(Closed) The Big D. It must cross your mind!

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Do you believe in divorce?

    No....absoutly not an option

    Only when abuse or cheating is present

    In cases where you both are simply not happy anymore

    Yes there are many circumstances where I would consider divorce

    Other......explain

  • Post # 137
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    wow this thread has gotten very heated. I personally think this entire divorce discussion is out of place on a website designed for people planning weddings.

    Post # 138
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    You can’t really dictate what adults are going to talk about when you put a topic like this on the table, sorry. Your opinions are your own, and yeah you have the right to share them. Should you? *shrug* that’s your call.

    Post # 139
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    DH and I are both in the “divorce is not an option” camp. We will work out whatever comes up. Who he is as a person would have to fundamentally change in order for me to ever leave him. He isn’t someone who would lie or cheat or ever hit me or our children.

    However, I think that there are events that happen in life that can alter who you are. Life or death events, and when they impact you differently and change who you are, that might mean you end up divorced.

    Post # 140
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @UpstateNYPrincessBride: You haven’t responded to anything I’ve said, I’d really appreciate it if you did. And yes, everyone is judgemental at times, but we aren’t using the BIBLE, a book about love and compassion, to “support” our judgement. And if I called you names right now (or anyone else on this thread), I’d be warned for personal attack- even if that’s my true opinion, it doesn’t matter, that doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to publicly state it. I’d really like to hear your response to that since you’ve been evading it.

     

    Post # 141
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

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    @mwitter80: I agree with you completely on the age thing. And ill probably get some backlash for that. But I feel like what I was like when i was 20 to about 24 is so different from what i am like now. the relationship I am in now is an encore relationship and it functions completely different than it did the first time around because we have both matured so much. We dont fight about the nonsense that we used to fight about and have let go of a lot of our bad habits. For me those changes happened with age and maturity and i do not feel like at anytime before now I would have been even close to being ready for marriage. I thought I was though, for sure. I was convinced. but now looking back I know if we woul dhave married it would have failed. And you are right, what is important to me now when i look at marriage is not the same as it was when i was younger.

    Post # 142
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @UpstateNYPrincessBride: I totally agree with 
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    galloway111 here. You are making the rest of the Christians on here look bad because, yes, we may have certain beliefs that are contrary to the choices of other people here on this board, but that does not give you or anyone else the right to judge them for it. “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone”. And there are certainly less abrasive ways to express your opinion on the matter. 

    Post # 143
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    Honey Beekeeper

    Divorce and all of the circumstances and emotions surrounding it are such complex issues. There’s no way we could all ever agree on what to believe in.

    I think the part that’s important is that spouses can talk about and try to be on the same page on the issue of divorce, and what could constitute reasons for it in the theoretical future.

    Post # 144
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

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    @KatyElle: Always agree with you…

    Post # 145
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

    hmmmm this thread did get rather heated. I had not read all the responses through to the last page. what works for me and what my own beliefs are might be completely different from someone else on here and thats ok. So in regards to my post if anyone is offended by my opinion on the matter i do apologize, my intent was only to voice some thoughts i have on it. im throwing that out there now just in case! 🙂

    for the record i voted for only if there is abuse or cheating.

    Post # 148
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

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    @UpstateNYPrincessBride: The reason I’m still here is that you claim to be Christian and yet you are so judgemental of everyone else, and you use Bible verses to “support” the insults you’ve given out on this thread. As a Christian I feel that is wrong. Of course you may use the Bible as the basis for your beliefs, I do the same. But the Bible I’ve read tells me about loving others and not judging them. Also, I’m perfectly entitled to continue posting on this thread if I wish.

    As for what I was hoping for a response to, the first sentence I posted on this page. Also, the fact that I can’t call someone ugly and say it’s my opinion, so it’s acceptable, so I don’t understand why you feel it’s okay to insult people, regardless of your opinion. I didn’t say you were name calling, I used it as an example of something that is not acceptable, which I find to be on the same level as doling out insults.

     

    Post # 149
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

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    @UpstateNYPrincessBride: you are right, you are entitled to your own opinion. But, here on the bee, you can’t just go around bashing people and then saying “its just my opinion” and that makes it all ok. There are a TOS in place that says very clearly what the rules are, and the remarks you have made in this post are against them. I really hope a mod is around…

    Post # 150
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

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    @UpstateNYPrincessBride Except when you pull Jesus into it and make HIM look bad for your judgemental remarks… Jesus hung out with prostitutes, tax collectors and lepers. While I don’t think he would have agreed with divorce, he certainly wouldn’t be making rude and judgemental comments about it and people who have them. So when you make comments that make my Jesus look bad, it rubs me the wrong way. Don’t use the Bible as a reason for your judgements. You are perfectly entitled to your own opininon. But how you choose to express it reflects poorly upon you, and since you use the Bible to back it up, poorly upon Christ and the rest of us who believe in the Bible. 

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