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Worker bee
Ive been on a posting spree and I was just thinking… what is the best piece of advice you have ever heard for your marriage? I get so emotional thinking about my piece of advice.
My grandmother told me that when you fall in love with someone and get married there is nothing that can do you under if you both do what your supposed to do. My grandparents have been married for 48 years. I pray we have that many happy years ahead.
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
That’s sweet. This one if kind of funny, but it always stuck with me.
“To make a good marriage, the husband must be deaf and the wife blind “
Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
Not advice but something I in general learned that has been sooo beneficial for our relationship.
Don’t say it – when something upsets you or irritates you don’t say anything, sleep on it for a day or two, if you are still irritated or upset a few days later then sit down and talk about it. Emotions cloud my judgement sometimes and I find that a few days later when I think about things that Darling Husband has said or done, with logic a few days later they just don’t matter in the big picture. I can say that it works for me and avoids stupid bickering, but I can’t say that it would work for everyone.
Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
@tksjewelry: Thats advice I need to take! I can be such a fireball sometimes!
Post # 6
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Busy bee
Treat others how you would want to be treated……everytime I want to say something mean, or spurt out something in anger. Like if the DVR didn’t record right or the trash is getting full, or when he doesn’t drive right (LOL :D). Or hell, if i’m at the store and I think…hum, I bet he would like a diet mt. dew…. I always think, how would that make ME feel? Good or bad, how would I feel? Or even if it’s a secret, or something personal, I think ,”how would I feel if it were the same info and he didn’t tell me?” Bam…problem solved…..
Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
These are my own words, so they wasn’t given to me. But when someone asks what is your best relationship/marriage advice? I always say – You’re fighting a losing battle. Because you are arguing with the one person you are suppose to be working with through life’s challenges, together! You have to remember, you are on the same team! Don’t let pride take you over. Pride doesn’t make you right in the arguement, it only makes you weak as a team. If you really want to win, stop fighting a losing battle no matter who started it & figure out what is going to make it work. Because you can only win if you both make it together, not by figuring out who is wrong or right.
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Honey Beekeeper
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
My aunt told me this: “You choose your love–now love your choice!” For me, this is such an important reminder that love is a deliberate choice you have to make every single day, in the good times and the bad. I chose Fiance, and I have to keep choosing him and choosing to love him for the rest of our lives. It’s work, but it’s such important and rewarding work!
Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
@tksjewelry: I really like your advice! People can get so heated up & say things out of anger. Without thinking about what they’re saying. So I always try to think before I speak!
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Busy bee
@Mrs.Estep…..AMEN!! We Agree over here in The team Ajax house!!! YAY TEAMS!!! 😀
Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
@teamajax13: lol Woohoo! 😛
I’m all for teams!
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: That is such a great point. Fiance actually told me once: “you realize we are on the same side, right?” It’s surprising how sometimes we can forget that…
Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
@Evie19: It is! We all just have to keep that in mind! 🙂
Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: For sure! 🙂 Im bookmarking this thread as a reference after I’m married! 🙂
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@mrs.estep- love that advice! I’ve heard of marriage as being a team, but I never heard it worded so succinctly. 🙂
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