Post # 452
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
Welcome, and sorry you have to be here. Don’t worry about the cycles vs months thing. I joined at 6 cycles, even though it was around 5 months, because like @ShellVee:
I have short cycles. I don’t know which would be worse- super short cycles= extra frequent disappointment or super long= waiting so long to try, less tries per calendar year. I think they both suck:(
Good luck- I hope his results come back better this time.
I agree on the POAS board. It’s become too sad for me to follow it. I’m happy for those ladies get their BFP’s (and sticky ones) so quickly, but it’s too much for me. Following it began making me jealous and bitter so I stopped. I don’t need that kind of negativity to my life.
On a bright note, I have my first appointment with my fertility specialist tomorrow morning. I’m so excited! I feel like a weirdo being this excited for a doctor’s appointment, but I really want to know what’s going on on what we can do to get ourselves knocked up:)
Post # 453
Tomorrow I have my appointment to get the results of my recurrent pregnancy loss tests and I’m also getting an ultrasound, and I’m beyond excited! Lol I have been counting the days for this appointment, and I’m really hoping to get some answers or at least have a plan for what is next to test 🙂 So I totally get you!
Post # 454
@wandering_gypsy: I wish I could help with the “when” because I am feeling the same. Obviously I haven’t started intervention yet (been dragging my feet) but at the same time I feel like I need a time line set with DH to the “whats next and when” – think he is still hoping it will just happen (as I am too obviously) but each BFN/AF makes me less and less positive it will happen 🙁 I hope that the not drinking has helped. Yes wait wait wait it is all we seem to do 🙁 I keep saying to DH if someone could just say yes it will happen and you will get pregnant X month in 201X I’ll be happy to just let it all go and just enjoy life as it is again. That’s the problem it is all out of our control. Everything else I’ve been able to control to a certain degree but this nope just have to sit and wait for something that may or may not happen *sigh*
I felt so bad for being upset with people on the POAS page which is why I stopped role calling – I do now again but it doesn’t upset me as much at the moment. It’s not their fault they got ku cycle 1. Good luck with your appt 🙂
I keep having the short cycle/long cycle debate in my head. I agree both equally suck but as much as i hate AF (esp because she likes to hang around for nearly a week) I am glad I have had more chances. I swear hanging around for O this month has been horrible so to do that all the time I’m not sure how you long cycle ladies handle it x (hope that doesn’t some insensitive). And good luck for your appt too! All happening around here 🙂
ok now was wondering if I could get a little help with some opk stuff… I’ve been testing 2-3 times a day since CD7 – I still have all the tests – I sticky taped them together in the order so I could see progression hahaha Anyway it went so close to positive Sunday I was sure yesterday was going to be positive but it wasnt and instead they seem to be fading. Reckon I should count CD 19 as positive anyway as it is now fading? My temp started rising this morning so I think I may’ve O’d yesterday (CD20) – plus I was nauseated and had a strong sense of smell yesterday (2 of my stranger O signs hehe)
I’ll link chart and a pic of my OPKs (yay multiple things I’ve peed on hehe) (sorry it went to the top and I can’t move it… *sigh*)
Post # 455
I’ve had that thought a bunch of times. I’m not sure if I’d be more or less frustrated with “normal” length cycles and more frequent BFNs. I agree, both scenarios suck! Hope your appointment goes well (or went well, now)!
Hmmm. I wonder if your LH surge is really short, and you missed it overnight or something? I guess wait and see what your temp does in the next couple of days and try to keep up your BD schedule a little longer jsut in case!
Post # 456
I agree I think cd19 was close to positive, you may have missed the surge, or just not had a super strong one. It usually takes my body a couple days to fully register that I o’d and start giving me symptoms. Heightened sense of smell is a pre AF symptom for me, so I totally get the weird ones. 😉
Post # 457
Sorry if I’m a little late joining this thread – but want to get support from other ladies in the 6+ months group.
Cycles/Months Trying: 6 cycles/7 months
current CD/DPO: CD12
Chart (if any) no chart
Any Known Issues going to the doctor on monday to do a workup – i am suspecting PCOS but want to get a diagnosis – have lots of symptoms
Supplements/Medications been taking prenatal vitamins since we started trying
Next Steps going to the doctor to discuss next week
For Fun: Whats your favorite holiday & why: I love christmas it makes me so happy – everything is decorated and the lights and i love buying gifts for people.
