(Closed) The 6 Months + TTC Ladies: It's About Darn Time We Got Our BFPs ~ Part 13

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Post # 482
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@MellowMood:  I know I welcomed you, but how did I miss that we are wedding date twins?!  How fun!  I’m sorry about about the SA.  I’m worried there might be something wrong with my husband’s sperm, too. 

I’ll come back and write more later–gotta take the cat to the vet.

Post # 483
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@STB Ms.Win:  Thank you.  I was in the same boat – I have prepared myself to handle it being ‘my’ issue.  My husband on the other hand has extreme anxiety and is very hard on himself.  Luckily I got the call and went over everything with the doctor first, so I could break it him as easily as I could.  He didn’t take it well at all, but I had already had time to deal with the news (cried on the phone to my mom) so I was able to be strong for him when I told him.  I hope your ultrasound went well yesterday πŸ™‚

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@funnybunny:  I’m sorry about your husbands motility, and I know exactly what you mean.  I just want to fix it for him!  Sounds like the IUI went great! and we are on the same cycle this month – so I’m in the TWW with you!

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@hamikay:  That sounds very interesting.  We are headed together to my accupuncturist today and he will work on diet for my DH (he already does for me).  I am going to research that before our appointment.  Thank you and so glad to hear it is working so well for your husband – that is truly amazing.  I will PM you if I have any questions.  I also am in the ‘don’t expect anything for the next 3 months’ zone (month 1) and as much as it stinks I think it makes the BFN a little easier to take and understand.

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@Mickey9998:  any updates yet, hoping you O’d late and no AF.

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@nyckitten:   I just think guys deal with this in such a different way than we do.  I have been encouraging him to talk to a friend or someone other than me about it, but no luck yet. What a bummer the tests didn’t show anything new for you husband.  It is a little easier to take this information if you have an identifiable way to treat it/work on it.  Hope you get good news on this next round of SA results and glad you are in good spirits now.  Anesthesia isn’t bad, I have had it a fews times for minor surgeries and at least you don’t remember anything after πŸ˜‰

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@MissyKris:  welcome, I’m pretty new over here myself and I have learned a ton already.  The ladies here are super supportive and informative.  I second a short a sweet stay here for you!

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@ChuckNorris:  Thank you, I a little nervous for the talk and first consult, but I would rather know what we are up against and prepare myself mentally.  At least when I see the BFN or AF I will be better prepared for it.

 

It was a super tough weekend – my DH spend sunday/sunday night in the hospital with a crazy IBS flare up.  Which means hot pads/showers + heavy meds.  I am terrified what it just did to his boys. This was concurrent with my LH surge sat night/sun morning + EWCM.  This was my first month temping and I just missed the most important 2 days b/c of being up at all hours of the last 2 nights with DH.  So frustrating to have missed those temps, it was perfectly terrible timing. 

We managed one BD sunday am, but he is out of commision for a few days due to the meds.  The positive side of me is glad the flare up happened now at the beginning of our 3 month wait to work on his count and morphology.  Better now than in 2 months.  I have accupunture today and DH is getting his first treatment as well as diet consult.  We have the RE consult on tomorrow.  I think this board is helping me to stay so positive, because for whatever reason I am positive right now. Thank you all for the support!

Post # 484
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@cafegirl:  Hey I missed that too πŸ™‚   Hope your cat is ok, none of us need anymore stress than we already have!

It is tough to get your husband in for the SA, but if there is a problem it is nice to know sooner than later since it takes time for guys to work on regenerating a healthy batch.

Post # 485
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@hamikay:  Hi Friend!

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@Mickey9998:  I’m so sorry you are going through this.  I really hope you either get AF or a BFP soon!  I do see you wrote this a few days ago so I apologize if you posted an update elsewhere.  How are you doing?

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@MissyKris:  Welcome! 

AFM, I don’t have a lot to report.  I was a little annoyed all weekend because those were my most fertile days this month and my husband got a fever and sore throat!  We only BD’d once and I am pretty sure it was too early.  Then of course I felt bad because I kept worrying more about my husband’s sperm being killed from the fever rather than his illness.  Poor guy–it wasn’t his fault and I did take good care of him, but of all the days…!   Another month bites the dust!

Post # 486
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MissyKris:  Welcome, hope your stay with us is short and sweet

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@MellowMood: I’m glad that you were able to have your own time to absorb the info about your DH’s SA before telling him. Sorry to hear about his IBS flare up this weekend, that is no fun at all for anyone. I hope the diet and acu treatments are able to help him. Have you looked into FertileAid for Men supplements at all? I have heard really great things about it.

