(Closed) The Bride and her BMs didn't incl. the MOH.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d sell or trade my Cirque De Soleil tickets or just ask if the B party could be a different day.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with @Paigey.  In the early months of our dating, Darling Husband surpised me with tickets to Cirque du Soleil, but as it turned out it was on the same day as my father’s 70th birthday party.  We sold the tickets and purchased tickets for the Sunday performance instead.  No biggie, and not worth causing drama with the bride.

ETA:  I know she wants to go, but Cirque du Soliel tickets aren’t that tough to get, especially on a weekday or a Sunday.  Like I said, we replaced our Saturday night tickets with great seats to the Sunday performance maybe 1 month before the show. Not a big deal, seriously not worth stepping down or ruining a friendship over.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

why is the moh picking out the tuxes and flowers with out the bride???( BIRDE DUTY)

and why is the bride planning the b party?? thats (MOH’S DUTY)”

 

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Did the bride and BMs know before they set the date that she had tickets to the show that night? 

If they did, then she shouldnt worry about selling her tickets and so forth.. i would be upset too! thats just mean and i would understand why she would want to resgin for Maid/Matron of Honor duty.

If they didnt know, then i think that she should sell her tickets and attend the bridal shower. I dont think its right that they did that behind her back, but if she never told anyone about her tickets, how would they have known. its her duty as the Maid/Matron of Honor to be there at the shower for the bride. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mnp:  ok then thats just mean! 🙁

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think if she’s prepared to lose this friendship, she should step down.

If she’s not, unfortunately she just needs to get over the bachelorette party and show up on the day of and hopefully move forward.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

did she ask the bride why they set it for that date knowing that she had pre-arranged plans and see what her response would be? 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Sorry I’d sell the cirque tickets on craigslist. They aren’t that expensive and nothing is more special than a bachelorette party!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

if they planned it intentionally to exclude her, that’s lame, but i think your sister is gonna have to suck it up and deal with it either way. if she cares about her friend that she is Maid/Matron of Honor for, the inability to attend one party shouldnt cause her to step down. being Maid/Matron of Honor isnt about going to the bach party, its about being a source of support for your best friend on her wedding day.

i wouldnt “confront” the bride about it, but instead maybe she can plan something small for her and the bride – maybe a night out with drinksat a nice martini bar, or dinner at a nice restaurant, or even a concert/show – something so she feels like she got to give her a proper send off and they get MOH/bride time, making it more special

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The Maid/Matron of Honor shouldn’t be picking out flowers and tuxes.  She should tell the bride that she’s be happy to go along and give sugegstions, but that it’s not her job to do this. 

As for the party… If she’s unwilling to sell her tickets or move them to another date, then I guess she’s out of luck.  Maybe the BMs picked this weekend because it was the only weekend the rest of them could do it? 

I think telling the bride she feels unappreciated will open a pretty big can of worms and add a lot of drama.  I’d keep my mouth shut and do what’s expected of me.  She could talk directly to the other BMs without the bride and ask what the deal is with the whole situation, that may go over a bit better.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Uh, why is she picking out tuxes? I won’t even do that, I told the Fiance it’s HIS responsibility.

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