- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I am just crying out here and having a moment. When I was in a military relationship (Sooo glad that is over and done with), I found a lot of support through a website almost exactly like this one, with a different focus of course. I am new on here and would like to share a little about myself, fiancé, and our story. Then, I just need some advice on how to stay sane. My hair is falling out a little too much!!! I am trying to get it to grow out not fall out!!! Anyways, here goes…
Cliché, I know, but I actually met my ah-mazing guy on this little dating website that I mostly used to play games on…myyearbook.com!!! Then, things got stranger and stranger in a good way after our relationship grew. At first I did not even want to get serious because I was tired of being serious in relationships and then badly hurt. My plan was to just have fun and here we are…engaged to be married!!! Coincidence after coincidence almost making me believe in fate? Met in Late summer of 2010 and watched the 3rd twilight movie in theaters with 2 of my cousins. Came home and watched the other 2 on DVD (cousins still there for protection by the way!)…we hit it off. I was surprised by how much connection we had from the very beginning. ANYWAYS, do not want to bore you guys, but we just became closer and closer. Y’all know how it goes.
He was going to have to leave this fall to go to Memphis for pharmacy school. We were quite upset about that and didn’t know what to do…as I am in college myself about to graduate and cannot leave. Finally, we came up with a plan to get a deferment to save his place in the place for one year with good reason. One was family/personal obligations. His mom wrote up this awesome letter and he got it! That was a relief. We mutually decided to get married together. Everything was backwards. We decided to get married, moved in together, he asked my dad, then he proposed lol. So, the proposal was a treasure hunt on the shores of the Caribbean in Cozumel, Mexico. It was sweet. That was last month…we are getting married NEXT MONTH.
I didn’t hire a planner because I like to do things independently. Plus, I am super picky. So, I am my own planner. I am also in school full time for nursing…which is a heavy academic load. I also work. My family is helping some, especially his mother (whom is also super busy). I am feeling very overwhelmed. The wedding is going to be somewhat big…about 150 people…at the city’s botanical gardens. I have many ideas; they are just not in motion. I feel like I do not know where to start.
Should be getting my dress in next week. Found a great deal…500 dollars for an used Maggie Sottero “Kendra.” Need to get blue/teal shoes. I have my bridesmaids’ dresses. They are buying shoes and accessories with approval. Need to get groom to be a nice tux. Groomsmen are getting their own attire as long as it is black. Found matching ties…yet to purchase. Need to find little gifts for the wedding party (under $10 dollars…bought dresses for about $20 dollars each and they are beautiful, but practical and re-wearable). We have 5 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids. That’s that.
Food…we are ordering a six foot Jimmy John’s sub and also about 60 regular sandwiches to cut in half. Will also be serving potato salad, pesto pasta salad, and another random easy salad. Any ideas? Pickles from J.J.’s…Delicious. Deviled eggs. Fruit from arrangement. Cookies. Cake. Lemonade. Crystal light Raspberry ice. Water. For snacks in the dancing area…cheese ball, crackers, veggies. To feed 150 people these types of foods, what would be an average cost?
Photography…narrowed down to 3 or 4…will hopefully meet with on Monday. Have yet to send out invitations (feeling VERY pressured about this). I want to do pictures from the engagement session, but I have not found anyone to do this yet. How long does it take for the photographer to have the pictures ready? Any suggestions on elegant, but causal picture invitation layouts? How much do invitations cost per print if I do picture paper?
Hair and make-up…luckily my cousin is a beautician and I want to do my own make-up with help from my bridesmaids. Braided halfway up halfway down hair do. Maybe a headpiece I seen on etsy. Veil? Do I have to? If so underneath and not long.
Flowers…supposed to call at end of this month. Florist going to venue first week of October to picture what we will need. Doing an arch. Laying out single flowers on tables… Gerbers…with floating candle in vase centerpieces. Corsages for mothers and grandmothers and older sis. Boutineers for the groomsmen, pastor, fathers and grandfathers and little cousin. Have lots of ideas about what flowers. Definitely white lilies and calla lilies with purple on inside. some orchids. Flowers are from his parents 🙂
Wedding colors…two schemes…yikes. Originally my colors were teal and brown, but then I wanted my girls to wear this awesome purple grayish color that is crazy difficult to find. Found some, but decided to also throw in a deep purple. So, for what the wedding party is wearing…gray and purple. THEN for decor…teal and brown. Is this going to be too out there? I love both. Teal is my favorite color and brown was for my fiancé and fall.
Photo guest sign-in project…sister and her man are running it. Needed Polaroid camera. Got one for 10 bucks off ebay. Film is expensive 200 dollars for 80 pics…we have actually purchased the film. But, we do not believe the camera was working…made weird strips in photo. Another camera on its way to test. Fingers crossed. **Need background and props. ANY IDEAS? Guests will take picture and place in scrapbook and write words of advice on or beside picture.
