(Closed) The big wedding is OFF!!! Are we crazy?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 32
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That’s awesome!! Not crazy at all, if I hadn’t sent out my invitations and committed to numerous vendors, I would have done the same because the cost seems to be getting higher as we finalize the details.

Post # 33
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

I think it’s an awesome idea, and I would love to attend something like this. That being said, I think @Amaryllis has a good point. If you are having so much trouble now, think of the damage control afterwards. If it was me, I would probably just tell both families to put up or shut up, and do a small, intimate wedding in a few months anyway (but no surprise). If you do the surprise, I can’t wait to hear how it goes! 🙂

Post # 36
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

*high five*  that’s freakin awesome!

Post # 37
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d tell your parents at least … I know mine would be angry with me if I surprised them with this kind of thing.  They don’t like being duped either.

Post # 38
5983 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think there are way too many hard feelings with this discission. How would you ffel if you were invited to a wedding and then all of the sudden you heard they had the wedding without you? I think you need to be honest and have your wedding with less people…. good luck

Post # 39
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you should first tell everyone that you are canceling the big wedding. Tell them any reason that’s acceptable, financial reasons, personal loss, work is getting too stressful, you’re saving for a house, whatever. Then nobody will be excited about your big event that they will be invited to.

After that, tell your family and friends that you are too stressed out and that you will either elope or do something very very simple. Invite them to your wedding and make your lines clear (immediate family only, 2 best friends each, whatever).

Because otherwise, you are telling all your family and friends, “it’s more important that we have the kind of party that we want than that you all are there to share it with us.” I mean, you can do mimosas & cake after a park ceremony for 200 people pretty cheaply.


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