Post # 458
Hope your doctors appointments went well – keep us updated!
Welcome – sorry you have to be here! Let us know how your doctors appointment goes!
Post # 459
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
(Crosspost from Charter’s thread)
So, I had my appointment with my new Endo/Fertility specialist this morning and… he is amazing! I’ve never been so pleased with a doctor’s appt. in my life. The doctor actually spent over 45 minutes with me- unheard of! I can’t recall an appointment that went over 10 minutes in my life! He was super friendly, asked me my thoughts and listened when I spoke. We got onto the topic of what I do for a living and even had a 5 minutes conversation about Asian Carp lol (an invasive fish that’s trying to be kept out of the Great Lakes). I felt like he really cared about me and helping me- no rush to get me out the door and onto the next patient. I’ve never been so comfortable with a doctor in my life- and he has lots of experience with Endo and great success with fertility in women with Endo. I’m in heaven.
I had a bazillion vials of blood drawn and have an ultrasound scheduled in two weeks to make sure everything looks okay anatomy-wise and to see if I have any cysts that may be excacerbating things. He thinks that my previous doctor (a regular obgyn, not an Endo specialist) may not have done a very good job with my surgery and may have missed some Endo. He says that I should have had hormone medicine, not BC afterwards to minimize any remaining Endo (since I wasn’t TTC then). Since I did not, he thinks that the Endo was basically dormant while I was on the pill continuously, but has grown back since I’ve been off the pill to TTC.
Barring anything funny in the bloodwork we will do another laproscopy (robotic this time to minimize scarring and healing time) to check to see if the Endo has re-grown and remove it, and he will run an HSG test to check my tubes while I’m under too. I hear that those can be quite painful so I’m glad that it’ll be done when I’m out.
He believes (and this matches much of the scientific literature I’ve read, especially the recent stuff) that decreased fertility in Endo (especially mild Endo) is almost solely due to an adverse immune response that the body produces trying to combat the Endo, and that once the Endo is removed well, the body reduces/stops producing these inflammatory immune response chemicals, which allows for pregnancy. He’s had great success helping women with Endo, plus he just plain seems awesome, so I’m very optimistic:)
Post # 460
Cycles/months trying: AF is due any day, and I’ve had 2 BFN’s…once AF arrives we will be onto cycle 6.
Current CD/DPO: Currently CD29/12dpo
Chart (if you have one):
Any known issues? not that we know of, but I came off depo about 9 months ago.
Supplements/medications: Just the Swisse ultivite prenatal.
Next steps? I really don’t know. I’m really young, so I don’t want to overreact and go to the doctor and then they thinkI’m crazy because it’s only been 6 months PLUS coming of depo hasnt helped our situation.
FOR FUN: What’s your favorite holiday and why?
Christmas, because it’s just so magical, I love talking to the kids at work about Santa, and Rudolph and the Elves, sometimes you just need to believe in magic. It’s also such a “warm” holiday. Although, here in Australia, it really is warm! haha.
Also, I’d really love to get some advice about how you ladies deal with these BFP’s, they’re really getting me down now. Maybe it’s because 6 months is a bit of a milestone, but I’m REALLY struggling this month with the impending arrival of AF
Post # 461
@AlmostMrsShield: I found the 6,9 and 12 cycle milestones the hardest 🙁 not that I didn’t get upset with the rest but these ones in particular had me grumbling/sobbing etc. 6 months was my worst thou because I was at a wedding, a little tipsy and AF arrived a few days early (luckily not til 10pm) so there was me bawling on DH (who was best man at the wedding) even more upset because I’d spent most of the day snuggling up with one of the other grooms men’s baby *sigh*. I wish I could say it gets easier but in my experience it doesn’t. The only thing that gets easier is in my case I’ve stopped thinking it could be positive and I assume I’ll see AF, no expectations for a BFP means the grieving time every time I get AF is shorter. Sometimes it is over before AF arrives in full force (I used to get pre-AF spotting but that stopped a few months ago).
