(Closed) The age old question: Where does my registry info go if…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

Can you get your Future Mother-In-Law or FBIL/FSIL to spread the word with his family?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I personally wouldn’t add the info card.
I would let the information spread via word of mouth.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@SouthernGirl:  I know the hive is super against putting it anywhere in the invitation suite, but every wedding invitation I’ve ever seen has had it included. Generally, a small card is included in the suite along with the RSVP card and such. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

In Australia (and a lot of other countries, by the sounds of it), it’s very normal to include registry information with the invitation. If anyone does get their nose out of joint about it, I would either 1. explain what you have here (that there really is no other convenient way to get the info to your guests) or 2. wonder why someone is so childish and petty that they would get upset about you including registry information with your invitations.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

Meh, it’s fine to include it on its own little card, given the circumstances.  (PS, is your guest list mostly Amish?  Who are these people that don’t use the Internet?!)

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m from Australia, so maybe different customs, but here it is common for people to have a “wishing well” for people to give money if they like instead of a registry – mainly because most people buy a house and even start a family before getting married so it’s more useful. This is always included in the wedding suite – so I don’t see why you can’t include your registry information! I certainly wouldnt be offended by it. 🙂 Don’t stress. People in real life wont chew you up over things like this – it’s only because there are SO many ladies on the bee, that a few of them have fantastic etiquette but because it’s all in one place feels like its you against the world! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SouthernGirl:  everyone I know includes registry information with the invitation, maybe it’s a local thing?

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I personally get an icky feeling when I see a registry card with an invitation.  When I lived at home, my mom used to like to see the invitations and she would comment if there was registry information.  People will say that guests don’t care, but guests probably just don’t say anything.

I’ve never had trouble finding out if someone is registered.  There are only so many stores.  Americans have the advantage of those sites that list all the registries that don’t include Canadian stores (or at least didn’t the last time I checked).  People who don’t use the internet ask around or phone the stores, they have always figured it out from what I have seen.  Some people prefer to just give cheques.

You know your family and Future In-Laws better than us.  It sounds like you’re inviting quite a few Future In-Laws.  Is there someone that your FH is close with that would be willing to spread the word?  That’s the route that personally I would feel most comfortable with.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you should just put an insert. Ours was included in the shower invitation and on our website but since you can’t do that it makes sense. People will understand. 

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