- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I just wanted to make a support thread for those of us that have bern trying 6 months or longer. It’s a rough spot to be in, whether you have fertility issues or not. 6 months is entering incomfortable territory, because you’re not considered “infertile” yet, and a lot of times, your dr won’t even entertain giving you tests yet. So you just have to power through, and it’s hard when it seems like everyone comes to the 2ww threads and don’t have to stick around very long. I’m genuinely happy for those people…I really am! But it can take a toll on emotions when, month after month, still no bfp.
So, i just wanted to open up the floor for our little niche group, and have a place for special support. I’ve noticed that many other boards have a special support area for people that are taking a little longer, and I thought that was a good idea.
So, hi. I’m jholler, and I’m on CD 1 of Cycle 6.
If you’ve been around long enough to join me here, then you probably know my deal. I’m Type A, and have already had all the CD3 Bloodwork, and an HSG. DH had an SA. We passed with flying colors. But we’ve failed every pregnancy test we’ve taken so far, and, well- I’m really struggling with it. I used to be very vocal on here. I’ve been quiet lately. I used to be so excited and hopeful each cycle. “Maybe this is our month!” I’d think. Now, I don’t get excited. Month 4 really broke my heart. I felt mostly numb after that, because we had the most beautiful timing ever. I dusted myself off when AF rolled in and punched my lights out. Month 5, I was proud of how calm and cool I was. I think my body was in defense mode from CD 1, trying to make me numb and feel less involved, so when I got my BFN it would hurt and shock much less. It didn’t. I was shattered.
So I’m recovering. But that’s where I’m at. I’m looking to relate to bees in the same position. Hopefully we can ride this road to a bfp together:)
And just to add, I know that people with very good intentions try to give advice, but if your advice is to “just relax” or “stop thinking about it” or “it will happen when it’s the right time,” just save your energy and please don’t type those words. They don’t help. They actually infuriate me. Any of the above is pretty impossible to do, and also should be ILLEGAL when talking to someone who’s trying to conceive.