I approched motherhood as something I’d be flexible about, but arm myself with as much information as possible.
That being said, there were a few things, especially in regards to pregnancy that I was very headstrong about…and they turned into fails.
–No interventions, meds, unecessary testing, blah blah blah. I was going to do everything 100% naturally- My body was made for it. The reality: I developed complications with my kidneys which required surgeries, anesthetics, constant monitoring, and induction. I wanted to go pain-med free in labour. Almost made it (got to 10cm) but ended up with an epidural, gas, intervenous pain meds. I will try again this pregnancy.. lol
TV as a distraction: I told myself I would never plunk Dear Daughter infront of the TV so I could get things done. I’d allllways involve her in what i was doing, and it would be fun!<br />The reality: Some days when I come home from work, and just want to get supper done as quickly as possible, with the littlest amount of mess possible, Dora is on TV and Dear Daughter is in there, watching it contently.
Strictly limiting sugar: MY kid was going to be a health eater. MY kid would never have lots of sugarry candy at her age..<br />The Reality: Especially with her in daycare, this became unavoidable. While I do really try to limit a lot of sweets, she still probably eats more than she needs to. There’s a lot of good food that I WISH she would eat but she flat out refuses.
Being a Stay-At-Home Mom: I was not letting “somone else raise my child”<br />The reality: As much as I begged my husband that we could afford me to stay home, and as hard as I tried to convince my bosses to lower me to part-time, it just didn’t work. I had the first year with my Dear Daughter and appreciated it SO much. In the end though, this ended up being a success. Dear Daughter benefits greatly from daycare, and as much as I don’t want to admit it, I like coming to work and not being “Mom” for a portion of the day.. lol
Breastfeeding: Despite having a small IUGR baby, being induced, having surgery after birth, and not being able to eat for 24 hours after birth, I produced enough milk to feel triplets. Dear Daughter was EBF and I continued to breastfeed until she was 15 months old.
Cloth Diapering: this was another success for us. I cloth diapered until she started solids, then I started using them less. A lot of people thought I would get grossed out, but it was just as easy as using disposibles. I am looking forward to cloth diapering the new baby in a few months!
Post-baby body: I am hoping this rings true after baby #2, but I LOVE my post-baby body. It didn’t “ruin” me in the slightest!
Extended Rear Facing: I had a lot of friends question why my Dear Daughter was “still facing backwards.” Even Darling Husband pushed a bit on turning her forward earlier, but I stood my ground, and she is now just being forward faced in her car seat at two and a half.