Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
Once again it is time to see how long we can *Audience play-back* SHUT-IT-UP!
That’s right! The once a week game show where we see how long these lovely bees can keep their mouth shut and not mention anything ring/engagement/wedding/marriage related to their SO’s or anyone else highly significant in their lives (ie: mom’s, BFFs, Coworkers, ect.)
Last week’s winner was MsLonnieBee lasting a whole 7 days w/o a mention of anything ring/engagement/wedding/marriage related! Woohoo, Let’s give her a round of applause, guys! *applause* for your win we present you with the Golden Honey Pot!
Yours to fill with D-I-Y craft projects from Pintrest or drink blazingly a sweet elixir of your choosing like the Queen-Bee you are!!
Now before we get this week’s game started lets go over the rules of our lovely game:
Here are the rules/exceptions:
- This is only good for our SO’s. But If you are feeling the need to ‘Shut It Up’ infront of other people then please share.
- If our SO’s mention Rings/engagement/wedding/marriage first then we have the right to respond, but for Pete’s sake, Be Cool About It!
- If your SO catches you:
- Watching a wedding show
- Surfing wedding porn on Pintrest
- On the Bee Boards
And he makes a face, let’s think of that as a 1/2 point deduction. (There will be no actual points, just a joke)
So practice stealth bees! And good luck!
Post # 3
This weekend I hounded enough that I now know the IS A PLAN… now i need to shut up so I am in!
good luck this week bees!
Post # 4
but i dont think im gonna last this week ……tommrow birthday and jump date this week HELP MEEEE
Post # 5
I’m doing SO good. Besides SO mentioning things I say just about nothing! WOOHOO!
With me not saying anything he is going crazy. He is constantly at a jewlery store ( Eeek!)
Good luck ladies!
Post # 6
I’m joining again! I have a feeling I have many weeks ahead of “Shut it Up” so I should start to enjoy this thread more. haha.
Post # 7
Going to zip it and just hope none of my friends decide to get engaged THIS week! (All of my friends have been getting engaged this summer, seriously…)
SO is wonderful and I just need to keep faith that he will propose when the time is right for us. He knows patience is not one of my strongest virtues but he is doing everything he can in the meantime to make sure I feel loved. Which he would do anyhow, but I think he knows how hard this is for me.
Good luck this week, ladies. We CAN do it!
Post # 8
Whoo hoo, starting this again! This week is the first full week of classes, so I think I’ll be pretty busy. Who knows, I’ll just do my best. Good luck everyone!
Post # 9
I’m in! This week’s going to be difficult I think though…. last week I did pretty good! The week before that I was a hot mess, tears, constant talk of marriage, getting upset because it was my birthday, taking photos of some rings on my finger and asking boyfriend if he wanted to see them (and him saying no!!), all my friends thought it would happen soon, we went on a perfect mini-vacation that would have been a great place to propose, etc. So then last week I somehow managed to chill out and give it a much needed break. Boyfriend didn’t bring up OUR marriage, but did talk a lot about friends’ weddings and upcoming engagements, etc., and I didn’t turn the conversation back to us, which I usually do. I did good basically.
This week though I already feel it getting harder. I’m going to give it my best though. Why is this so hard??!!!!!
Post # 10
I’m up for the pact once again! I had SUCH a good week last week then one of my relatives had to go and ask my SO when he was going to marry me. I was mortified, and it turned into a discussion (again, when it started out, it had nothing to do with me – had to do with my mother keeping someone’s wedding dress in storage as a favour). This week, I am going to glue my lips shut with some KrazyGlue. Must… persist!!!
Post # 11
I’m joining! I need to give my SO a break. 🙂
Post # 12
I already failed ladies! And I’m in my office hiding and crying. I hate this. He wants to go to Hawaii in November, and I was worried that he doesn’t have enough money to do that and get a ring. And I wasn’t even meaning to bring it up, but I did. And he said he didn’t want to talk about it, and I’m putting pressure on him, and getting married is less fun than going to Hawaii. And I’m pissed, and I’m hurt. And I don’t know what to do! I can’t control myself, but I mean, what’s the point of keeping quiet any more if he really isn’t into the idea of getting married. I’m starting to think instead of keeping quiet with a personal private timeline, or even giving him an explicit ultimatum I need to leave. I love this guy though, so much. I just can’t handle this!
Post # 13
@boardersarita: Argh, I would totally be the same way in your shoes! *hugsandchampagne*
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
@boardersarita: *Hugs* BREATHE! The day is almost over and you can relax when you get home. I think you are just having a bad day, mama. The waiting proccess has probably gotten to the point where it is no fun for either of you anymore. It’s stressful for you. It’s stressful for him. No one is happy. I think (think) that you should ZIP your lid and enjoy going to hawaii. Man, if my man wanted to take me to Hawaii I would be over the moon, ring or no ring.
Just try to enjoy what he wants to do for you. If we weren’t waiting then these things would be amazing.
On another note. LAST WEEKEND SUUUUUUUCKED!
I completely flipped my lid. Saturday night i met up with two of my high school friends to welcome our buddy back to NYC for the weekend. And one girl (who was at one point my GF), the first words out of her mouth after seeing me are “Are you engaged yet?” *FACE PALM* “No. Are you?” Knowing that she isn’t with anyone at the moment. I know it was mean, but After a sucky week it was just the straw that broke the Bee’s back.
And then on Sunday I am greeted at work by this …CHICK…I can’t stand, with the same question. “Are you engaged yet?” – “No. Are you?” Knowing that she isn’t with anyone at the moment and not caring if it was mean.
Then I went home and talked to my SO about it.*FacePalm*
Now I am shutting up. I am over this waiting game
Post # 16
Thanks ladies for all the support. Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy and then I can sign on here and realize that hey, at least if I am going crazy, I’m not totally alone in it. Not that anyone on here is crazy, it’s just really nice knowing that I have supportive people who can tolerate listening to me rant over and over and over again about all this. My happily married best friend is supportive, but in a way can’t quite get it since she was proposed to before she was even really thinking yet about marriage too much, and I think I’m boring her to death these days. It was a super bad day, but it’s over. I wrote my SO a long email about how hurt I was that he said a vacation is more fun than a marriage, and just not in any way an ultimatum, but more like a ‘we really need to talk, and I need to know that you can face me and face these emotions of mine and really hash out whether you want to get married, and whether you want to get married to me, and what we need to do to get to the same page together’ email. Yes we live together, and yes in a way it’s passive to write an email, but we were both at work, and he couldn’t talk, and I needed to get it out and off my chest before I exploded. I had plans for a friend to join us for dinner, and he came home, kissed me hello, had dinner, and then later when she was in the bathroom told me that he got my email, in a very calm and kind tone. So maybe it’s ok. I told him he can write me back if that gives him more space/time to think, or I’m open to talking whenever he is ready. NOW I’m going to seriously SHUT UP. I have to!