Post # 1
Long story short, my friends (honorary bridesmaids) were unable to go through with the party they had planned for me before my wedding. They told me months ago they would plan another party after the wedding but they never did and there’s been no mention of it …
do I follow up? Or let it go?
I’m kind of bummed but it has been three months and I don’t even know if it matters right now. :/
Post # 3
I would personally let it go because I’m extremely non-confrontational and would convince myself that they would have done it already if they were interested. But, this may not be the situation for you and your honorary b-maids, so I guess what I would do is rather moot. Sorry for being unhelpful.
Post # 4
I would let it go or just plan one myself. They were just honorary bms so they might have just offered to throw you one to be polite.
Post # 5
I’m inclined to let it go as well, but feel it’s rather unfortunate, too. The only reason I could not have bridesmaids was cost and interest-related. These were the same girls who backed out of helping me with my wedding and since… we’re still friends… but I don’t think the experience brought us closer together in the least bit. I feel their lack of doing something they promised me they would is really going hand in hand with their behavior over the past few months.
Post # 6
I can totally see how it would reflect that way and it’s really unfortunate that they are not more excited to celebrate this major life event with you. I’m sorry they haven’t followed through with their promises–I think you’re totally right to be dissapointed with them!
Post # 7
@SimplyChic11: This might sound harsh, but if you couldn’t afford to have them be bridesmaids, why should they spend money on your bachelorette party … after the fact?
You’re already married for 3 full months; why not just assemble your friends for a girls night out without any hints of it being in your honor?
Post # 8
I have tried this, to which I’ve received no response.
Post # 9
@SimplyChic11: Well unfortunately darling, sometimes no response is your response. Just keep enjoying your friends and your new married life!
I’ve been here – I left corporate before I got engaged and the girls at my old job were ALL OVER throwing me a celebratory happy hour with all my old friends. They talked about it for months! Never happened. It made me sad but life goes on!
Post # 10
Wait, I’m confused. They were going to throw you a bachelorette party after your wedding?
If so, I would just let it go. It wouldn’t feel like much of a bachelorette party if it were taking place after my wedding. I wouldn’t even want one after my wedding.
Post # 12
I would let it go… but I hate conflict so maybe that’s just me…
But I think the time to do something has come and gone… Just enjoy married life and have a glass of wine with your girls. 🙂
Post # 13
I would let it go as well; I’m of the same mindset that if they really wanted it to happen it would have happened already.
Some people just have an issue with being forthcoming and it’s certainly not your fault but the fact that they didn’t follow through speaks volumes.
Post # 14
I’m with PPs, I’d let it go.
Post # 15
Yeah, I agree with the others. It majorly sucks, but they’ve made it clear it’s not their priority. Plus, I think the wedding is the apex of the wedding-related events… once it’s over, people are over it and have moved on. Sorry =o/ I think a girls night out is a good idea, though!
Post # 16
Okay, so maybe it’s a little too late for a bachelorette party, but you can still have a night out with your girls to celebrate!