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@cafegirl:  Don’t you hate when life gets in the way of your TTC plans! Wink Hopefully your DH is feeling better and next month you guys have better timing.

AFM (apologies in advance for the novel)… We had our initial consult with the RE yesterday, wow so much info! He was a nice guy, very friendly and easy to talk to for the most part although somewhat abrupt. I had a full blood workup yesterday (12 vials worth Surprised), an abdominal ultrasound and a transvag ultrasound. DH also had a full new patient blood workup.

The doc said my ultrasounds looked normal and I had 24 follicles which is good for CD5. He was pretty dismissive of my chating and felt that just relying on OPK’s would be more accurate. I am going to continue charting regardless as it provides me with some piece of mind. I may consider adding the OPK’s next cycle if I can order some. Next steps for us is for me to get an HSG done on Thursday (they are associated with a major hospital and seem to be able to get their patient in for procedures pretty quickly). DH has to go do his SA’s when he has some time off in the next couple of weeks. We have a follow up in 4-5 weeks to discuss the results of all the testing and figure out what our next steps are. 

They were really good about explaining what is and isn’t covered for us under our provincial healthcare and overall more things are covered then I thought. It was a largely positive experience and I am glad we are moving forward and have some kind of plan.

Thank you ladies for all of your encouragement and kind words up to this point. It is such a tough position to be in and I am not comfortable yet sharing with anyone IRL that we have been trying for almost a year so it is nice to have all of you to share/comisserate with about TTC.       

Post # 487
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Update: AF showed up finally on day 42! Hopefully, that was just a fluke and not a new trend! Starting this month with a positive attitude and went to the store to replenish my OPK stash. I’m going to give it 1 more month and then I’ll cave and start charting again. It’s hard because I’m a nurse and my schedule is so strange, so waking up at the same time to temp got to be difficult.

Post # 488
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mickey9998:  Glad that AF finally showed up for you. Even though CD1 is always a bit of a bummer it also means a fresh start and another chance to TTC. Hopefully this last cycle is just a fluke and you go back to a more normal length.

Post # 489
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@STB Ms.Win:  good luck with your HSG! glad you had a good consult.

Cross Posted from 1+ year thread:

 so, I know I only joined the ttc boards a few months ago, but I am finding myself looking at WB waaaay too much at work. and I think I need to give myself a moratorium.

not to mention, i just really need to figure out how to focus on ME and my life and be happy while ttc. it’s so so hard. and I LOVE the support of this community but i really think it feeds my ttc obsession.

so. . .we are taking a mandated break from ttc this cycle because I’m having a lap surgery next week, and I think I’m going to use this as an intervention for myself. no more WB!!

i will miss you all, even in the short time i’ve been posting here, I have come to think of you all so fondly! cheesy but true πŸ™‚

by the way, I’m not a Mormon and this lady is, but this blog http://www.ablogaboutlove.com

also contributed to kick-starting the new atttitude I’m trying to have. She has been ttc a total of 8 years with 2 different husbands and is totally positive about it. . .it was very inspirational to me to read her posts.

anyway, love to everyone and prayers for sticky babies. I may or may not come back in December. . .if so, I’ll see you then!

Post # 490
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@hellorebecca:  Will miss you around here!  I’ve tried to “kick” the WB habit, with no luck, so I wish you luck!  Your new outlook sounds great!  Good luck with your lap!

Post # 492
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@hellorebecca:  I totally understand!  I hope you come back becauase I enjoy having you around, but I hear where you’re coming from.  I love coming here and especially love some of the ladies I’ve met here which is what keeps me coming back, but I have found when I am on too much I think about TTC even more and then feel sad more often.  Not to mention I don’t get as much work done!  I’ve found a good balance to be to check in a couple times a week and limit my time.  I feel a liitle more detached from TTC which is healthy mentally.  I’ll check out that blog!

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@Mickey9998:  That’s great!  I hope that long cycle was just a fluke.  I had a weird extra long cycle back in July and it really messed with my mind!

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@MrsFarmer:  You are so sweet.  You are definately in my prayers!

Post # 494
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hey ladies! Well I guess I will join all of you here…. Currently on month 7 TTC. We have already had some testing done, including a round of blood test for me and my DH had a SA done. Both with normal results. Right now I am currently waiting on a phone call to schedule a HSG. I never in a million years anticipated not getting pregnant right away. This has been a very trying time in my life. I am a charter so I have “seen” quite a few of you over on those boards as well.

I wish everyone well and lots of baby dust πŸ™‚ Excited to get to know your stories πŸ™‚ Though I hope my time here is short!

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