- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Every bride I know says that they hate their wedding one month out, and I am definitely in this position. In a previous post, I vented about one of FI’s second cousins asking if they can bring their kids (who are between 7 and 11…I have seen them once, and I do not know how old they are; this is just a guess.) FI and I are allowing kids, but we’re drawing the line at first cousins. Most of our cousins do not have kids, so this is not a huge issue to allow a couple to bring their kids. The only exception I made was for an infant from out of town (understandably.) So, this second cousin called FMIL and asked her if it would be ok if she brought kids. We told FMIL that our venue capacity did not allow for the extra bodies, and that was that (we’re still hoping for the final guest list to decrease). The parents RSVPed “yes” with just the two of them on the RSVP. I figured all was taken care of. Yesterday, I find out that this woman called FMIL AGAIN and begged her to let the kids come. I know at the end of the day, it’s only two bodies, but I’m just angry at the principle of the whole thing. Asking once is one thing (though frowned upon), but asking twice, nay, begging is totally out of line.
I guess I also feel angry because I come from a large Italian family and we are all very close. I know all of their names and I know them very well, and I had to cut them, which was rough on me. FI barely knows anyone from his side that are coming, and would probably barely notice if any of them got cut. I don’t have ANY second cousins coming from my side, let alone their kids. So, you can imagine my frustration when going through the guest list with FI, and he can’t even give me first names (because he doesn’t know them.)
So, should I just let them walk all over me and bring their kids (who FI barely knows) just because I don’t feel like dealing with this pushy woman? Grrrr.