Cake…know exactly what I want. Need someone to do it. Willow tree “Promise” topper. Criss-cross with sugar pearls design. How many tiers for 150 people? Typical costs? Same with grooms cake? Is this just for groom and his guys? I am going with Mario and Sonic. MY guy is such a gaming nerd and I love him so much!
Favors? I have no clue? ANY IDEAS? I would like to try some DIY ones related to fall…but do not have much time. Could ask for help. Really do not want to pay over a dollar for each.
Music… Harpist during ceremony. Need to contact. Uncle’s brother may be able to play some soft acoustic guitar? Fiancé’s little brother to sing Disney song…which one do you guys think would be a sweet one? AND ALSO What exactly does a DJ/emcee do? Does this seem like a good one? If I have a list of songs prepared…would they be able to play all of them at the right moments? www.musicinmotionprodj.com/
Place…need some type of insurance? still owe half of price. Will have to have 3 different set ups. I pray that goes smoothly. We are going to make an artsy, cute sign for the 3 F’s……Food, Fun, and Fotos (photos in Spanish).
Rings…have not purchased yet. We are going with plain ole matching 14K white gold. 3 mm for me and 5 mm for him. Comfort fit or no? What do you guys say? They will have a special engraving that will be a surprise for him.
Decorations…purple Christmas tree like lights. Tulle. Table cloths —> white, then brown, then teal, then same amount of bunched material? Mom doing centerpieces. Need floating candles. Mosquito torches. paper lanterns? Outside wedding and will be getting dark as we are eating!
Random…maybe have slideshow projection in greenhouse? Not much room. Set pictures of Parents together up on some tables…include some pics in slideshow. You fully understand later. Legal stuff…need to go to courthouse. When to change name? When did you guys? Forms to fill out and fees? What is this stuff? I am in TN. I know we will have to do premarital counseling for our license. We are going to do that at school. There is a great center there. The pastor will be the one from my Grandmother’s Baptist church. She is going to call him for me.
Rentals…All Occasions. Mic and speakers for ceremony? No power source in woods??? PROBLEM. 15 round tables that sit 10 people. 4 rectangular tables. 150 chairs for tables. Benches/chairs for greenhouse? Dance floor. Cake thing to sit it on.
For the finale…floating lanterns. Will purchase from ebay. Best man explains some history behind them. We send ours into the sky first…big one…best man demonstrates how to and sends his up. Two sides of people, of course. Hold them upside down. My parents go down one row lighting them. His parents go down the other doing the same. They come back we light theirs. Count to 3 and everyone releases at same time as we walk down the aisle formed by everyone. It is going to be beautiful! Really excited.
Honeymoon…Spend time with fam Sunday before they fly back out. Then, one or two nights at a little bed and breakfast in SC. February go to Disneyworld. MY FIRST TIME THERE.
I can breathe a little better now! The budget is going to be around 7500 (already minusing contributions from family). I want our wedding to be elegant, but relaxed and fun. Any tips for that?
As a treat for making it to the end, I will fill you in on some of the crazy coincidences. We had to get married this year so we would not have to be in two different places (He got his deferment and kept his place in the pharmacy program because he is getting married). Being separated would have killed us. Before we were together, I just got out of an ugly long-term, turned long-distance relationship. I could NOT go through that again. ANYWAYS, I always knew I wanted to get married in the fall. October seemed like a good month. The 3rd Saturday felt right. I liked the ring of the date… 10/20/12. Come to find out, both of our parents were married on the same date, SAME YEAR. plus, I am adopted which makes it even better because I was pretty much assigned to my parents if you understand what I mean. Like, if I weren’t adopted…our parents probably would not have been married on the same exact date. OKay, so we were going to get hitched anyways, but a huge reason was because we did not want to be in different areas. 10-20 is a tens code for location. If you hear an officer say 10-20 on his walkie-talkie, he is asking, “Where are you?” Our first dance song is going to be by my absolutely favorite artist Dave Matthews…Where are you going? Everything is so perfect it makes me cry thinking about how lucky I am. Don’t even get me going about how much of a sweet, gentleman my fiancé is. You may get sick. Haha, but really…he is different. His spirit is so kind. You would just have to know him to understand. His momma raised him with love, respect, and all those other necessary things. I LOVE HER, TOO!
Okay, okay, okay. That was long. I feel better though. Hopefully, I will get some support. This was mostly to get everything off my chest, but I asked quite a few questions, too. Please give any input. I need all the help I can get. I want it to be perfect, as we all do. I am sure it will be, but I am so so anxious.