Post # 467
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
Pre-emptive congrats and good luck! Stay in there baby!
No worries about the vent. We’ve all been there. I find that when I start to feel defeated taking a break from the Bee for a few days helps. I always come back, the support here is amazing, but it helps me to not think about it for awhile. I also like to read or play video games to take my mind off of our struggles, basically immerse myself in another world, you know? Working on my thesis (which I really should be doing now intead of being on the Bee) fills a lot of my time too:)
I don’t buy into psychics myself. I think that they are very skilled at reading and understanding people and tell them what they think they want to hear. personally, I didn’t realize you were very young- your posts have always come off as quite mature- well thoguht out and confident to me, to me. I bet the psychic saw you as a well put together, but young woman and assumed that you wouldn’t be trying to have kids soon, so she gave you that reading. I wouldn’t put much stock in it.
I agree with @ShellVee:
that the milestones are particularly hard. I’ll be coming up on 9 months here very soon and that just make me think about the 1 year mark, which is terribly depressing. I’ve also quit POanyS. If I am really late, like over 4-5 days I will consider it, but I’ve had too many BFN disappointments, so I just assume AF will come and it helps a little.
Post # 468
Honestly, the 6th month is really, really tough! I was very carefree about the whole thing until then. Most people expect to get pregnant in 6 months so it’s a shock if you don’t. However, loads of women with no issues are just unlucky enough to have a longer wait. In the meantime, you could get your bloods done to make sure all is ok. I discovered hypothoidism and slight anaemia when I did mine. Also, get your DH to do an SA. These are easy cheap tests to do now, when you are waiting it out until your BFP.
Post # 469
I’m freaking out a little and need some encouragement. We are on cycle #10, I ovulate CD 14-15 consistently, 10-12 day LP. We went to Vegas last week (3 times zones away) and I have been getting up at different times, trouble sleeping, and sleeping in a few different places with different ambien temperatures (I know, not ideal).
I normally have significant breast tenderness and weepiness starting 3-5 days before my period, and I have none- in fact I am in a better mood than I normally am. I am having tons of CM. I can’t test until DH comes home, which might not be til Friday (darn winter storm).
My other concern is I just read something about safety in pregnancy. I am normally very careful, but after trying so many times unsuccessfully and being on vacation, I was less careful. While we were in Vegas, I had a drink, was in outdoor hot tub, went down a water slide multiple times, had mackerel and sushi (I read that mackerel was middle range for mercury, but just read that it is bad), and went through the airport security scanner. Now I am worried that either I’m not pregnant AGAIN or I am and our baby will have 3 heads. Please calm me down!
Post # 470
That early on, it’s highly unlikely baby has any connection to your bloodstream — so you have no worries about alcohol. Most of the activities you did too? Highly unlikely that it would cause a chemical or anything else of the like. With booze, the studies done have only focused on HEAVY drinkers (usually 14+ drinks per week). The emerging research is increasingly finding that moderate drinking…one here and there…even throughout pregnancy, is very unlikely to be detrimental.
It’ll be OK.
Post # 471
I think the same about buying our furniture early, it’s one less thing to stress about when we do fall pregnant. And (as terrible and spoilt-brattish as this sounds) I know that my dad and step-mum will be VERY excited to help get things for bubba, like prams and car seats. He’s actually the one who said to us “you don’t worry about that shit, everyone else buys it for you”. This is totally not my opinion, our baby = our expenses, but if he insists! 😉
I actually do have really low iron, I know I need to have another blood test done to see if it’s any better, but I really don’t want to have any more needles if it still low. Last time it was checked, it was dangerously low. Apparently when normal people have “low iron” they have a low iron count in their blood, and then they have an iron store in their body. In my case, I have pretty much no iron in my blood, and what was there had been taken from the iron store in my body. Crazy!
well, I’m not really that young anymore, not shockingly young anyhow…22, so I’m slowly getting old enough to be taken seriously about having a baby (sometimes) though I still get strange looks from most people, at least they don’t judge me anymore, most of the time! Uni goes back in a month, so hopefully that gives me something to focus on, and we have a subject about social equality, which includes a component of volunteer prac work, so it’ll be great to be back in the classroom! I’m thinking of doing it at the hopsital school…but I’m not sure I could handle seeing some of the really sick kids. I also thought about the autistic school in our area, it would be a great experience and – although this isn’t what its all about – it would look great on a teaching resume.
Post # 472
It is so great to find a doctor that actually listens to you! Dont let that doctor go!
I am so sorry you didnt get a clear answer to what your problem is. Unexplained infertility is probably the worst.
It is very difficult to hit the 6 month mark. Ive had a very hard time dealing with it, especially since I have long cycles. I was driving my DH nuts. I deal with it by journaling. Writing stuff out really helps me understand my feelings and getting them out into the universe. I have been doing everything I can to not symptom spot and to keep my mind off of TTC.
Post # 473
Cycles/months trying: Feb. makes #6
Current CD/DPO: CD21.
Chart (if you have one): none
Any known issues? PCOS.
Supplements/medications: Prenatals, metformin
Next steps? Doc is wanting to let the metformin have a chance for one month. So if no BFP in Feb then starting in March we will be trying Clomid with the Metformin.
Post # 474
I feel like such a bad person! I did just go and stalk the October Mamas thread to give my congraultations. But, if I’m honest, I really honestly thought I would be a part of that one, and I’m actually more than a little bit jealous 🙁 What a horrible thing to feel about some wonderful ladies who I know have been going through the same feelings and emotions as I have. Although, there do seem to be lots of first, second and third cycle winners out there! lol. OK, pity party has ended.
