(Closed) The Big O: Self v. Him

posted 6 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll:
    My Os are MUCH stronger / better on my own : (33 votes)
    22 %
    My Os are MUCH stronger / better when he gives them to me : (54 votes)
    36 %
    My Os are a bit stronger on my own : (23 votes)
    15 %
    My Os are a bit stronger with him : (13 votes)
    9 %
    They're about the same either way : (19 votes)
    13 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    9483 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It really depends for me.  I get off much more easily when I take care of myself because I know exactly what I and how I like it.  This doesn’t mean Fiance doesn’t take care of business though.  He does make me reach the big O, but it depends on what we’re doing and such.  Dirty talk and watching him really set me off.

    Post # 4
    Member
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I can get off more quickly by myself but the longer build-up when Darling Husband is bringing me to O makes it that much better once he gets me there.

    Post # 5
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    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    i had to vote other, because the method of stimulation is so different.  alone, stimulation is 100% external, and with Fiance, 98% of the time it’s internal, and while the end game is an orgasm in both cases, the method of arrival really does affect the overall mood or feel of the orgasm.  while the external stimulation often results in a more intense end, it’s also more superficial and peters out very quickly.  internal is a more mellow end, but also lasts longer and seems to have an overall deeper effect (often reducing me to a puddle-like state, lol).

    that said, the once in a blue moon i get one from dual stimulation (which only occurs with FI) is by far the best. 🙂

    ok, re-reading that, i sound a bit like a freak.  i don’t know how else to descibe it though.

    Post # 7
    Member
    812 posts
    Busy bee

    If I’m 100% honest, my SO has given me 5 in 2 and a half years, I very seldom feel much during, not sure why, figure it’s cos SO has ME so foreplay isn’t always an option. I tend to pretend to like it more than I do so I don’t knock his confidence

    Post # 8
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    9649 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @cardus:  You don’t sound like a freak at all, you’re very good with words.  What a great way to describe the differences.  I told Fiance the other night that I felt like melted wax, lol.

    Post # 9
    Member
    602 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    i’m a clitoris stimulation girl, so just sex on its own does nothing for me. lol poor Fiance but we have sex anyways

    Post # 10
    Member
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @cardus:  Lol that’s about where I am, too. When I get myself off, it comes hard and fast, but then I can immediately get up and walk around and go about my business. When Darling Husband gets me off (usually a combination of internal and external stimulation), it takes longer, but the orgasm goes on longer, I get aftershocks for a good 10 or 15 minutes afterwards, and I usually have trouble walking. More than once I’ve stumbled on my way to the bathroom because my knees are so weak. 

    Post # 13
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    780 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @cardus:  DITTO!!!!  You described the differences exactly…  whether it is him or me they are not better- but very, very DIFFERENT

    Post # 14
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I thought i was the only one that had a “variety” of O’s! I can make myself  quicker then he can, and i have a lot of what I call “mini” O’s with him…but when he gives me a big one, it can peel wallpaper off the walls. It also depends on my mood, etc etc.

    Post # 15
    Member
    818 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @missashley884:  Same here, clitoris only, but he tries lol Normally before or after he orgams, I get myself taken care of with some help from him.

    Post # 16
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    5886 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I used to be a clitoris only gal in my 20’s. Then in my 30’s my G-spot appeared from nowhere. Darling Husband hits my g-spot when we to the deed, so it’s not unusual for me to O 3-30 times in one session. But they are different and not as strong from when I do it myself, but after about 10 of them, I’m a basket of mush. But when I do it myself, I usually do one or two and they are super strong. 

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