Post # 1
I had planned for two bridesmaids and one of them backed out last week due to understandable issues with overseas travel. The SECOND bridesmaid learned of this and now is trying to get me to make her sister (that I don’t even know!) a replacement bridesmaid?! I found this odd particularly since I don’t mind being one bridesmaid less. I said I wasn’t looking for a replacement bridesmaid although her sister is going to be her +1 at the wedding.
Secondly, when she learned that I booked a hair and makeup lady for the day of the wedding plus a trial she got all condescending about how I should have gone to a MAC makeup counter at the Mall on the day of the wedding and got it done for free…like her sister had so cleverly done for her past wedding and how I was being overly spendy. I personally don’t mind paying for hair and makeup but I am planning on getting the hair/makeup artist to work on my bridesmaid too. This one-sided conversation left a bad taste in my mouth and my irrational brain wants to ask my bridesmaid to take care of her own hair and makeup on the day of the wedding. Please help me be rational about this. 🙁
This topic was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by herax64.
Post # 2
Ahh weddings… they seem to bring out the worst in some people! Lol.
For starters, I wouldn’t take to heart what your bm said about the make up. She probably meant well – it sounds like something I would say when I forget to filter from my brain to my mouth.
Her sister though, that’s a little weird. From her point of view, she is probably thinking how wonderful it would be to be a bridesmaid with her sister, to support her best friend!
Take what she said with a grain of salt, give her a little grace but stick to your guns with your vision (bridal party, hair and m/u, etc).
If this is the worst of it you’ll be ok!
Post # 3
My guess is that she’s worried about her sister having to be alone all day and sit by herself at the ceremony. Easy solution! Make her a bridesmaid. Haha I can see her “logic” but that is a little insane!
Post # 4
Let her go to the makeup counter on your wedding day. Do not spend your hard-earned money on her makeup artist because it sounds like she wouldn’t appreciate it. I have no idea why people have to give their ignorant opinions but apparently they do. Oh and her sister as a bridesmaid, wtf??