(Closed) The Buzz: What length of time did you date before getting engaged, and…

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

About 6-7 months of dating we moved in togteher, he proposed 2-3 months after that so 10 months I guess from first date to proposal.   We had a year long engagement so when we got married we had been together for almost two years.  It worked great for us, we both knew very early on that we would get married and we were a bit older (late 20s for me, he was 30) so we knew what we wanted in life and were well-settled in our careers as well. 

Post # 18
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

We’ve been “engaged” i.e. planning to get married for a very long time now, but it was about 2.5 years before we went ahead and picked the ring together and he bought it. I think that this amount of time suits us.. we aren’t rushing anything but it isn’t exactly a LONG time either.

Post # 19
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I truly believe that engagements and marraiges have absolutely nothing to do with time. Whether its 5 months or 5 years, you should do it when you are sure and when it feels right. I know people who got married in a month and have the most amazing relationships for 10+ years, and I know people who have been engaged/married for 5+ years and their relationships are hell on wheels. I think it has more to do with your experience dating people and defining and refining what you want from a mate a selecting him/her with care. With that said, I have no time suggestion that is the “right” time to get engaged.

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We dated for 6 years before getting engaged. We will be together for 7 years and 8 months when we tie the knot.

Post # 21
Bee
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

We dated for about 10 months before he proposed. We had been dating for a little under 2 years when we got married, and now we’ve been married for almost a year. We both knew we wanted to marry each other from very early on – we’d been out on the dating scene for a long time and had enough sour relationships to know what we were both looking for. I truly belive that when you know, you know!

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2009

From first date to engagement to marriage was 8 months. That was 5 incredible years ago <3 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

We dated 7 months before we got engaged, had been together 9 months when we got married.

Post # 24
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We dated for a little over four years before getting engaged, and will have been together for six years when we get married. 

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We dated for 3 years and 2 months before getting engaged.  It was longer than I had hoped, considering we had been living together for 2 years and 6 months of that time, but it was what my fiance needed to feel secure financially and personally.  We had a pretty short engagement after that, though, and were married within 11 months.

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

We moved in together after a little under 1 year of dating (a little soon IMO, but we were both graduating from college and needed to move out of the college town back to our home area in DFW). He proposed a little over 2 1/2 years of being together, and we got married a little before our 3 1/2 year mark (which is this Thursday! I wonder if we should do anything special? It’ll also mark our 2 month wedding anniversary, hah)

I don’t really think we saw ourselves being ready because of the length of time we were dating, but rather how long we were living together. There are a lot of people who date for a long time while living separately, but just cannot successfully cohabitate after marriage and it’s sad to watch. That’s a big big test, since at that point you are “practically” married once you fall into a home routine for a significant amount of time. 

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We dated for just over 6 years and I wouldn’t say it was perfect – it was too long!  Lol

I kid, it was about right.  In the end it felt too long because in April we set a timeline of getting engaged by September but then it didn’t happen until the end of December.  Those were 3 loooong months!  

Six years sounds like a lot to others, but we met in university and got married in out late 20s, around the same time most of our friends were getting married.  It just felt like time to move to the next stage.

Post # 28
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We dated almost 5 years. It was a little too long there by the end, but it worked out because we were able to afford a house around the time we got engaged. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We dated for three years, but lived together for half of that, which is why I would say that period of time was perfect. Living together can provide a lot of opportunity for great things and for stressful things, and we’ve managed to pull through all of them, so we felt very confident 3 years in.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We were together 5 years when we got engaged. It was the perfect time because we met in high school and needed that time to mature and graduate from college.

Post # 31
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703 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

we dated for 7.5 years before becoming engaged. this was mainly because we both wanted to graduate and find solid jobs so that when we were planning a wedding, we would have the finances to do so. this worked out perfectly because he is working in a job he loves, i’m finally about to finish grad school, we are planning a wedding and getting ready to buy a house! woohoo!

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