(Closed) "That wedding sucked!"

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
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Blushing bee

I went to a wedding once that was just too damn long! The ceremony was at 9am…then there was a break until 1:00pm when cocktails were served at the reception location (that was down the street!…and really? Cocktails in the early afternoon?) and the reception lasted until at least 11pm which is when I left; I don’t know how much longer it went on for. I was exhausted. They served “finger foods” for the lunch time and we had a real sit-down 3 course meal around 6-ish, followed by cake…but it was just too damn long. My feet were so swollen I could barely pry my shoes off and I fell asleep in the hotel with my stupid dress on. lmao

 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

The only wedding I thought was terrible was due to the behavior of the bride and groom. I thought they were really rude and acted like they could have cared less if most of their guests weren’t there. I don’t care about style, venue, or really even the food-but putting time and money into attending a wedding with terrible hosts is the worst.

Post # 19
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yes, these threads have been popping up quite a bit lately.  I don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding that “sucked”.  Of course we all have different tastes, financial budgets, etc.  Each are special in their own way.

The best one I DID go to was at The Manor in West Orange, NJ.  FI’s aunt and uncle know how to throw a party.  It was a lot of fun.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee

@ieatunicorns:  That’s how I feel too…even though the hosts went around to greet people, even that felt like an obligation and that they just wanted to get compliments on the venue and the dress and blah blah blah. And we were just there to look and ooooh and ahhhh, not celebrate and be a part of things.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@LD333:  I’ve never felt a wedding sucked because it was more lavish or less lavish than other weddings I’ve been to, even within the same social circle, or because it was culturally different/more ethnic/more Americanized/more offbeat than others.

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I attended an absolutely awful wedding a few years ago. 

  • Cash bar which in itself didn’t make the wedding awful but they never told any of the guests and the venue didn’t accept plastic. DH and my Brother-In-Law had to drive 15 minutes (each way) to the nearest ATM just so we could consume anything besides tap water. Yep, even soda was charged.
  • The AC was busted so the temps inside the hall topped 90 degrees. It was mid August and just miserable.
  • They had 70+ people show up than confirmed so they had to add tables to the dance floor thus making dancing non-existent.
  • Due to the extra guests, they ran out of food. Our table waited 2 hours to even get our chance at the buffet but by the time they got to us, everything was gone. My SIL and I jumped the line because we were starving. We each got a piece of bread, slice of ham and 3 strings of fettuccine Alfredo. Everything was stone cold. We ended up leaving early and hit up McDonalds on the way home. 
  • There were no decorations what so ever.
  • The bride and groom, a well established couple in their 60’s/70’s, complained because their guests didn’t give them cash gifts. They received a lot of restaurant gift cards and sentimental stuff but apparently they wanted money. Even the bottle of Dom Perignon that we got them wasn’t well received. Whatever happened to the thought that counts? It’s not like these people had a household to start.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

@LD333:  They didn’t even go around and talk to guests. They stayed at the head table until it was time for dancing, when they proceeded to dance in a self inclosed circle with the bridal part:( This had been a reception fo a destination wedding and all of the speeches (done by groom and BM) were about inside jokes from the Destination Wedding, that few of the reception guests had been invited to. There is more-running out of favors, dinner completely unorganised, but those things are meh, but their attitude was so rude.

ETA: This is the same couple that sent mass produced thank you post cards with their picture on it- didn’t even bother to hand write the addresses they were mailing them to or their own names.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

There was one wedding I didn’t enjoy for the following reasons:

-My fiance wasn’t invited

-I knew one person, and the bride knew that, and yet she placed us at different tables. I felt like a seat filler. I was the only person at the table who hadn’t gone to high school with the bride.

-the speeches were at least 40 minutes each, and all of them included sexual innuendos and awkward moments.

-my table was behind a large cement pole, so I couldn’t see/hear anything. 

-the thank you note came 6 months after the wedding, and wasn’t personalized in any way.

-the bride and groom made no effort to say hello to any guests. They never moved from the head table.

And worst of all

-there was no booze and no dancing

I’m glad that the bride And groom enjoyed their day, but I just felt like I was unappreciated as a guest. 

Post # 28
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

So let me preface this by saying that I certainly don’t consider myself a wedding snob. Spend as much or as little as you like, the important thing is that the couple loves one another and I will celebrate with them however they like.

That being said…two years ago Fiance was the best man in a wedding that was less than enjoyable for a couple of reasons:

  • The couple had only known each other a month when they decided to get married, and only had a 4 month engagement. Now, I know that some people could certainly make this work, but it is a little bit of a red flag.
  • Bride cried for a solid three hours leading up to the ceremony, because her week had been stressful. Why? Because she went to comic-con.
  • 96 degrees and humid, outdoor wedding. No chairs.
  • They had a semi-Pagan ceremony but the officiant was a Protestant minister who announced up front that he didn’t agree with what they believed but it was really all the same religion anyway…?
  • Bride had a fit that she had to use her given name on the marriage license, instead of the one she had been going by for the past year. Even though she had made no attempts to legally change it.
  • Potluck reception (even though both families had plenty of money?) but they hadn’t informed most of the guests about this part, so there wasn’t very much food.
  • Bride refused to say hello to me or Fiance.
  • No booze. You don’t have to have booze to have a good wedding…but trust me, this one needed alcohol at this point.
  • No dance, but they wanted to have a dollar dance….no one participated.

There are more examples, but basically the bride was crazy. Unsurprisingly, the marriage only lasted 9 months, at which point the bride decided she was bored with being married, even though they had an open relationship. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@UpstateCait:  Were we at the same exact wedding?! Your horrible experience sounds just like mine…even the age of the bride and groom! 

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’ve been to weddings where an element of the wedding or reception was pretty blah, such as unclear directions to reception site, poor officiating, long wait between wedding and reception with no refreshments, having to wait a long time for food at the buffet to be refilled, no dancing, bratty kids, chamagne for only the head table, (I don’t mind a dry wedding, but I felt it was rude that they did a champagne toast without allowing their guests to participate), not enough seating and/or no seating charts so our family had to split up (not all the same wedding!), but only one that the whole thing just kind of sucked.  

First, the officiating was terrible, (the above referenced wedding where the officiating was poor had nothing on this lady!).  Seriously, she used the phrase “passionate love” like fifty times, first referencing “Song of Solomon” and how it’s a beautiful story about “passionate love” and then proceeding to use the term repeatedly…I wanted to punch somebody.  Also, one of the comments she made I found amusing because the groom had been married previously, (nothing against getting remarried after divorce, it was just the context of this comment, though I can’t remember what exactly she said). 

Then at the reception, the DJ had the music so loud that we had to shout to hear each other at the same table.  Guy showed up in a beer shirt and shorts, (though that was hardly the bride and groom’s fault).  Bratty kids messing around on the dance floor, including while the bride and groom were trying to have their first dance, (again, not really their fault the kids’ parents didn’t get their children under control).  I remember there were a couple other things that bothered me about the wedding, but I don’t remember what they were now, about four years after the fact.

The best part about the wedding, though, is that it was about six months or so before our wedding, so we got lots of ideas of what NOT to do, (and one idea of what to do: their groomsmen and ushers had different colored shirts, which I thought was awesome).  

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