Post # 1
Does anyone else feel like there is a whole lot of pressure out there to be a buff, skinny bride? I know that I sure feel a whole lot of pressure!
I was just reading a blog post about a bee who will not be wearing a birdcage veil because of her perceived back fat. To be honest, the post put a new anxiety in my head that I had not thought was a big deal before. My dress (which I love) has a low back and I want to wear an above the shoulder veil for my wedding to show off the lovely back of the dress. I am not the skinniest of girls, but I have been trying to lose some weight for the wedding and for my general health. I was nervous about this for a few minutes, but then I realized that I don’t want to change my bridal vision and I want to wear an above the shoulder veil, back fat or not.
I am not trying to make anyone feel bad or make a bee feel bad about her writing. Not at all. The post about cathedral length veils and back fat just got me thinking about all of the pressure that is out there for brides. All the hype makes me wonder what’s wrong with a bride looking like her beautiful, healthy self on her wedding day? Do we all really need to lose weight to look like a stunning bride?!
Do any of you bees feel the same way?
Post # 3
I think a lot of brides use the wedding to get INTO a healthy self and kick old habits. Personally, I just look better toned and wanted to be really pleased with the way i looked in photos. I have a tendency to pick myself apart in photos more than I do in real life.
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone really “needs” to lose weight for their wedding day to feel their best- but for alot of gals losing 5 or 10 lbs makes them feel more confident to be the center of attention. And who doesn’t like feeling confident, right? And I dont think that losing weight to look and feel better makes a bride unhealthy. And depending on teh gowns a bride is wearing, she always wants to look her best, and a gown might look too tight if there is unflattering amount of skin squeezing out the top of the dress, just the same as too much cleavage and that “double boob” look isn’t the most picture perfect look. I think it is just each individual girls opinion as to how they want to look, be seen, and be photographed that day. Some want to be themselves, and others want to remmeber being the healthiest they could be when they look at their pictures years from now
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
Hi! I think I know whose blog post you’re talking about. No worries, I don’t feel bad about the post – the reason being that I see that *you* aren’t changing your vision because of it! What I was trying to get across was that many girls, whether tall or short, curvy or slim, can have their own perceived “insecurity” areas. For me, one of those areas is my back – so I’m chose a cathedral veil because it made me feel more confident (and it looked pretty good at the store too!). But just because that makes me feel more confident, personally, doesn’t mean that it’s the only correct solution out there. I definitely agree that there’s a lot of pressure for brides to be this perfect version of themselves, and different people deal with that pressure in different ways! No hard feelings, I hope 🙂
Post # 6
I in no way was offended by your post or wanted to make you feel bad for writing it. 🙂 I just hate seeing girls on here who feel like they have to lose weight for the wedding no matter what. It broke my heart to see one girl on the boards say that she did not feel like a bride because she did not lose the weight she intended to. I understand that we all have insecurities because I have my own, but I do wish that brides didn’t feel so much pressure to look a certain way for their weddings!
Post # 7
I think that women do this to themselves for all kinds of events… and our own weddings are just the biggest! Think about it… every time you plan a vacation, accept an invite to be a bridesmaid, or have a big party to go to… don’t you worry about how you look? I think that any time we KNOW there will be lots of photos of us we worry. Well, at our wedding there will be more photos than any other day in our lives! So we put all the pressure on ourselves to look the best we can look because there is some kind of idea that we’ll never look better than on our wedding day.
Personally, I’ve been losing and gaining weight since I was about 12. Right now I am overweight and I could really stand to lose about 50 pounds. The wedding is a great motivating factor for that.