- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I’m a Prudie junkie AND a WeddingBee junkie. Are my two worlds colliding? I swear I just saw this question on the bee just last week.
Q. Firing an Officiant: My fiancé and I are atheists, and we were overjoyed when our friend’s boyfriend decided to get ordained to marry us. We paid him a few hundred dollars to read our vows. But he quickly became domineering, offering endlessly unsolicited advice and trying to run the show. After he came over and insulted our vows last weekend (and insulted me, believing that I wrote them), I’ve had enough with his behavior. He’s only talked to me once since, and that was to back up his earlier comments. Since then, despite calmly telling him once again what we want, he’s ignored me. I’ve been kind to him only to preserve my friendship, but at this point it looks lost. How do I go about firing him?
A: This is a first: an officant-zilla. Luckily you still have time so you say, “Pastor [Ha ha!] Brad, we appreciate your willingness to officiate at our wedding, but as we’ve all discovered our styles aren’t meshing, so we’re going to go another way for our officiant. We appreciate the time you’ve put into this and hope the money we’ve given you compensates you for it. We look forward to having you as a guest at the wedding.” Then you find someone who’s not a nut who can perform your nuptials.