(Closed) The +1 question ALREADY

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@WestieGirl:  Where is this couple located? Why don’t you go on a double date with them so that you’ve seen them before the wedding? You’re probably not sending out invitations for a couple months, but they might very well be together for 6 months by the time you send out the invitations.

Post # 5
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11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

This is one of the two main reasons I am not a big fan of Save-The-Date Cards — no inner envelopes on which to clearly specify exactly whom is being invited.

Post # 6
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If she considers herself in a relationship with him by the time go out he should be invited.  By the time your wedding rolls around the relationship could be 8 months old. All couples should be invited as a social unit.

Post # 8
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@WestieGirl:  If your wedding is that high percent Out of Town, you will probably have a lot of nos, in which case you might consider extending the additional invitations. However, I completely respect your decision to create a rule and I admire your will power for sticking to it. One final option might be to tell her that due to limited space, you will only have room for her. However, if a space becomes available you would be willing to let her bring a date. But I would make it abundantly clear that she should not plan on bringing a date unless she receives a call from you after the RSVP due date. I think your RSVPs will make it clear that she should plan on attending alone or not at all though.

ETA: Also, as a guest I definately understand the STD leaving more questions than answers. I recently got one for a wedding in June 2013 and I have no idea if Fiance will be invited. I assume so because we’re getting married 2 months later, and we’ve been together about a year longer than the couple, but we really won’t know until we get the actual invitation.

Post # 9
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11356 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@futuremrsfitz18:  Actually, that is not correct. Only couples who are married, engaged or who are living together must be considered to be a social unit. If none of those criteria applies, then the SO does not have to receive an invitation.

Post # 12
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11 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are inviting four +1’s out of 200. My criteria to include one was if the guest did not fit in a large group of people and would potentially not have anyone they would be comfortable dancing/talking to, or their +1 has been to multiple family occasions (for family members). None of my unmarried cousins or family friends got +1’s, nor any college friends. Only high school friends, who are a little more random, aren’t really friends between themselves, and would not be comfortable coming alone. Stand firm! Its your wedding and each person saves you (or at least me) $125!

Post # 13
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, if this person is coming overseas that would make me more likely to allow them to bring the person they are dating, not less.  That’s a LONG trip to make by yourself (and I lived abroad for two years and made that trip alone a lot.)

Post # 15
Hostess
23602 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@WestieGirl:  That was our rule too when making our guest list.  If Darling Husband or I couldn’t name the person’s SO, there was no way they were going to be a +1.

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