Post # 1
Does anyone else experience that sinking feeling you get when your SO says something like “It’s not going to be for a while” or “I want to finish school first” or something like that?
SO and I were talking about it today and he says “It’s definetly not going to be this year, and probably not next year….” My heart SANK to my heels!!!!!!!!!!! 2 more freaking years, at least?!?!?!?! UGGGGG! I can hardly get through the week without looking at wedding gowns or something!
but then he said “Or maybe I’m just telling you that to throw you off!” and he smiled. So he knows!! He loves to torture me!
Post # 3
I really hope he’s trying to throw you off, otherwise, that comment about throwing you off is not very nice!
I’m sure it’s coming soon..
Honestly though, if it were me, my heart would sink too, and I’d be enclined to ask him not to tease me about it.. I definitely don’t have a big sense of humor when it comes to emotional stuff (too sensitive..)
Post # 4
oh yeah. i HATE that feeling. its like going on a roller coaster but a lot less fun. i think the last time i had the sinking feeling i nearly started crying. not fun times.
i hope he’s just messing with you though that’s still not a fun feeling! i’d rather be led to believe it could be 2 more years and then have it happen sooner than him saying maybe he’s trying to throw me off!
Post # 5
I do hope that he’s trying to throw you off. But just try your best to enjoy your time with him each day, with or without a ring.
Post # 6
Yeah, I do know that sinking feeling. Mine comes more when my SO talks about not saving anything. It’s not that he can’t afford the ring I want (he has quite a lot in savings) but I know he wants to pay for it all up front and not touch his term deposits… which is fair enough. We don’t have combined finances so I can’t tell whether he actually means it or he’s trying to throw me off (which he would do, he wants the proposal to be a surprise). I’m in a bit of a stage 3 at the moment so it’s not bugging me too much.
I really hope your boy is just being a devil and trying to throw you off.
Post # 7
UGH I hate that! I’ll let my brain run away with me when my SO is out doing mysterious errands or when I know he’s had long conversations with his folks when I’m not around… and then sooner or later, he’ll say something about how it’s going to take him soooo much longer to save up what he wants to save up before he proposes. Especially when he says that when prime proposing occasions are coming up… it hurts.
Post # 8
I get the same exact feeling! For me it goes from sadness, to frustration, to what dont u want about me.. which is know is ridiculous because I know he loves me. I couple weeks ago a broke down in tears talking about it with my man.. (that time of the month) 😉 That is so cute and mean at the same time how he said, “maybe I’m just telling you that to throw you off.” I think it obviously means that he is thinking about it and its a good sign, even though it is not fun when they tease us.
Post # 9
That happens to me constantly. Except mine is serious… 🙁 poo.
Post # 10
I know what you mean! Its horrible! When we talk in abstract about “it” hes like “yeah it will happen soon” or “hang in there” or “trust me” with absolutely no idea of a time frame (weeks, months!!?)
Post # 11
I feel the same exact way too! I get so sad whenever he makes a reference to a timeline, like, I have to wait THAT much longer!?!
I had a breakdown after not bringing it up for weeks (he doesnt understand why I get SO upset) and he told me that if he proposed now then he knows I wouldn’t want to be engaged for 2 years because we already talked about how we don’t want to get married next summer (we have TONS of friends getting married next summer already) and he knows I want to get married in the summertime…June-September. Make sense I guess…. He also told me that he made make sure that I have no idea AT ALL when its coming…hmmph
So we basically decided on a wedding in the summer of 2012…so an engagement is LESS than a year away!? Maybe only 6 months?? I can handle that…right!? Ive already been waiting so long as it is whats another few months, RIGHT?? 🙂