- 9 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
Regular poster, have been absent for awhile. I am just super embarrassed so haven’t been on lately. I am really hurting right now and my friends don’t understand. I have tried to tur to my best friend, but she just tries to smooth it over. So I am alone in how I feel, and feeling really alone and hurt, not to mention scared.
My husband is crazy irresponsible with money. I had many clues, and signals, but didn’t get the full picture until after the wedding. he doesnt do drugs, drink, smoke…he just likes to pretend he is someone he isn’t. He wooed me with money he didn’t have. he is a great guy otherwise, loving, kind, caring, loyal. There are many great qualities to him.
I am struggling as a wife. My husband (finally) I think landed a contract job so he will be making some sort of income. He has a few expensive cars. In fact, he has $45,000 in credit card bills and we just had another argument about this. he is supposed to be doing the bills, as frankly he has a tonne and I didn’t want to have to manage him and his many debtors…but he failed to pay my car insurance out o our joint account and guess what-my insurance got CANCELLED.
He admitted he screwed up, but so far, all I do is babysit my husband. He offered to take care of the insurance and then “forgot”. So now I am uninsurable as it was the second time in 6 months a payment was missed thanks to him.
He barely helps around the house. I struggle with this statement because as much as I would love to clean up after him and care for him, I also have a family as well and need to care for them, too. On top of that we have a few pets, one who was close t odeath. I left the house and had to remind him to feed the sick pet, because he forgot before. If I don’t do it, it just doesn’t get done around here.
I am miserable. I know somewhere in there I am in love with him but these other issues are drying up my love fast. He doesn’t “take care” of me at all. I am very envious of those who have husbands who are good breadwinners, or caregivers, and responsible. Mine squandered away his life savings on crap and blew close to 60K over the psat few years and now we are left renting and with nothing.
I don’t know what to do. I need some advice, and don’t know where to turn-hoping the bees can help me out with sorting through my feelings. I can’t even talk to him.