(Closed) The Buzz: Post-Wedding Depression

posted 5 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@Mrs. Mouse:  No, I just had to find a new hobby to occupy my time!

Post # 4
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

I did not have post wedding depression.


But, I think a couple of factors contributed to this:


1) There is a LOT going on at my job (that I absolutely love, btw) so that has kept me quite busy!  I went to Chicago on business in mid October.


2) My BFF is getting married in May, so I sometimes help her plan and talk weddings with her.


3) My DH and I had bought a house right before the wedding, so thats also been keeping me kind of busy! And it’s exciting.


4) My Darling Husband and I don’t live together yet (long story, job things) so I think as more time passes and we get closer to January (when we will live together FINALLY!!!!) I get excited and look forward to that. So I am ok with time passing!

Also, wedding money stuff was a tiny bit stressful, and I am very much looking forward to building up our savings again! Darling Husband and I are big on saving (not that we don’t also spend, but well within our means) so I guess in that way, although the wedding was SO AWESOME, I am glad to get the money matters back to normal haha.

Post # 5
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yup, I definitely had the post-wedding blues. I wouldn’t say that it was severe, but it was more like a “That’s it? It’s all over?” kind of blues. It also doesn’t help that it’s my DH’s busy season this month so I’ve had to pick up on extra housework and other tasks around the house. Our ceiling drywall came down due to a leak in the apartment above us that happened a few months ago so I’ve been dealing with contractors to get that fixed all by myself. Yeah. :/

Honestly, the only way to overcome it is to have something else to look forward to or set a new goal – whether it be moving, a new job, a new project at your job, working out at the gym, or even a new hobby. I started reading more and will be participating in a monthly book club discussion.

I am also looking forward to getting Darling Husband back in January…

Post # 6
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Did you have Post-Wedding Depression? How long did it persist? How did you overcome it?

I did not have any post-wedding depression.  I was very excited and relieved when it was over because the planning and stress were a lot to undertake, and I was happy to be regaining a sense of normalcy in my life after our 14 month engagement.  There are times where I feel bored, but then I remember how much I yeared for bordom during the months leading up to the wedding that I quickly change my tune and relish in the boredom.  So no, I did not have post wedding blues. Smile

Post # 7
4035 posts
Honey bee

@Mrs. Mouse: No, but my new hobby is house hunting and planning our next big adventure/vacation. 

Post # 8
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I wasn’t depressed, exactly, just felt kind of strange! It was weird not to have something to plan and a big event to look forward to and count down to. I got over it when my husband reminded me that most people during most of their lives don’t have a big event in the near future, and that we need to enjoy the every day. So now we do, and I feel better 🙂

I did have the photography blues though, and I definitely still do! But that’s another story…

Post # 9
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

No time to be depressed, two days after my wedding my house flooded.  I ended up spending the next two and a half months remodeling the downstairs entry way, living room, dining room and kitchen.

Post # 10
3765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I wasn’t depressed, just a little bored. I had to figure out what to do with myself and my now free weekends. It was a good problem to have, though!!

Post # 11
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I did not have post-wedding depression. However, I think I had pre-wedding depression. There were many parts of our engagement that I did not enjoy, mainly due to managing all of the personalities in our lives, and I got stressed to the point of getting very very sick less than two weeks before the wedding. I could not wait to be married to Mr. HC and past all the craziness. I was so relieved after the fact and so happy to be married that it alleviated the stress and depression I was feeling beforehand.

Post # 12
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I missed the planning, a lot. So I jumped into planning other parties we have as a couple, it helped me get out of the post wedding blues. 

I wrote a post a few years ago on helping to overcome post wedding blue, hope it helps someone:

Is your wedding over? Do you miss planning? I have an idea!

Post # 13
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Mrs. Mouse:  Haha nope! I was so glad it was over and so glad I was married to my handsome man! We weren’t intimate until the wedding night and didn’t live together before getting hitched, so there was a lot of really fun stuff (and still is!)

I’m curious now… is post-wedding depression linked to living together/having sex pre-maritally? As in, when people get married but feel like nothing really changed? Hmmm… spin-off poll 🙂

Post # 14
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@Mrs. Mouse:  I had serious post-wedding blues. It was awful and so confusing. Here was supposed to be the time when I was filled with wedded bliss and I felt down, tired, and sad. I went from having every moment of my life be about the wedding, details surrounding the wedding, meetings with vendors and of course being surrounded by family to quiet. It was jolting to say the least.

I quickly threw myself back into hobbies that I had ignored during the planning process. I started accepting invitations to play on several volleyball leagues; some several hours away. I also agreed to coach several teams at one time with many days during the week devoted to after work practices. In other words I was SO BUSY! About two months into my overzealous approach to feeling better I was burnt out, exhausted and regretting my decisions. As the committments began to end I found myself at peace with peace (and quiet).

My blues probably lasted about 3 months or so through the summer months. Once Fall rolled around and my normal committment schedule came into play I found pleasure in the normalcy and routine of it all. I was busy, of course, but not ridiculously so. I am not one to sit around and do nothing but I had to realize that a little down time wasn’t the end of the world.

Post # 15
2748 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I had some slight post-wedding depression, more like blues. Even though the day was a dream and beautiful, I started second-guessing everything after the fact. Talk about an exercise in futility. Also, I wasn’t thrilled with our photographs, but it was because of how I looked, not the quality or anything. That’s more related to my self-esteem than to the wedding being over, though.

Happily, it wasn’t strong nor did it last long. I was so happy to be married to my best friend, and we reveled in our joy. Also, I started my first semester back in school 6 weeks after, which really focused my energies on something else. As for my disappointment in the photos, I’ve used the feeling to motivate myself to get into better shape. Win-win all around!

Post # 16
3296 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

I had a bit of the blues, so I took on a couple of projects and it got better 🙂

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