Post # 1
What is the etiquette for choosing bridesmaids if you were in their wedding? Do you automatically have to include them? Do you give them some other task like guest book? What if you haven’t spoken to them in years but you were her MOH? I would never choose these girls to be in my wedding except for the fact that I was in theirs. What to do??
Post # 3
Choose who you want, don’t worry about who chose you. It’s a recipe for problems if you choose people you don’t really want there, and everyone’s situations are different. They may have chosen you because they had different circumstances.
Post # 4
times and relationships change.. i think you should make the best decision for YOU . if someone gets upset about it, you did not do the wrong thing. I wasnt in a friend of mines wedding but i am going to have her in mine and it doesnt bother me, we just got closer since hers. I think it goes vice versa for growing apart.
if you do feel guilty, find something special for them to do. always do what works best for you
Post # 5
I would pick who I’m closest to now, if I were you. The quality of friendships can change over time, and I don’t think someone you were super close to years ago would be offended not to be chosen as a Bridesmaid or Best Man if you’ve drifted apart. How many people’s weddings have you stood up in?
Post # 6
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
Honorary Guest? Gah please don’t insult anyone by calling them that or make them stand around guarding the guest book – that sounds TERRIBLE!
Post # 7
@DomesticDiva: I’ve been in 3 weddings. I was Maid/Matron of Honor in 2, but one was my sisters, so I’m obviously not concerned about her being in my wedding, she will be my Maid/Matron of Honor too.
Post # 8
@Azalea_Bee: Gotcha. Yeah, if you’re still close with those two other ladies, sure, it would be nice to have them with you on your big day. If not, I would just go with whoever you ARE close to now.
Case in point: I’ve been in two weddings, one was my sister’s, and like your case, she will definitely be my Maid/Matron of Honor when I get married. The other was my best friend from high school, who I just saw for the first time in 3 or 4 years this weekend! Unless we really rekindle that friendship, I will probably not choose her as an attendant when I do get married.