(Closed) That's it, I'm done. Ready to try NFP, help!

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What is your experience with natural family planning?

    Have been using NFP as contraception, no pregnancies so far!

    Used NFP, got pregnant when we were trying not to

    We used NFP, then decided to get pregnant, and resumed NFP for contraception after baby.

  • Post # 17
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    We use the clear blue fertility monitor and avoid on high and peak days. For us its 5 days a month- not the end of the world!

     

    We like being able to combine temp taking and mucus charting with the technology. It’s like a double check!

    Post # 18
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

    I have two Catholic friends that use this. One of them got pregnant 2 weeks after her wedding (oops… They were virgins and I assume they weren’t thinking straight) but have prevented pregnancy since then (2 years since she had her little boy), a d then another friend who uses it has been married a year and not got pregnant. 

    I see them post on FB about “NaProTechnology” – try googling that. I know there’s classes and stuff. 

    Post # 19
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

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    @cowgirlace:  order your condoms on Amazon, too.  They’re about half price. 

    We use FAM and condoms, but are very conservative about when we don’t use condoms.  Read TCOYF and follow the rules religiously. 

    Post # 20
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @cowgirlace:  Haven’t tried NFP, but just to check, when you have been on the pill, have you tried different types? For instance I have been on about 7 different BC pills to find one that works for me. Some just didn’t help with my heavy periods, but I have only had bad side effects on 1 or 2 of them which included mood swings and loss of libido. Since different pills used different formulation/active ingredients. For instance for me, the pill I was on with norgestrel made me crazy, while levonorgestrel and many of the other drugs are fine. For me, my periods were bad enough for me to take years to find a pill that I could function on, because it’s not just a preventing pregnancy problem to me.

    Of course, this may not be the case for you, and if you react badly to any hormonal meds regardless of what’s in them then maybe your best bet is NFP. Good luck!

    Post # 21
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    Bumble bee

    We use NFP because I had a blood clot from hormonal BC.  It’s been 4 years now and no pregnancies.  I chart on the TCOYF website.  

    Post # 22
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    there are different methods of NFP, we have been using the billings method (similar to creighton’s except no basal temp taking) its based of sensations and appearance of mucus, we’ve been married 4 months and so far so good (although i’ve been charting for 6 months) Like pp said it takes some dedication but definitely worth not having to worry about what your putting into your body (which to me is the biggest concern) and being in tune to how ur body works is great. if your interested in the Billings method i would suggest reading The Billings Method: Controlling Fertility Without Drugs or Devices written by Dr. Evelyn Billings.

    Post # 23
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    I have the non-hormonal IUD (Paraguard) and it’s awesome.  Doesn’t mess with your hormones at all, is like 99%+ effective, good for up to 10 years, etc….  I’d be too scared to try NFP since I really don’t want to have children for another couple years.

    Post # 24
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: November 1992

    Someone told me about this post; new here: wondering how charting is going?  Just to clarify, too, along w/circleface about different methods: doing temps w/mucus and maybe cervix is more data and so, confirmed w/research: “charting more” is more effective when you need to seriously avoid pregnancy. Also, in NFP circles, “NFP” is using abstinence in the fertile times, for family planning;  this improves effectiveness versus “fertility awareness” where couples use condoms or withdrawal…it is good to clarify exactly what people were doing to add credibility to the discussion of NFP-effectiveness. “Eco-breastfeeding” is also considered NFP and this is even more nursing for many, than “exclusive” nursing: 75% of women go 9-20 months without cycles: I went 14 months w/o cycles / nice! we started charting when mucus or spotting resumed. Hope you like NFP/we really do

    Post # 25
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I used it successfully for over a year.  Then my body decided that I was too stupid to figure out how to get pregnant and I ovulated over a week early.  Guess who got pregnant?  I would still use NFP again but only after I am married and an oops is not going to be a huge problem.

    Since I have so many issues with birth control I really liked using NFP to avoid.  I liked knowing my body and my cycle.  It made me feel powerful instead of the miserable nausea that I get from most birth control pills.

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Thanks for this thread, I’ve been thinking about doing this too but didn’t know where to start. I’d like to get off my BC pills for a while before we start TTC in a year or two but I really don’t want to use condoms 100% of the time lol.

    Post # 27
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: November 1992

    PS : maybe Too Much Information but I took the pill, too for a time ; hated it; the things we do for love-huh? how come they tell the guys not to take steroids?  {these pills are steroids; no wonder we feel weird} anyways, I learned that IUDs may act as an irritant in the womb PLUS not prevent conception; so if a little one cannot implant, he/she may not live – get the facts: this terribly bothered me ( and the pill can act the same way, however small a percent/another reason why I said “never again” to hormones}  and we luv the NFP lifestyle

    Post # 28
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    Have you ever considered non-hormonal birht control options? There is a copper  IUD, Paraguard, that might be a good  thing for you to try.  It’ll prevent the pregnancies without all the other side effects. 

    As for NFP, I haven’t tried it because I’m on hormone suppression for a medical condition (bascially everything you described from being on BC… I get it if I’m not on BC).  But a friend of mine is a midwife, and so I hear LOTS of stories about her various clients and the clients of other midwives that she knows, etc.  And it basically sounds like NFP is effective maybe 70-80% of the time.  

    Post # 29
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’ve been charting for 12 cycles now and have successfully avoided pregnancy. Definitely read TCOYF, it’s a fantastic book.  I read it about 5 years before I finally made the leap to stop taking HBC, and I am so glad I did.  My best advice would be to be ultra-conservative until you are extremely comfortable with your body and charting.  We didn’t go unprotected without condoms until about cycle 8 or 9, and even then I still never use the “first 5 days rule” because you just never know when you are going to ovulate.  Good luck, once you get the hang of it it can be really wonderful knowing your body, you just have to stick with it and remember it is going to take a few months for your body to get back to “normal” after being on hormones for so long.  

    Post # 30
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: November 1992

    @westwood: yes, it takes a while for the hormones to get out of your body; and some research shows that the sooner you get off the better for health before a first pregnancy / maybe look for some local classes, maybe w/ Catholic circles or we used J&S Kippley materials which are online, too, and NOT rocket science – we think they have the most complete presentation including breastfeeding , temp, mucus and cervix, and even morality if interested. Best wishes TTC, too

     **and @totheislnds: we know a lot of NFP couples and the NFP seems to sort of give a liberating permission to HAVE children while society tells us NOT to. These couples talk more about having children and not abstaining/enjoying “unprotected” time together as nature intended!?  It is so wonderful to hear folks considering it; a good deal of folks don’t even know what it is!!??

    Post # 31
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I used NFP for 3 years without any unplanned pregnancies. Then I used it back in August/September to get pregnant in one cycle. My mom also used NFP for her entire marriage and had 7 kids, only one unplanned. It was #2, when she was relying on breastfeeding to keep her from ovulating, but that didn’t work. So it didn’t mean she ended up having more kids than she wanted even though one was unplanned. It’s just that me and my sister weren’t as far spaced out as she’d have liked.

    It helps if you’re fairly regular. Honestly, I wouldn’t do NFP with an irregular cycle. I stopped doing temps after I had a lot of data on my cycles. I used tcoyf.com, the website that goes with the Taking Charge of Your Fertility book. You input your information on your cycle and it tells you your fertile and not fertile days. Good luck!

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