(Closed) The 6+ Month TTC Group – Part 24 – One Step Closer to Our BFPs!!

• Turtle83
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

@rusticgirl:  Thank you! I’m really sorry that you’re here and I’m really hoping you get your BFP soon! 🙂

• phoebephoebo
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: March 2013

@MrsBananas:  

@MrsBaldEagle:  

@Adams_bee:  

@rusticgirl:  Welcome ladies! I hope you won’t be here too long. This thread blew up in the last few days. It was pretty quiet for a while.

@BalticBee:  

@MrsBananas:  I’m so sorry that you are going through this ladies. I wish I had some insight but DH hasn’t had his SA done yet. I hope you can get those numbers up x

 

At the moment I’m waiting to test. I got a squinter positive at 9dpo and a negative at 10dpo. Looking at stats 77% are positive at 10dpo so I’m assuming its a bfn. It’s my first cycle TTC post mmc so I wasnt expecting it and didn’t mind too much until I got the squinter. Now I’m a mess!!! Cocktails this weekend!!!

• Adams_bee
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo

OB Gyn appointment tomorrow! Going to tell him that AF has been irregular again 🙁 hoping he’ll prescribe Clomid… or something. It sucks when both DH and I have problems.

@phoebephoebo:  thanks sweety.

• MrsBaldEagle
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

Ugh I have AF now – but its light but bright red.  The week of red/brownish spotting I had when I was supposed to ovulate probably caused this.  I used to think I would love to have a light flow – but now since TTC has my head whirling – I just want an obvious AF. 

Wanting something so bad (getting pregnant), and have no control over it is really hard.  I am really looking forward to all the symptoms pregnant women complain about. 

• rusticgirl
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: May 2012

@MrsBaldEagle:  Ug – I’m sorry about AF. I agree with you about the frustration of not having any control. I feel like I’m surrounded by women who get to pick exactly what month they want to concieve, and then whine about every little symptom. I will be *so* happy to have that experience.

• emb610
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

Hi ladies. Hoping it’s alright that I join, even though this is only cycle 4 TTC for me. February takes us into month 8 of trying, though. 

ROLL CALL!

Cycles/months trying:   8 months, but this is only cycle 4

Current CD/DPO:   CD 1 🙁

Chart (if you have one):  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/emb610

Any known issues? Irregular and long cycles. I’ve been off BCP for over a year and am still not “regular”. I had a chemical in August and then a 124-day cycle following that. 

Supplements/medications: Multivitamin for both of us. I take EPO until ovulation. 

Next steps?  Keep trying for now. I’m not sure how long to wait before taking the next step. With my stupid cycles, we haven’t actually had many chances to conceive. And we did successfully conceive once, it just didn’t stick. Sigh. I don’t know!!

• ShellVee
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

Holy moly this thread exploded. I’m sorry everyone has to be here but welcome all the same… This has been a great place to vent at times – esp. when I couldn’t handle seeing the BFPs on the POAS boards (I had a few months of EXTREME bitterness).

hopefully none of you have to be here very long xx

• ShellVee
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

@emb610:  Def welcome here – had the opposite issue when I joined – I was only 5 months in but was on cycle 7 (super short cycles) so felt like a fraud. But I learned quickly that everyone was so friendly and helpful and non- judgemental here so I got over it quickly 🙂

• MrsBaldEagle
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: May 2013

@emb610:  I also have long cycles…so horribly frustrating! 

@ShellVee:  The POAS boards are great, but like you said – they are also depressing when so many Bees get pregnant quickly.  It actually made me even more stressed out, and made me feel hopeless.  Thank goodness for this board!

• ShellVee
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

@MrsBaldEagle:  yeah I agree 100% it definitely makes me feel inadequate on the POAS boards – I know in technicality I am still within the “normal couple” range – we’ve been trying for 11 months now (13 cycles) but seeing all the 1-2 cycle BFPs made me think/ feel I was broken before I probably should have. TTC sucks.

*warning whinge alert* and probably waaaay TMI!

