(Closed) The 30 something “itch”

posted 6 years ago in 30 Something
  • poll: At what age did you start feeling that you were "itching" to be married?
    At age 30 : (27 votes)
    22 %
    Before age 30 : (75 votes)
    61 %
    Never : (21 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    I never really had a general itch to get married. I knew at 28 that I was finally ready to commit in that way. But that relationship turned into a disaster of epic proportiions and I was okay with being single for as long as necessary until my heart healed. Then I met Mr. LK and knew within the first few months that I wanted to marry him, spend my life with him, grow old with him, take care of him, etc. It was less about “marriage” and more about knowing that with him as my partner I could be happier than I ever imagined.

    Post # 4
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    715 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Fi and I got together when I was 27, about to turn 28.  I made it clear that I would really like to be engaged by the time I was 30.  He wasn’t ready and it didn’t happen before I turned 30.  In fact, it didn’t happen when I turned 31 either.  He eveutally proposed when I was 31 1/2 (yes, my inner 5 year old just came out! lol).  We’ll be getting married when I’m 32.

    I wouldn’t say my clock was ticking, but it was just a self-timeline that I had prepared.  When it didn’t happen at 30, I had to sit down and figure out whether I was willing to stay with him until he was ready or go out and find someone else.  In the end, I realized that I loved this guy and it’s not that I wanted to be married, it was that I wanted to be married to HIM.  And for that reason, I stuck it out until he was ready.  Meh, I’d already missed the timeline, so might as well stay with the guy I loved, right? ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 5
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Been feeling this for a while, got more intense after 25, 26 1/2 now and ready to get this show on the road! lol

    Post # 9
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I should add that I’ve been in an LDR for over a year, will take another year or two until we can actually get married, and that’s if we start getting organized soon. (Get officially engaged, start saving, start immigration paperwork, etc)

    I was in a 4 year disaster relationship which started when I was 17, was single for 4 years, accidentally got involved with awesome perfect-for-me-guy…who happens to be in another country! FAK! I just want to be married so I can be with him everyday! So…getting impatient, yeah =D I also want to be married for a bit before having kids, which I’d like to get started on by 30 (which he’s all for).

    Post # 10
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @lionskitty:    I so know the feeling!  Leave it to me to fall in love with the perfect guy who lives SIX THOUSAND miles away.  lol  You’ll get there though… immigration sucks, but once you are through it’s such an awesome feeling!

     

    I knew I wanted to be married when I was still a kid, but I didn’t find the right guy until I was 33!  Once I found him, it only took me a couple of days to know that THIS was the man I was going to marry.  ๐Ÿ˜€

    Post # 11
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @dodgercpkl:  Yeah marriage came up in the first few days for us too! But after a year I’m still waiting on an official engagement! Maybe he’s waiting until he graduates in December (nooooo) or (hopefully) waiting until I see him in 2 weeks!

    Post # 12
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @lionskitty:    Fingers crossed for you that it’s in 2 weeks and not the end of the year! It took my Darling Husband 10 months to ask me and I think if we had lived closer to each other he might have even taken longer.  I was sooooo ready months before he asked me!

    Post # 13
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    4887 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Throughout my 20s I never even thought I’d get married, let alone have a deadline.  I met Fiance at 27, realized he was The One like six months in.  We moved slower and it took him longer, but I absolutely was ready to make things final with him like, ASAP.  Had I not met him I’m not sure where I’d be, but I bet I’d still just be bopping along, flying solo and happy ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 14
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I got grumpy about it once I hit 30.  ๐Ÿ™‚  I was just so ready to get on with my life already.  I had the right guy at the right time and was ready to settle down and start living OUR life.  Took him a little bit to get there, but glad I stuck it out.  Still mad I managed to pick a wedding date when he’ll be 29 and me 31. 

    Post # 15
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @dodgercpkl:  Thanks! Since we’ve already discussed marriage and kids, I might point out that getting engaged doesn’t mean we have to set a date right away.. *hint hint*

    I’d want to get engaged soon, I mean, if we are going to get married in a year and a half why wait? I would wait to set the date until he’s graduated and settled in the new job and I’ve been back at my parents place a while (moving back in July to start saving) so we can decide what we could afford.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I never really got an “itch” because my fiance was ready to get married well before I was. I needed some time to decide if I wanted kids (he definately did). So for me it was kind of the opposite. He was very patient but I still felt pressured (by myself) to figure it out. It took me awhile, but once I decided I wanted to have a child, and let him know, we were engaged within a month. So no itching. But a very excited engagement.

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