: I’m with you, OP. While that time is exciting and the good times are REALLY good…the nervousness, wondering, and waiting is just not my fave. I had a great time with my man during our “courting” phase but I’m completely fine leaving it in the dust. 🙂
Post # 18
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I like the feeling but I love the feeling of comfort that comes with being with someone after a few years. My husband can read my moods and knows when to spoil me and when to leave me alone. Whenever I think of re-living the “butterfly” feeling all over again I am immediately reminded of the fear of the unknown that comes with not knowing the person you’re with. They could be a liar trying to take advantage of you or worse, they could like really kinky or dangerous sex that I am not into. The fear of the unknown grounds me in prefering the constant comfort of a longterm relationship over the exciting beginnings of a relationship.
Post # 19
I decided not to vote, because I don’t feel like any of those options describe how I feel.
I did love that stage with Fiance. It was so much fun getting to know him, revealing myself to him, falling in love with him, and trying to get him to fall in love with me. But I don’t feel the need to relive that. I had something similar with the guy I gave my virginity to, and obviously that didn’t work out. In my eyes, that’s not the special part of a relationship. The special part is once you’ve fallen in love, and gotten comfortable with eachother, continuing to try to make eachother happy, even though you’ve “hooked” them and it’s become harder to just walk away. And our love will continue to evolve, and I love that. I think the history you develop with someone is a beautiful thing.
Post # 20
I look back at that time with happiness, but I wouldn’t trade the security, trust, and strength we have developed over the years together for ANYTHING. I see no reason to relive the past, I’m ready for more of what we have right now.
Post # 21
I did not vote, I think I am outside of the options…..Being LDR, 370 miles apart, and with my mother terminally ill last year, we would go 6-8 weeks without seeing each other and I would have that nervous excitement right before i would see him and some of the time we spent together felt like re-getting to know each other, but in fact it was most likely just re-acclimating to being together. Our nightly phone conversations had none of this, it was only when I would see him after several weeks of not seeing him. And the nervousness of sex was there again. Having said that, I love the times when we spend a week or more together and we get all comfortable. that is the warm fuzzy feeling that I can’t wait to have on a daily basis with none of the nervousness thrown in. I can’t wait.
Post # 22
I was ridiculously nervous/excited/giddy before my first date with my husband. Once I saw him, all of that disappeared. I wasn’t excited anymore. I wasn’t giddy. I wasn’t anything but calm. I never had butterflies after that day. I still get happy to see him, I still kiss him like it’s the first time every time. But it’s not butterflies or excitement- it’s simply feeling of knowing that he is exactly what I was waiting on, everything I never knew existed. He makes me happier than I imagined I ever could be. I wouldn’t trade my calm for butterflies 🙂
Post # 23
I loved getting to know him and finding out all I could about him. I’m much happier now though.
Post # 24
I wouldn’t want to experience the “new” phase with anyone else, but I would love to relive it with my husband. The beginning of our relationship was so romantic and intense. I was full of butterflies and excitement because I had finally the person I had been looking for, but never knew existed. We knew right away that we’d found “the one” so we knew it was momentous (and we were both nervous that we would do something to scare the other one of!) We were blissfully happy and carefree, and I loved getting to know my husband because every new thing I learned about him made me fall in love with him more and confirmed that he was the one.
Of course I wouldn’t want our relationship to be stuck in the “new” phase, and our relationship has more depth now. But if I could go back in time and relive that with my husband? Heck yes. Now our lives are stressful, we have a toddler who’s a handful and a half, and life has gotten in the way of many of the optimistic plans we made in the early days. We often reminisce together about those romantic early days because it helps us remember, in the midst of all the stress of our current lives, how lucky we are to have found each other and how exciting our love is.
Post # 25
I do really like that stage, so I voted that I would relive it again with someone. Fiance and I are much more compatible now than during that stage, so I wouldn’t want to relive it with him.
All in all though, I’m glad to be out of all of the awkwardness and does he like me, am I pretty, going broke stage. I’m glad I got to experience it before though!
Post # 26
I’m still in that giddy stage! We’ve been dating about 4 months and since we live about an hour apart we don’t see each other as much as we would like. However, it has kind of extended the new relationship phase. We are still figuring things out and getting to know each other’s quirks and I’m really enjoying it. I don’t see myself ever craving wanting to do it again with someone new but I think I will miss that nervous feeling and all that passion from the beginning once the newness starts to wear off. But then there’s so many other phases to look forward to!
Post # 27
@SaugaBride: I hated that stage, but my Fiance was a jerk during that stage. He was extremely indecisive about me/us and it was like torture. One day he wanted me and the next he didn’t want a relationship. He was slowly driving me insane. I never want to go back to that again.
Post # 28
I love the exciting first stagees of a relationship. It’s a bummer to never feel that again but I wouldn’t trade my stable, loving relationship for that. However, I would choose both if that was an option.
Post # 29
I am a total flirt so I always love the beginning of a relationship, getting a guy to like me, the pursuit, the nervous excitement, the little dip in your stomach when he goes in for the first kiss. Knowing you consume his thoughts and he consumes yours.
That said, I love love love the comfort and security of our relationship. The nervous butterflies aren’t there anymore but that’s because I’m comfortable and trust him completely. That is also an amazing feeling. 🙂
Post # 30
We still have that nervous spark/butterfly feeling all the time. Even a couple years in. I don’t think I could marry someone who didn’t give me that feeling. My mom said she still gets that feeling every time my Dad walks into a room, and I waited for that.
Post # 31
We were both very nervous, it was cute & exciting, but I also love where we are!