AFM: had a strange night tonight – ended up crying on DH asking him how we could make this all less of a chore, let’s just say it wasn’t our finest night, we got the job done but that was it 🙁 I am so over sex being a baby making thing – unfortunately still waiting to get a positive opk 🙁 so tempted to just say “let’s stop for the month, take a break” but then another part of me is like “idiot cos then you’ll have wasted the stress of this month” considering we have managed EOD since CD6 (normally I O early so was thinking EOD would mean 2 or 3 “have to” days and then back to fun – unfortunately now we are on CD20 (one of my latest O ever) – so while impressed we’ve managed to persevere for 2 weeks solid, we’re tired and over BDing on schedule. Don’t think DH realised he wasn’t helping by calling it “our on day” because it made us both feel pressured and almost like we didn’t have to make the effort to initiate because it was a “sure thing” – therefore kinda not in the mood and felt kinda like a chore tonight 🙁 we never came to any solution thou and DH swears he is 100% there and wants this baby as much as I do and enjoys BD and all the rest! I dunno I just feel kinda drained and defeated this month I guess. 

Pffft people who say trying to get pregnant is the “fun part” obviously got pregnant quickly haha

I don’t know what the point of this was – maybe to just vent. Feel less alone I dunno. Maybe I’m just being a moody cow haha

sorry for the whinge but seriously I never thought that *I* would EVER get over sex! But here I am… *sigh*

• wandering_gypsy
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: January 2012

@ShellVee:  I know exactly how you feel. Sex during the FW is hardly ever romantic after the first couple times. Then it’s just a means to an end (hopefully). You are not alone. And that’s a LOT of BDing! Maybe take a little break, two days off then try again, or wait until you start to get closer to positive opks? (if you usually get more than one).

AFM: DH gets his second SA done wednesday. And we “cleaned the pipes” on Saturday to give him a good window (they say 3-5 days without an ejaculation is best, at least 48 hours), but I’m concerned… It just didn’t seem like there was much at all. I think this one might be worse than the last. :/ We should get his blood test results around the same time as the SA results, so we shall see. But things are looking less and less hopeful to me.

• ShellVee
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: July 2012

@wandering_gypsy:  yeah that’s the problem this is the first time I have used OPKs so I am not sure what my normal pattern of “nearly positives” are before getting a positive – I have thought for the last 3 days that “surely tomoro’s will be positive this is soooo close”. I hope it goes positive tomoro then we only have a few more have to days and we can take a break for a few days. I haven’t got a thermal shift yet either so I’m pretty certain I haven’t missed the surge. Next month if needed I will def not start up the EOD until the lines start getting “nearly positive”. Live n learn hey?

i hope the SA comes back better for you… DH has been working on improving since last time hasn’t he? (I hope I’m not mixing up people) I’ll keep my *fingers crossed* for an improvement 🙂 

• wandering_gypsy
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: January 2012

@ShellVee:  yes he has. He stopped drinking, but that’s really the only change he’s made so far (the doctor thought it would be a big one), he’s supposed to be eating better and working out but he has yet to do that. It’s a work in progress. Though he did start taking FertileAid this month, so maybe that will make a difference in a few months. I’m more concerned about his blood results. Hopefully they will give us the information we need to TREAT his low T and hopefully get his body functioning better to create more sperm on his own. The waiting is what sucks (which we all know. lol). Then once we figure out the problem, it’s more waiting to see if it worked. lol Perpetual waiting.

At what point should a couple consider their other options? I think his sperm count is too low for IUI and IVF would be too expensive for us right now (we just spent a load of cash on his MRI and blood tests)… But at what point do you say “this isn’t working, what are our options”?

• Turtle83
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: June 2011

@MrsBaldEagle:  @ShellVee:  I got my first BFP on our 3rd cycle trying and we have gotten a BFP every single month after that, 4 consecutive months of chemical pregnancies. I really appreciate the support of the POAS boards, but sometimes I feel like a fraud since I then join the next month’s POAS board since my pregnancies don’t stick.  I feel a bit hopeless every month when I see the ladies getting their sticky BFPs and mine don’t stick.

@wandering_gypsy:  I really hope your DH’s SA results come back way better this time. I can’t offer any advice on when a couple starts considering other options, but I imagine doctors try to exhaust all options before moving on to more invasive/expensive procedures… Sending you lots of positive thoughts!

• wandering_gypsy
• 7 years ago

• Wedding: January 2012

@Turtle83:  Thanks! I hope it’s at least a little better, but we’ll see. Hopefully the blood test will tell us what medicine to start DH on, I think realistically we are still 6+months away from a potential BFP, but we’ll see.