(Closed) The Big O

posted 4 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
1565 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

well, every woman is different.

Have you tried to stimulate your clit while he penetrates you? that helps, teehee

Post # 4
3430 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@BeThereAnon:  Have you practiced on yourself? What makes the Big O happen for you when you go solo? Personally, I feel it’s 90% mental. Have you tried talking dirty To eachother? What about oral? Have patience and if all else fails, grab a vibrator and use it to stimulate your clit during intercourse. 

Post # 5
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I almost never get the big O during sex–I need prolonged stimulation at a constant pressure and speed, which can be difficult during sex. So, my SO often does manual stimulation during foreplay and I’ll just get the O then. It doesn’t bother me that it happens before rather than during sex, as long as it happens. But even then it can often take me awhile, I find I have to focus on what he’s doing and think about my desire for the O, and it will eventually come (no pun intended!).

Post # 6
2832 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Some women just can not have an O through sex alone. I have had just one just through sex.. and that’s 7 years of sex with my FI.

Post # 7
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@BeThereAnon:  I can only orgasm with sex if I stimulate my clit. I find doggy style easy to do this, or if you are on your back and your SO is standing at the edge of the bed. You can also try using a clit vibrator

Post # 10
6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@BeThereAnon:  I personally don’t think they just “happen.”  It takes some work to get there.  Definitely going slowly for me helps build it up.  Things do have to be fast for me to actually reach it in the end, but I have to get to that point first.  I have never been able to O with my hands, I have to use a vibrating something.  Not all vibraters do the job though, some are not intense enough.  I don’t always need them, just depends on the mood.


If you can climax during foreplay maybe way until you’re right at the edge and then switch to intercourse.  Of course it might be like 5 second sex but it’s worth a try to see how different they feel!

Post # 11
1799 posts
Buzzing bee

Do you know where your G spot is? Thats a big helper

Post # 12
3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I usually only O if I’m on top and can regulate the pace and position. 

Post # 13
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@BeThereAnon:  Hey girl, have you tried a vibrator during sex?  Helps me get off quickly and takes the pressure off.  Good luck!!

Post # 14
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I never came through sex alone until I was with my fiance, now it happens pretty frequently. It definitely helps to be as turned on as possible. A lot of teasing foreplay works wonders. Penis shape/size and the position you are having sex in are also factors. I suggest getting him to stimulate your g-spot with his fingers for a while and then try a few different positions to see what is continuing to stimulate the area.

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