(Closed) The big question….

posted 5 years ago in Money
Post # 2
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

your wedding is something you will enjoy and remember for the rest of your lives.. Life is too short and you can still have a nice wedding if you wanted to cut down on a few things.. I was exactly on this mindset as you and I am so happy i had the wedding i wanted. It was a beautiful day and i miss it so much. If i could do it again i totally would… Just make sure you Eat and ask the bridal attendant for whatever you need you won’t regret it!!! 

Post # 3
912 posts
Busy bee

It was worth what we spent…granted, we spent only $6,100 and wouldn’t have felt comfortable spending much more.

We didn’t want to spend a ton of money that could be spent on a) honeymoon/travel, b) furnishing our apartment, or c) fixing up our car. Those were much more important priorities to us, since they were more long-term than one day. I’d spend what you’re comfortable spending without going into debt or using all your savings.

Post # 4
9416 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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brikachu :  I only went a few thousand over budget in the end and, for us, it was worth it. THAT SAID we had the money available in savings to do it without going into debt and we already owned a home. If we had to go into debt or put off more pressing financial goals then I would have probably regretted it. Focus your money on what you care about the most and forget everything else – a lot of it is total crap and no one needs fancy flowers or some tacky trinket with your wedding date on it. Good food and music is really all you need and will remember later anyways! 

Post # 5
1898 posts
Buzzing bee

Depends how much you’re going over by. If its an extra $1 per head for a champagne toast- you probably wont regret it. If its buying a $20k dress instead of a $2k dress, and taking on debt…then yes, I think you will regret it. 

Post # 6
3045 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Completely depends on how each couple feels. We knew we didn’t want to go over $10k and preferred keeping it around $5k if possible. Seems like a waste to spend so much for a few hours, not even an entire day. Its like ok we have it but that money could be put to what we feel are better uses. So we’ll end up spending around $5500 total but its fairly easy for us bc our guest list is 50 max. A crap ton of dying flowers and decor no one will remember isn’t a priority. Not inviting people we barely know like parents friends or acquaintences we don’t have strong relationships with. Our focus is guest comfort, good music and great food in a casual setting which our crowd will appreciate. Don’t worry about what others are doing just communicate together, decide what type of wedding you want and what you’re comfortable spending. That will cut down on potential regrets.

Post # 7
5046 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

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brikachu :  The first time I got married I had a decent sized wedding that I didn’t want. I wanted to save for a house. It was a GREAT day, but I still would rather have had that money and just had a tiny wedding or eloped. Second time around I had the tiny wedding and it was AWESOME! Truly it comes down to the fact that you are getting married, that’s the important wonderful part. It doesn’t matter if you’re serving a steak sit down dinner for 300 or you are alone with your groom (or a couple people) on that day. I know, I’ve had both!

Post # 8
5985 posts
Bee Keeper

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brikachu :  My friend had her dream wedding, and it was about $10K.  She loved it.  And she told me now that she thinks back on it, she wishes she would have not had the wedding, even though she had the best time and it was the most special night of her life (right after her baby being born), she wishes they would have had small low budget wedding.  But that’s her view.  I have other friends who loved having it and would never change it for the world.

Post # 9
159 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - The Garrison, NY

We just started planning and it’s starting to look like we’re headed to $50,000+…. 


Saything that I’m terrified is a huge understatement.  I’m wondering if we should just say screw it and go to Vegas.

Post # 10
853 posts
Busy bee

We set a firm budget within our means at the time and stuck to it, and I’m glad we did. There were some things we had to give up (favors, some decorations, etc.), but were able to keep the stuff that was important to us. I’m so glad we had the wedding we could afford! 

Out of curiosity, does this mean your wedding back on? Did you and your fiancé get back together? Wishing the best for you and hoping things are good!

Post # 11
551 posts
Busy bee

Business of anything wedding related is expensive! To my husband and I what was important was being able to share our day with our family & friends which ended up costing us $18K! 

We had our wedding at hotel and tried go cheap but elegant on everything else but the minute you say wedding the price doubles! 

So no I don’t regret where we put our money cause we created beautiful memories with our family & friends! 


Post # 12
7569 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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brikachu :  “It would be different I guess if I had help paying for this but it’s really all on me and my Fiance.”

Wait what? So it wouldn’t be a big deal if you were spending someone elses money?

Post # 13
299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I look back on this past weekend and regret spending money on the cake – it was terrible. I would have been happy with something from the cafe or bakery rather than the cake we ended up with. 

Post # 14
5 posts
  • Wedding: August 2017

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realtorbeenj :  same here!  I’m estimating it will be $80k.   In NJ $50k only pays for the venue!  Ighhh!

Post # 15
1789 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Every situation is different. Before doing any research, we thought our budget would be $20k. When all was said and done, we spent $50k. Zero regrets. I would do it all again in a heartbeat. 

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