(Closed) The joys of parenting

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 16
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Busy bee

I personally think that it is attitude.  I became a mom older so maybe I had just more of an appreciation, but the baby stuff is so finite, it only lasts a few months and yeah ok it is tiring, but as SOON as my first stopped waking up in the middle of the night, I missed it.  Honestly, I missed being there with her and holding her.  Who cares about sleep when I have this precious, beautiful girl needing me? 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Oh my god this post is so refreshing!! I’m 23 weeks pregnant and get overwhelmed always hearing how hard it is, to enjoy my sleep now cause I’ll never sleep again, or how it changes your life so dramatically (always making it sound for the worse) hearing these positive replies are so uplifting, cause as soon as someone sees you pregnant, it’s as if they want to scare you with what’s coming!! 

Thank you bees for the positivity 🙂 

Post # 18
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2010

my 8 month old daughter just learned to give suggies (kisses). theyre huge wet and slobbery but the are the BEST KISSES EVER! theres nothing to compare to being a parent. she is the absolute joy of my life. nothing makes me as happy as she does. its incredible. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

We are TTC. We went to see our friends this past weekend who have a 14 week old son. I can tell the love for their son is profound and it’s so nice to see BUT we left both wondering what on earth has happened to their relationship as a couple. They were bickering non stop and she kept saying how he was doing things wrong e.g holding the baby wrong and she is the one who knows how to do things because she is the one at home with him. They were a strong couple who you could always tell were made for each other so this was uncomfortable to see.

I look forward to (hopefully) having a baby but I do worry about what it will do to our relationship. Would be great to hear from couples who feel having a baby has made their relationship even stronger but don’t want to derail the thread.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I love being a mom. Sure there were sleepless nights and crying, but those times pass and you have this wonderful tiny human that loves you so so much. I really wasn’t the maternal type before having her, but she’s pretty much the best thing I’ve ever done with my life.

That being said, she was very planned and we’re kind of homebodies anyway, so our lifestyle didn’t really change a ton. A lot of people just aren’t prepared to have their lives turned upside down.

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

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EllyAnne :  I would say our relationship is the strongest it’s ever been. Our dd is 18 months. I will say we had a somewhat easy baby which probably makes a difference. Having a high needs child can be incredibly stressful for everyone.

And sometimes it can be hard not to put your two cents in when you know what will comfort your baby right away. But you HAVE to let dad figure it out on his own IMO. It might not be the way you do it, or what you think is the “right” way, but just let it go. I bit my tongue on more than one occasion, but I just think it’s so so important for dad to learn his own way of doing things without mom breathing down his neck.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Westwood :  Hope you don’t mind but I totally just took a screenshot of what you just said about letting the dad figure it out. Hopefully when the time comes for us I can look back on what you said and let him do just that. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

For me, it depends on the day.  Lately my son has been AMAZING and we have been loving every minute, but a few months ago he was HORRIBLE and it was SO HARD.  I try to enjoy the good and forget about the bad.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Oh I know!  I seriously have loved every single second even the gross ones!  I’ve wanted to be a mom all my life and I had a wonderful pregnancy and gave birth to the sweetest chilliest little baby!  He’s been all smiles and giggles all his life and I cannot get enough!  I stay home with him and seriously when I run an errand or something on the weekend I miss him desperately!  My husband and I constantly talk about our love for him, love love LOvE time as a family of three and still are very much in love and happy together! I never would of guessed how much I would love it and how I would always hate being away from him but I’m just addicted to my little guy!

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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Westwood :  so true!  I was bad about Stepping in when my son was little and it was not good for our relationship now I trust him to figure it out his way and he has so much pride in their own unique relationship and loves meeting his needs!  

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I love every moment! We thought one was the best age but it just keeps getting better and better. At 2, she is now telling us jokes and being a clown. You just have to enjoy the moment and realize that nothing lasts for long. My husband and I make sure to have our alone time after she is asleep and date nights when our parents are free. 

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