- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
So, I am not sure if anyone remembers but I made a post a while ago about my family complaining about my wedding. Despite my insistence, the questions still go on and on. My brother (who is 17) asked about my wedding budget and I said “It costs less then a baby” (Jokingly of course) my stepgrandmother and my mother started horning in about how I should marry him in secret blah blah blah. Even after I said “My fiance and I need to talk about it” They kept saying “What is there to talk about? You are stupid if you don’t marry early.” As if my fiance’s opinion for OUR wedding didn’t count. I started thinking about those who are giving me advice.
My step-grandmother has been married once, my grandfather died and she is dating this loser who the family cannot stand, he is spending her ( or should I say my grandfather’s)money needlessly and basically the family doesn’t like him very much. In my grandfather and her marriage, there was a lot of drama.
My own mother has not only been married three times, but she has cheated constantly on my dad before they divorced (one affair led to my sister’s birth) Her marriage now is kind of in trouble.
My grandmother has been married three times.
My point? These are the people who have constantly berated my choice of a wedding and stating my fiance will leave me. However, despite this, the relatives who have been married for years are happy to see our wedding plans plus they have waited for us to get married for some years. THEY are the ones who have congradulated me and have sent their approval. I think it is a bit hypocritical that they cannot look at their own marriages and yet are telling a newly engaged person that the marriage will fail if I don’t marry soon for his benefits and that he will cheat on me. Like seriously, who the f**k are you to be dispersing ANY advice? I can understand if I was going through some problems and I asked for help but it is their advice and prodding that is making me feel horrible not my fiance at all.
It has been my fiance who has supported me throughout the years, helping me when I was sick and when he needed me, I was always around. I am scared shitless of him leaving to boot camp because I know I will miss him but also I am afraid of him getting hurt. Them stressing me out is that thing I need the least, espicially from hypocrites who look at everyone else’s problems except their own and pratically dooming my engagement.
I know that their marriage has nothing to do with me but I think that their past history is playing into their “help” to me. Why can’t they just be happy for me? I don’t demand their time or attention, I am planning this wedding kind of on my own for a while and I just want them to be happy.