Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
So as you may or may not know…I am recently engaged and happier than ever. While I have had nothing but wedding brain it seems my Fiance has something else going through his. It started a couple weeks ago when my parents came to visit. My father somehow got started talking about how he one day looks forward to being a grandparent. I tell him he shouldn’t be thinking about this until the Fiance and are happily married and that the first thing on his mind should be seeing us down the aisle. Then to my utter surprise my Fiance chimes in…"Just wait… by next year" Thoughts going through my head: "What!?! Are you insane…we aren’t even married yet, nor have we set a date." I smile politely and say "We will see, I am not ready to think about that yet, maybe in two years." Well the convo ended there…or so I thought. Later that evening Fiance brings up how he is really ready to be father and that he was serious about his comment earlier. I respond with " If all the circumstances were right I would love nothing more to be a mother right now, but you still have a hard time training the puppies and taking them on walks…Do you really think you are ready?" He smiles and says " Good point, but I am not getting any younger, and I think I am ready to be a father." I kinda do the eye roll and say that we will talk about it after we are married.
It’s quite hard to believe coming from a man who wasn’t quite sure he was ready for marriage. It’s a strange thing the male brain and I am not quite sure I will understand its innerworkings. Has anyone else’s Fiance or husband caught the baby bug? Did it catch you off guard like it did me?
Post # 3
Oh jeez not yet thank god. He’s a few years older than me, though, so I hope he can chill out on the "B" word for a few years.
Post # 4
My husband totally did! Ever since the wedding he brings up having kids at least once a day. And I thought I was bad 🙂
Post # 5
Yes my Fiance definitely has the baby bug.
He is 6 years older than I and doesn’t have kids of his own, and having such a wonderful relationship with my 7 yr old I think just accelerates the wanting of his own. Good thing is he wants to wait until we are married but knowing him that means on the wedding night.
I’m not 100% sure how I feel about it yet b/c of the hard times I had when I had my little girl, plus not to mention he may get deployed again in 2011
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
Haha ..I know I thought it was the woman that would constantly bring up having a baby…I think it is cuz my Fiance is 27 and he has the idea in his head that he would rather conceive a baby before he hits 30…me I am 24 and am glad to wait at least 2 years…I want to be happily married first!!
Post # 7
that makes total sense to me. my mister had a really hard time getting ready to consider marriage because in his mind marriage means being a provider and a father, etc. so i think it is a really easy transition from marriage to fatherhood for men. i think women tend to view each event individually.
Post # 8
Wow what is going on with these men?? Lol Dear Fiance is the same way!! I have finally convinced him we should wait but he keeps hinting at a honeymoon baby!! I want at least a year of married life together before we do that. He says he’s not getting any younger.
Post # 9
Girl, my Fiance caught the baby bug early in our relationship. If it wasn’t for me we would have had a baby or two but I wanted to wait until we were married. We agreed that once we are married whatever happens, happens. Like in "My Big Fat Greek Wedding", I wouldn’t be surprised if I am impregnated the day after the wedding, lol!
Post # 10
My Fiance doesn’t have the baby bug, but I do have him convinced that we shouldn’t wait too long after we get married to try. He’d love to stay childless for a couple years, but I’m 33, so I don’t want to wait too long before we start.
Post # 11
Haha My fiance did the same thing. He wants kids really bad, like now. So I have been fighting him tooth and nail to atleast wait until we are married. My parents would KILL me, like kill me dead if I got pregnant before I was married hehe. He also wants too have a lot of babies, like 4 I was like "Hold up Cowboy, maybe 2".
He even gets pouty when I go to get my birth control shot lol. He’s convinced I don’t need it. But as of right now we don’t have a choice about having a baby seeing as how he is in Afghanistan.
When he gets home though, we will probably start going at it again about when to have them.