Post # 1
For some reason it just zaps the joy right out of me when I know I’ve found a reasonable deal and my mom says “wow, that’s a lot of money.” I found someone to travel to my parents home to do hair and make up for a 200$ minimum contract and my hair and makeup is 175$. Expensive? Yes. Unreasonable for our area? No, it’s a good deal based on what others are charging in Annapolis.
I found an established photographer who for 1,600$ (in ANNAPOLIS mind you) will do an engagement shoot, 8 hours of wedding coverage, at least 500 proofs on CD….I’ve seen less time and no engagement session for about the same, so I know it’s a good deal. Mom says “Oh, wow, that’s awfully expensive…” and I know it is, and I know she’s not TRYING to rain on my parade but when I find a deal it would be nice for her to be happy with me.
Man, I hate when not everyone is as happy as me! LOL
Post # 3
heheh. I totally know what you mean. I found someone who is willing to travel to Costa Rica to film our wedding for less than $2000! I told my mom and she was like “wow thats a lot” when I explained to her what a great deal it was because they normally charge $2000 for their services alone she said “are you sure it’s not a scam!”
hahaha. sometimese you can’t win.
I’m with you! Congrats on finding a great deal 😀
Post # 4
I guess I’d be happy if someone other than me was paying for it. Who is? 🙂
Why do you think Annapolis is so expensive? My brother went to the Academy and we spent a ton of time there…are the prices higher than the norm for the area?
Post # 5
@cosmocity: Ugh…I’m sorry! It was like what I got when someone asked me how much my photographer was. He was expensive, and I know he was, but we were 200% happy with our photos and the way he handled our wedding, and to me…he was worth it!
Try not to let them discourage you! Come here when you find a great deal and we’ll ooh and aah for you!
Post # 6
@ItWasntMe: Yeah, we’re paying for it anyway. Yes, Annapolis is generally more expensive, especially the area near the Academy.
Post # 7
Yeah, sometimes thay just don’t get it. I am constantly reminding my mother that this is not 1977. I think it is quite difficult for parents to hear just how much things cost for weddings.
Post # 8
that’s a great deal on your photographer! i’m sorry your mom keeps raining on your parade 🙁 mine does the same a lot of the time
Post # 9
You can always ask her to go out and research some viable alternatives for you so that she can find out for herself how much things really cost. Either way you win: Either she understands that you really have found a good deal for your area, or she finds you an even better deal. The only reason I would not recommend this is if your mom is a cheapskate or if she likes cheap things.
My mom reacted like yours did, and then I invited her to research how much stuff really costs. In the end it was me trying to talk her into lower priced options and her who was insisting we go for the nicer but more expensive thing. She definitely saw the wedding as a reflection of her and our family and wanted to put on a nice party for all our friends and relatives. So as long as your mom has a vision of a nice wedding and not a cheap wedding, inviting her to research prices on her own will probably get her off your back.
Post # 10
I agree with PP, I think it must be a ‘well when we did our wedding it was x% less!’ FI’s father about fainted when I told him how much the venues we were looking at cost…’for some sandwiches!?’ Well, no, we’re inviting a large # of (FI’s) family, and they’re going to eat real food. He just didn’t get that each place had food minimum prices to rent the space. Once the Future In-Laws started looking around, they came to appreciate the good deal I’d scored. Hopefully it gets better for you, and if you start having her ‘help’ you compare some of the options you’ve found, she can see that you’re landing good deals and getting competitive rates.
Post # 11
FH and I are paying for the wedding on our own which is why I am often surprised when people ask how much stuff costs! I made the mistake of sharing the cost of the photographer ($1400 for 2 photographers for 4 hours and she’s awesome…very reasonable for our area) with two relatives. They both commented that they couldn’t believe the cost and why were we spending that much money, blah, blah, blah….
I am totally fine with brides and grooms asking the cost of stuff, but other than that, I don’t get why others have to know. For example, my boss tried to get me to tell her how much I spent on my dress. WHY!?!?!?!
Phew….sorry….I have my own little vent going own!