Post # 1
I’m going anonymous for this coz I’m too shy 🙂
I have never been able to orgasm during sex but have recently decided it’s time to make an effort and see if I can. So I was wondering if those of you who have could help me out? The main questions I’m wondering about are: does fast or slow help? Is there a build up or does it just happen? Which positions make it easiest, and if there is one in particular, is it about the angle? Does it take a long time for you or is it really quick?
Post # 3
well, every woman is different.
Have you tried to stimulate your clit while he penetrates you? that helps, teehee
Post # 4
@BeThereAnon: Have you practiced on yourself? What makes the Big O happen for you when you go solo? Personally, I feel it’s 90% mental. Have you tried talking dirty To eachother? What about oral? Have patience and if all else fails, grab a vibrator and use it to stimulate your clit during intercourse.
Post # 5
I almost never get the big O during sex–I need prolonged stimulation at a constant pressure and speed, which can be difficult during sex. So, my SO often does manual stimulation during foreplay and I’ll just get the O then. It doesn’t bother me that it happens before rather than during sex, as long as it happens. But even then it can often take me awhile, I find I have to focus on what he’s doing and think about my desire for the O, and it will eventually come (no pun intended!).
Post # 6
Some women just can not have an O through sex alone. I have had just one just through sex.. and that’s 7 years of sex with my FI.
Post # 7
@BeThereAnon: I can only orgasm with sex if I stimulate my clit. I find doggy style easy to do this, or if you are on your back and your SO is standing at the edge of the bed. You can also try using a clit vibrator
Post # 9
Thanks for all your responses girls! I have no problem with coming during foreplay, so maybe I’ll just have to make do with that. I reckon it probably is at least a little bit a mental thing for me – worrying about it too much and psyching myself out…
Post # 10
@BeThereAnon: I personally don’t think they just “happen.” It takes some work to get there. Definitely going slowly for me helps build it up. Things do have to be fast for me to actually reach it in the end, but I have to get to that point first. I have never been able to O with my hands, I have to use a vibrating something. Not all vibraters do the job though, some are not intense enough. I don’t always need them, just depends on the mood.
If you can climax during foreplay maybe way until you’re right at the edge and then switch to intercourse. Of course it might be like 5 second sex but it’s worth a try to see how different they feel!
Post # 11
Do you know where your G spot is? Thats a big helper
Post # 12
I usually only O if I’m on top and can regulate the pace and position.
Post # 13
@BeThereAnon: Hey girl, have you tried a vibrator during sex? Helps me get off quickly and takes the pressure off. Good luck!!
Post # 14
I never came through sex alone until I was with my fiance, now it happens pretty frequently. It definitely helps to be as turned on as possible. A lot of teasing foreplay works wonders. Penis shape/size and the position you are having sex in are also factors. I suggest getting him to stimulate your g-spot with his fingers for a while and then try a few different positions to see what is continuing to stimulate the area.