(Closed) The Bachelor-Party Hype !!!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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8435 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

If you have discussed this with your FH and you have both come to an understanding of what works for you guys (and if you haven’t done that then that is what I would do first) then you trust that he will stay true to is word.

 Mutual trust and communication are foundation stones of a successful and healthy relationship. Talk to each other about both of your feelings on this matter and then set some reasonable “rules” that each of you are happy with.

It is also useless to worry about what if’s. All you will do is worry yourself and possible hurt your relationship. If his friends decide to include adult entertainment then trust that your FH will respect you adn the your mutual agreement. If he doesn’t well then you know what sort of man he is. Up until that point it is unfair to both him and yourself to punish for something that hasn’t and may not even happen.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Aramis:  If you are this upset about it he should take a cue and realise that happy wife= happy life. It is not worth it for him to go out and have 1  night of fun if it’s going to undermine your relationship and your trust. Other people may tell you to get over it, but that’s easier said than done and even if you grin and bear it you know it will hurt you deeply if he disrespects your feelings by going.

I suggest a serious discussion about boundaries–and absolutely no escorts–there’s only 1 reason to hire them..

Post # 6
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8435 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@sylvia.riggle:  If you are this upset about it he should take a cue and realise that happy wife= happy life. It is not worth it for him to go out and have 1  night of fun if it’s going to undermine your relationship and your trust. Other people may tell you to get over it, but that’s easier said than done and even if you grin and bear it you know it will hurt you deeply if he disrespects your feelings by going.

The thing that annoys me about statements like this is that it is totally one sided and suggests that only the females point of view should be considered. There are two people in a relationship and both of their needs should be considered. It is very conceivable that the male in this situation might feel that her not trusting him to behave himself in any given situation is  going to undermine the relationship and the trust.

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