Post # 1
I don’t plan on doing that whole garter thing. I hated watching it at weddings and don’t want to be a part of it. Luckily, my Fiance is in agreement.
Not that we have to make explanation to anyone about what we do at our wedding, but do you think people will expect this and we’ll get teasing/flack for not doing it? I don’t have a problem with the bouquet toss, but maybe since we’re not doing the garter-toss maybe the bouquet toss should be “canceled,” as well?
Or, is there something to do in place of the garter?
Post # 3
We’re not doing it either. I’ve always found it to be a little degrading, personally, though I know it’s meant it good fun. And plus, I’d rather have more time to keep the party going than to stop so my husband can look up my skirt in front of my parents
Post # 4
@BetterSherm: I don’t really think people will notice or mind that you’re not doing one, so I don’t think there’s a need to do something in it’s place unless you want to. We’re not planning on doing a toss, but I still want to wear a garter, at least for the getting ready pictures (:
Post # 5
I’m always sad when people skip the traditional things like bouquet toss, garter, cake cutting… I certainly miss them.
Post # 6
Have you been to weddings recently in your area? Is it still popular there?
I havent seen it done in years at the weddings I have been to.
Post # 7
Yes, it’s still popular. Friends who are currently planning their weddings are including it and my cousin who was married last weekend in my city included it.
Post # 8
I haven’t seen a garter toss at a wedding in years, and even when I did see them they always made me cringe as a guest. i didn’t do it, or a bouquet toss (though we gave the toss bouquet to the couple that had been married the longest from the Anniversary Dance). Nobody asked me about it, so I assume the didn’t miss it, I certainly didn’t!
Post # 9
Congratulations to you for knowing your preferences and sticking to them!
Post # 10
Eh for me it’s one of those hit or miss things. I notice when people do traditional things, but there are some that I wouldn’t really care about if the couple decided to omit them. The garter/bouquet tradition can be awkward and I know a lot of people avoid them to not single out their unnattatched friends/relatives. Sometimes the tradition is fun and sometimes it’s awkward. It just depends on the group of people and whether they actually want to participate. I hate the parties where the bride has the DJ literally shout out somebody’s name until they are goaded to come up and join in…
Post # 11
@BetterSherm: we did not do it either. I dont like any part of it. It is totally weird adn awkward to me. We did not do anything to “replace it” and our wedding still was very fun and active! I doubt anyone will miss it
Post # 12
I’m wearing a garter because I freaking love them, but I personally feel creeped out at the idea of my new husband removing an item of my lingerie in front of my extended family and his, including people I’ve never met.
I think that you do need something to replace it though, to make it fair. Why not take something off the groom’s outfit? It’s not just the bride that’s lucky! Maybe he can have a throw tie and a keep tie! How about he wears sock garters and throws one? A cufflink perhaps? Just some ideas.
Post # 13
Its a tired tradition. I’m still going to wear one, but not do the toss with the garter or bouquet. When I was 12 at a wedding, the happy couple was seemed well….kinda tipsy and the groom spent alittle to long under the brides dress. That memory alone makes me not want to do it!!
Post # 14
I’m not doing it nor am i doing the bouquet toss. Just not a fan 🙂
Post # 15
I’m not doing either, they kind of go together. I doubt anyone will miss them.
I may present my bouquet to my mother as an alternative, though.
Post # 16
We’re doing both, but it never bohered me when people did it. I recently went to a wedding and all they did was the bouquet toss, so nobody will care either way what you choose.