On a positive note (ok, not so positive but at least I’m looking ahead, I have decided that if I am not pregnant by the end of the year, then we will move to England and I will teach over there for 1 year. Fiance is yet to hear about this plan, but it’s happening! I’d love to go on exchange and do my final semester of study over there, but with the wedding and the fact that it’s my final semester, I just can’t. 🙁 It would be so great if I can work over there though, then I’d be able to support myself for the 12 months! 😀
Post # 475
I always look at the Mama boards – and I really should stop. Its just so hard because alot of bees that I “know” are already on Mama boards. And here I am. ugh.
I am just getting over the flu…and of course now my DH is sick. hopefully we are both healthy during my fertile window…this sickness makes walking exhausting – cant imagine BDing like this. LOL.
Do you guys think that being sick and taking all this medicine is going to effect my O date?
Post # 476
I don’t know. Maybe I’m weird, but I actually tend to ovulate a little sooner when I’m sick and taking medication. I have heard for most people it’s a delay, though. I can’t speak for you, but when I am delayed, it’s usually only by a day or two — though I know that can make all the difference if someone’s traveling/got time off at certain points, etc.
I think that going with teaching for a year sounds like a great idea (I see you’re from Australia; have you been to England before?). I know that for us, it’s going to be even more difficult to travel once we have a kid, so getting something big like that out of the way first/while pregnant/during the very early years would be wonderful.
One of the most helpful things for me has been trying to put my goals into things not related to making babies (for reference, I’m in cycle 10/TTC 9 months now). That gradually became my biggest goal. For me now, it’s boosting productivity at work, planning a vacation for later this year, getting into better shape, etc. I’ve also started making other longer-term plans in the event I’m not pregnant in the next year or so. Life has to go on at some point.
It’s a very liberating thing in some ways when you get to that point of the conceiving journey. For once, it feels like you have some degree of control and it’s not all left to chance.
Best of luck to you and yours.
Post # 477
I hope you don’t mind me joining – DH and I are only on cycle 5 of trying, but I have long cycles and so it has been over 6 months for us.
Cycles/months trying: 5 cycles, 6 months
Current CD/DPO: CD30
Chart (if you have one):
Any known issues? PCOS
Supplements/medications: CoQ10, myoinositol, vitamin D, prenatal
Next steps? Just started cycle monitoring this cycle
FOR FUN: What’s your favorite holiday and why? Christmas! It just feels cozy and magical to me 🙂
Post # 478
I just posted this question/rant in the charters thread, but I thought I would post it here too, in case anyone has experience with cycle monitoring…
I am super confused right now. DH and I are TTC and haven’t had any luck yet (we’re on cycle 5 over the past 6 months). I know I have PCOS, but I also know that I ovulate (with a slightly irregular/longer cycle). I have been charting for the past 6 cycles and I always have EWCM, 2 days of positive OPKs, followed by a temp rise and then my period 12-14 days later. I do have a lot of spotting, which is a concern.
This month we started working with a RE/fertility clinic and are doing cycle monitoring, so I go in every morning for bloodwork and ultrasound. It has been a really long, wonky cycle (just my luck!) – I usually O around CD17-20 but this month I was very late. After way too many days of bw and us, the clinic finally told me that I O’d yesterday. They based this on a dominant follicle (1.9cm) on my right ovary and a drop in my estrogen levels (573 to 294). This seemed to line up with my own charting, as I was on my second day of positive OPKs (which has historically been the day FF tells me I ovulate). So I went to bed feeling reassured that my own charting was lining up with the clinic’s cycle monitoring and expected to see a temp rise today. Except it never came. My temp was the exact same (actually .01C lower) as yesterdays. I took my temp at the same time, and always try to be as accurate as possible. So now I have no idea whats going on, and why I didn’t have a temp rise if the clinic confirmed that I O’d yesterday.
Any thoughts??? I feel a bit stressed out and am trying to restrain myself from calling the clinic and bombarding them with questions.
This whole TTC thing is so difficult! Especially after now starting the cycle monitoring. It is physically and emotionally exhausting, especially when things like this happen and it just feels like my body isn’t working right 🙁
Post # 479
wow…i am confused for you. Maybe your temp will go up tomorrow? If the clinic says you ovulated, I would take their word for it…especially since they have data behind it.
Post # 480
Ya, I guess so. It just seems so confusing to me! Oh well … fingers crossed that my temp rises tomorrow, maybe I am just having a delayed rise.
Post # 481
I just have to express my somewhat irrational and selfish relief. My SIL just gave birth to baby #2. They already have a son who is an amazing little boy. This time around my SIL didnt find out the gender until the birth. She guessed it was a boy, and I went along with what she said (pregnant women are usually right!).
A little background – she is 90% sure she got pregnant on OUR wedding night and my in-laws have been really pressuring us to get pregnant. My SIL is gorgeous, thin, and is a Stay-At-Home Mom. It is very easy to be jealous of her. Especially when she looks amazing pregnant and loses the little bit of weight she puts on in an instant. Sure I know shes not perfect – but still her life seems to be pretty great. Well anyway since I found out she was pregnant I was really hoping it was going to be another boy. If she had a girl – she would have ended up with what I consider a perfect family. I was very nervous when I found out she was in labor – I was trying to prepare myself for the announcement that it was a little girl. Anyway, I am relieved to tell you she had a boy. He will probably be great too and I am very happy for them! I would have been really depressed if she ended up with a girl, and it would have been very hard for me to see them.
Phew – thanks for letting me get my irrational thoughts out there!