(Closed) the bride threatened to kick me out of her wedding

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
46334 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you are close enough to be her bridesmaid, you are close enough that she would know full well that you were in a serious relationship and are now married.

She acted inappropriately by not inviting your husband. Whether or not the other bridesmaids are married or in arrangements is irrelevant.


Post # 4
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@rozzy:  wow, that is just rude. Your husband should have been invited. If I were you, I wouldn’t go without my husband.

Post # 6
3825 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rozzy:  does she know your husband? does your husband know anyone who would attend the wedding?

Post # 8
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@rozzy:  Bms should always get +1s in my opinion, how does she not know you’re married!


If she chooses to kick you out of the wedding over HER lack of etiquette I would ask for reimbursement for my shoes and dress.  You shouldn’t have even had to ask if your Darling Husband was invited.

Post # 9
3825 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rozzy:  oh that sucks! i mean, i get it when people say “no +1s for the wedding party since they will be busy anyway.” but i think that rule doesn’t apply to married couples – especially if the person’s partner will know people there. i can see if he didn’t and it would just be totally awkward for him, but no. that wasn’t right. 

practically speaking, it’s not worth it to back out. i would just go along with her plan. you are okay with attending a wedding without your husband, right? or do you need him there with you?

Post # 12
3825 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@rozzy:  i totally agree. the “you’re giving me a hard time” thing was immature of her. why be short with someone when you can just be an adult? 

Post # 14
1326 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

She didn’t even give you a wedding present and you’re standing up in her wedding? That’s messed up.

Post # 16
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Sorry, like some of the others I cannot understand WHY this is a Question.

# 1 – You are married of course you get to bring your Hubby.

# 2 – Your are a Bridesmaid, a member of the “family” so to speak / inner circle…. so you get to have a Plus One no matter what.

Beyond all that…

# 3 – She didn’t come to your Wedding, and didn’t send a Gift… sorry for the life of me I can’t understand WHY you are a Bridesmaid at this gals Wedding.  Bridesmaids are supposed to be close… very close friends.

It sounds like she “chose you” because you are nice person, and generous. 

(If this is a North American Wedding your ONLY obligation is the dress… if you all have to have other matching items such as accessories, shoes, hair, make up, jewellery etc… … then she should be the one to pay for them)

I have a feeling she is taking advantage of you… which YES would make her a Bridezilla.

I’d find a nice way to tell her that you won’t be standing up for her (aka supporting her)…

Your Hubby (Fiance, SO) should never have been on the B-List.  Ever !!

Personally, I’d step down… work on selling the dress (maybe she has another “so called friend” she can find to fit into it / buy it from you). 

And I wouldn’t go to the Wedding as a Guest either (lol, for sure you’ll be waiting on a BList Invite for Hubby then).  Send a card filled with Best Wishes, and lol maybe a copy of Emily Post’s Book of Etiquette as a Wedding Present (if you send a gift at all)

She clearly doesn’t have her head or heart in the right place.

(( HUGS )) to you.


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