I hope you don’t have to be here too long 🙂 and I mean that in the nicest possible way…
Post # 462
*Crosspost from the Charters thread*
Today was my appointment to get the results of my recurrent pregnancy loss tests, and all my tests came out normal: TSH, FSH, Progesterone, MTHFR, etc. The ultrasound showed no issues with my uterus or my ovaries.
My OB doesn’t think that there is a need to get an HSG or SHG, since the fact that I get pregnant means that my tubes are not blocked, but she could refer me for those tests if I still want them. Her explanation makes sense, so not sure I want to ask for them yet.
I was so hoping something would be wrong, so that there was “something” that could be treated. She referred me to a genetics specialist for karyotype testing to test both DH and I for DNA translocations which is a condition that causes recurrent miscarriages. She explained that if either of us tests positive for it, the only way to conceive would be with IVF….
She also gave me a referral for an acupuncture center, she said some of her patients that struggled with infertility and unexplained recurrent miscarriages were able to conceive with the help of acupuncture treatments at this place. At this point, I’ll try anything, so I already scheduled an appointment for Sunday; this center is open 7 days a week!
Feeling a bit hopeless right now 🙁
Post # 463
- Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site
Ok, so I’m not going to post any photos but I got my bfp this weekend. I could use some crossed fingers in hopes that I don’t miscarry again. I’m 4w1d based on LMP but only 11 (almost 12) dpo because my cycle is messed up since the miscarriage. Anyway, my lines are looking very good so far, but I’m terrified.
Post # 464
May I please have a bit of a vent, whinge, pity party?
I know it’s only cycle 6, but I really honestly, never expected to be here. I used to look at this board and think those poor ladies, I don’t think I would ever have the strength to deal with TTC for that long! And yet, here I am, still wondering how on earth I will find the strength to cope with this difficult time of accepting AF has arrived.
I went to see a psychic a couple of months ago, mainly for fun, I’m undecided on my stance on psychics etc. Anyway, she told me that I will do everything in the right order, when I asked what she meant, she said I would have my career and a house before having children. I didn’t think much of it until the last 2 bfns I’ve had…if she is actually right, then I have a good two years of bfns ahead of me! That could be iNCREDIBLY defeating. Furthermore, Fiance and I purchased a nursery suite two weeks ago, it was one we have loved forever, even before TTC I would browse baby furniture and we had always loved this one…it came on sale ($1000 off) and so we bought it, because we are, eventually, giong to need it! Now, I’m thinking we’ve jinxed ourselves. 🙁
And finally, how exactly do you bees get through each month? And do you have any advice for coping with these overwhelming feelings of defeat, failure, disappointment, and most of all, deal with my temper tanrums! At least Fiance will be well versed in dealing with “terrible twos” type behaviour 😉
i’m going to say in advance, thanks for your support, and I’m so glad I have somewhere to vent and let out my feelings where people can relate.
Post # 465
Anyone else able to make deposits for SA’s from home (drive it over after)? For us it’s the most hilariously awkward situation. And of course the place we bring it to has a FIFTEEN MINUTE drop off window. I mean, he has to perform, give up the goods without much help and let me drive it over (luckily it’s only 5ish minutes away) while trying to keep it warm (but not too warm)… I feel bad for those people who live further outside of town!
Post # 466
You’re not alone in being part of the pity brigade beforehand. I remember looking and thinking, “6 months is so long…they must have so many problems,” and thinking even worse of the 12-months+ groups. I’m now 10 cycles into trying and, at this point, am pretty confident I will get to 11 and 12 unless we go forward with treatment.
You have to laugh at the irony of it, though — saying to yourself, “I’ll never be one of them!” and then…yeah…guess where you end up?
I don’t believe in the least about jynxing yourself. I have everything I’ll ever need for a baby, and I don’t feel the least bit bad about it. When I finally get that BFP, it’ll be time to assemble the pieces, decorate the nursery more, and feel relaxed and content that I took care of so much of it before getting pregnant. I have told myself that if I never get pregnant, all of these items will be a blessing in the life of a pregnant woman who can’t afford it. That will make me very happy.
I don’t know why we’ve all been dealt such a cruel blow. I wish I knew. But I hope that when all of you look at the furniture you’ve purchased for your future child, as I have, you feel a semblance of hope and happiness. Somehow, all of it makes me feel secure. One way or another, a baby WILL one day sleep in that crib.