Post # 1
I’m going to my SO’s old roommate’s wedding this weekend. Before my guy gave me the timeline of 6 months to 2 years away a few months ago, people would ask periodically if we had plans to get married. One of his friends told him if he didn’t propose they wouldn’t name their baby that’s due soon. We joked that he might have a nameless child. I’ve never known how to tactfully answer that one big question – When are you guys getting married?
In the beginning I would respond with an, “I don’t know.” After my timeline it changed to, “Eventually.” A mutual friend of ours drunkenly yelled a few weeks back, “Why don’t you just get married already!?” to which I said, “Tell him that.” And she did . And now that we are going to this wedding and we are the only couple among his close friends that isn’t married with children, I’m sure I’ll have to answer it again.
So, my question to you all is: How do you personally answer that question and/or how would you suggest I answer it?
Post # 3
Oh god, I hated that. I just always laughed it off and said ‘we’ll see’. Not much more anyone can say after that espeically if its almost in a “yea yea yea drop it tone”
Post # 4
I have a book called “As a Lady Would Say,” and it has the lady-like answer for every situation you could think of in there. For this particular question, As A Lady Would Say, says:
Not yet, but when there’s new, you’ll be the first to know.
Post # 5
I would smile and say… “I’m working on it” with sort of a wink. Keep it light-hearted and fun.
Post # 6
I ended up glaring at people… At one point it was “How should I know???” People assumed we were married, to the point that I won’t have to change my name on my gym membership.
Post # 7
i always say “next year” or “we’ll let you know as soon as we figure it out.” and leave it at that.
Post # 8
I had a very un-ladylike answer for that question. We were out to dinner with a group of people one night, and a girl asked me that. I answered, “Probably not till we get knocked up.” Everyone laughed and it dissolved any awkwardness. 🙂
Post # 9
Love both the ladylike and the unladylike answers! Nothing I can suggest will top them so I’m going to have to steal them. Relatives will get ladylike, friends/siblings the unladylike.
Post # 10
I don’t know. I guess I just feel the pressure to have some brilliant, vague, witty response. Not even sure why. Then again, it’s gonna be an open bar. Let the liquid wit and confidence flow. 🙂
@kellybell: Hahahahaha! 🙂
Post # 11
Oh I hate this question! I get asked ALL the time by his friends in particular! I’ve stopped being nice about the answer though. I just simply say “Its not up to me” or “Ask him” because they have been asking me this question for years now!
Post # 12
When I was waiting I’d always say “Ask him!”
Post # 13
I honestly can’t really think about how I’ve answered this question. Maybe it’s subconscious. And I’ve been asked it a lot lately. I HATE IT!
I think my answers are “I don’t know”…”why are you trying to marry me off”…”we’ll see”….”I need to finish school first” (my favorite) and being that I graduate with my 2nd degree this Summer I can no longer use that. And that’s why I plan to not wait past that 🙂
Post # 14
When I was waiting it was always “once we finish school”. Of course, that’s not how it worked out, but you know…lol