- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
So it official… I’m the girl who cried “RING!”. I feel like I’ve been telling everybody “it’s gonna happen soon” for like the past 6 months now. And no one probably believes it now when they hear it. It’s not that I really care what other people think or feel about our relationship, it’s between me and my SO. But on the other hand, I can’t help but ask myself if I’m being naive. Is it really going to happen or am I just one of those girls that’s convincing herself it’s going to happen when really the boy is clearly stalling for his own reasons.
Communication – THE most important thing to me in a relationship. Oh boy do I tell him how I feel… to the point where I annoy myself but he always tells me its absolutely fine that I’m expressing my emotions. We’ve had countless talks about getting engaged, visited reception places, been to several jewelers, that’s all he has to do is buy the ring and propose. He says hes 100% positive I’m the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with and he’s 100% ready to be engaged.
So why isn’t it happening?
The nervous breakdown came last night when he told me, yet again, he wasn’t going to make the timeline we AGREED on together. This is the 3rd time now he’s asked for more time. I keep asking are you sure this is what you want bc you really have no excuse that it didn’t happen yet. He is very convincing when he says this is absolutely what he wants.
My conclusion: He has cold feet. He is sure that he wants to marry me, but the actual act of getting engaged/married is scaring him a little. Like he’s separating ‘marriage’ and ‘life with me’ in his mind. Is it possible he can overcome this?
Last night ended with me almost walking out… but he stopped me in my tracks to show me the diamond. He bought the diamond and received it just last week and was in the process of bringing it to the jewelers. After a loonng emotional convo I told him he’s wasting time yet again. He then left and brought the stone to the jewelers to have it set in the setting he picked out months ago. Set time is ~7 days… so I guess I can hang in there just a little longer to see if he can really do this.
Sorry so long, I can’t possibly tell everyone the whole story. Been together 7 ½ years (exactly tomorrow), have a house together, basically have the married life down I just don’t understand what’s taking so long. He says he just has a mental problem with procrastination and he really hates seeing me so upset over it. He has the money so that’s not the issue here. If he knows he’s a procrastinator, and knows how much this is hurting our relationship, why can’t he put two and two together and do something about it?!
I’m just so confused and I really don’t know what to think. Thanks for listening bees.