(Closed) The bright side of dealing with future-in-law drama… :)

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That’s SO frustrating! My relationship with my Future In-Laws is not as extreme, but I’m still finding it hard to communicate with a new family when I’m so familiar with my own family’s workings!!!

I find the best way to prevent mis-understanding and hurt feelings is to be as direct as possible — AKA stop emailing (since they don’t seem to read them…) and try to have more phone or sit-down conversations with them. Maybe go out to lunch somewhere nice and try to get to know eachother a little. It’s a lot harder to be annoyed with someone when you have some good memories with them ๐Ÿ™‚

It’s such a hard transition to add a new family to your life. I really wish you the best — it sounds like they’re going to suck up a lot of your patience and take a lot of prodding, but I hope the more time you spend with them and the more time they spend with you, the more respect will develop.

Post # 4
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177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My boyfriend’s family as a whole is divine but my future Mother-In-Law is a total flake and acts like she’s 13. She asks personal financial questions “can you even afford that?” when she’s not contributing financially or diy helping. I don’t like feeling like I have to not tell her about my new boots or that I got coffee this morning (I currently live next door to her so there’s no getting away).

I have to agree though, it has made me so much more grateful and appreciative of my own family. I juts keep reminding myself that no matter how crazy my Future In-Laws make me, they raised a wonderful son, and without them I wouldn’t have the love of my life.

Post # 5
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762 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

“wackiness” is the word more m Future Mother-In-Law. We wanted a Destination Wedding and she flipped but as soon as we got our venue( and put down the deposit)  she said we should have a DW! Then she compiled a list of places she thought we should get married.

And with the too busy thing- she was too bust to get FH’s cousins addresses for me. She was “busy” for 3 months now and invitations went out today so they didn’t get invitations… whatever. I don’t even know them so they can’t blame me!

End vent on someone else’s thread. haha.

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