(Closed) the anti-bridesmaid

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

How much younger is the cousin in question? College-aged? HS aged (doubtful since you said bar)?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think you need to have a chat with her and lay down the law–it’s your (and your fiance’s) day, and she needs to either put up or shut up.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with sgrape, put up or shut up… This isnt a day about her.

and when it comes time for her wedding (payback time)Wink

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I teach college-aged kids, including older students up to 26 and I gotta say, some 24-year-olds are just immature and self-absorbed–honestly, it sounds like she just doesn’t get it. And you can’t mature her for her so if I were you, I’d grit my teeth and tell myself, “She just doesn’t get it” every time she did something annoying. It’ll make it seem more funny than infuriating.

The art of saying ‘no’ is just saying it–politely, but still saying it, even if you have to do it over and over. As soon as you say “no” you can move on to other things; as far as she’s concerned, too bad, so sad.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

You are getting roped into her drama. Don’t fight her–if she wants to complain and be unhappy about your choices, then it’s rude, but you can’t really stop her (unless you boot her off)–I mean, you might be able to have a stern talk and stop the comments, but you can’t make her happy with things if she doesn’t want to be.

Next time she voices an opinion like that, just say, “Well at your wedding, sweetie, you don’t have to wear them!”

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Since she’s young she’s probably never been in a wedding and not submerged in the wedding world like the rest of us.  I would let your aunt or someone know that she needs to chill a little and just go with the flow.  It would make your life so much easier!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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