- Mermaid1082
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
@Evie19: I’m not nervous either. People think I am crazy!
@Evie19: I’m not nervous either. People think I am crazy!
Yes! I was SO SICK of hearing people’s birth “horror stories” while I was pregnant. I was a little nervous the morning I went in for my induction, but labor was not something I dreaded for the 9 months leading up to it. Birthing my son was the most amazing, intense, beautiful event of my entire life thus far.
Great post, I love this!
@CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: Thanks… this comforts me so much! I get terrible migraines and I can’t imagine anything worse. I keep thinking I wonder if labor will be that thing that’s worse? I’m glad to hear it wasn’t for you!
@kes18: & @runsyellowlites: I had similar thoughts to both of you after reading this post.
I am not against epidurals or C-sections, and I realize that if it was medically necessary or if I felt I couldn’t go on, I would absolutely proceed with either. Delivering a healthy baby is the priority.
However, it does seem like a high percentage of doctors are at fault for pushing certain interventions and instilling fear to do so when it’s not medically necessary. Also, the pervasive image of birth is that it is frightening.
Every labor is different and every mother should be celebrated for their own specific journey! I truly believe that.
But as kes18 said, I’d like to go into the process with a positive outlook rather than a terrified one.
I appreciated the OPs perspective on her personal experience.
@Mermaid1082: Lets trade notes after labor is over to see how it went! 🙂
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m still a few years away from TTC, but sometimes reading the birth stories on here and hearing people’s comments in general make me cringe at the thought of giving birth. There was a period of time a few months ago where I was just 100% on never having biological children because I didn’t want to go through the pain of labor. Then I realized how stupid it was because obviously women everywhere did it, and if it was really as terrible as some people describe it to be for everyone then most people wouldn’t go back for 2nd, 3rd or even more rounds! I also think that pain is a very personal thing, and I personally have a very high threshold for pain, which I know is probably a lot higher than other people’s. What labor pain is for me could be 100 x’s worse or 100 x’s better for someone else.
By no means am I saying that it’s a guarantee that L&D won’t be painful (because it is) and sadly it’s not always a positive experience. All I’m saying is that everyone I came across in my 3rd trimester (and before) made it out to be this inevitible horror story, when it’s not ALWAYS the case. What made my experience so positive and fear-free was that I had prepared myself for any outcome to get my baby here safely, and I had a brilliant support person in my partner. I wasn’t, never was, and will never be against medicated births or c-sections. <br /> It is a myth in my opinion that labour and delivery will ALWAYS be a horrible experience. It is not a myth that it is sometimes the case though.
Glad you had an awesome natural birth. I labored from 1 am to 11 am before I got an epidural and the pain was pretty damn bad I kept saying I had no idea how people could do it naturally! My contractions were only every 5-7 minutes and lasting 30-60 seconds at the most frequent and I can’t imagine them coming righy on top of one another and having to feel them! Natural has never been something I’d ever consider but more power to those that do!!
missrain: no offense but having an epidural doesn’t mean you aren’t an active participant. I didn’t feel any pain during labor or delivery but I worked my damn ass off pushing my baby out. It was literally the hardest workout I have ever had so pretty sure I was a very active participant.
MrsWBS: I already posted an apology for my previous comment. No offense was meant on my part, I was just excited to find a thread of supportive, like-minded individuals. If I could edit or delete that post in order to avoid offending anyone else I would, but unfortunately that doesn’t seem to be an option.
Mollie-Rose: This is SUCH a good post. I am so looking forward to experiencing pregnancy and motherhood but occassionally the thought of labour freaks me out.. But your story is so reassuring!
CreatureFromTheBlackLagoon: Haha this is very reassuring! I won’t kid myself i’m sure it’s very painful but I get horrendous migraines ALL.THE.TIME. Perhaps the agony of those will have prepared me in some way! At least that would be one positive after years of suffering through those damn things….
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